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atracted to strippers,and out of bad relationship
hello ladies and gentlemen, i'm not new to the site but new to this forum,and what i would like to know is if your in a relationship with a stripper,how do you put away feeling for her after the relationship has gone sour,plus i used to be a guy that could dress up like the male dancer with bow tie and black pants and serve drinks and used to be a bodyguard for a performer.i know you shouldn't get involved but would like to know if feelings are mutual between two consenting adults how to "ahem" handle the relationship in public,private and club wise. not a creep just a nice guy who finishes last.;D :-[ ::) ;)
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Re: atracted to strippers,and out of bad relationship
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Originally Posted by RionMaddogz
...what i would like to know is if your in a relationship with a stripper,how do you put away feeling for her after the relationship has gone sour...
Um... the same way you would with anyone else. ::)
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I agree Yek as we are women first and foremost ... our profession / employment doesn't make us any different to other women.
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If you are in love with someone just because she's a stripper, you are in love for the wrong reason and should reserve "dating" behavior to buying dances in the club. Because that's the only place a stripper is a stripper.
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Gah. Questions like this always make me feel like strippers are viewed like a whole other life form. Like they're asking, "Gee if I fell in love/had feelings for/wanted to ask out a gleefendorf from planet Zeldar what should I do?"
It's like they think we have an extra vagina or something equally magical...
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here we go again :banghead:
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Originally Posted by Sirona
It's like they think we have an extra vagina or something equally magical...
Wait... you mean the rest of you don't?
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Originally Posted by Sirona
Gah. Questions like this always make me feel like strippers are viewed like a whole other life form. Like they're asking, "Gee if I fell in love/had feelings for/wanted to ask out a gleefendorf from planet Zeldar what should I do?"
It's like they think we have an extra vagina or something equally magical...
Viewed like a whole other life form? Yep. There's an entirely different set of rules there.
Extra vaginas? I wouldn't think of that as magical, though I've heard of it.
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Originally Posted by maximvsv
Viewed like a whole other life form? Yep. There's an entirely different set of rules there.
How so? Elaborate please.
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Get stripper off pedestal.
Welcome to SW.
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Re: atracted to strippers,and out of bad relationship
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Originally Posted by Sirona
How so? Elaborate please.
Trying to put it all in writing is taking too many pages of material for the forum console. I'll have to re-write it an post it in parts.
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You might not be a nice guy who finishes last. But the "Strippers" you seem to fetishize just might be on to your bullshit instead.
I mean really. Just the fact you have to ask how to put away feelings for a stripper? Put almost everything in the context of that?
How do you put away your feelings for a chef, commodities trader, makeup artist, lawyer, diner waitress or any other job? Like Yekhefah said...plus Emily's comment was quite appropriate too.
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what i would like to know is if your in a relationship with a stripper,how do you put away feeling for her after the relationship has gone sour
Thanks. Thanks for making us look like collective asses. Men that treat strippers different than the chick that serves your dinner or does your taxes embody exactly what women of any occupation despise.
We're all PLs sometimes--it's a recreational hazard, as I often say--but there's just no excuse for this kind of cluelessness.
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Originally Posted by maximvsv
Trying to put it all in writing is taking too many pages of material for the forum console. I'll have to re-write it an post it in parts.
Oh, boy, I can't wait to see THIS! *goes to snag popcorn from Deogol in the current SG "female customer" thread*
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if i had two vaginas do you think i could charge double for my lapdances?
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No, but you could probably climb walls a lot better.
Perhaps perfect your "Dunking" skills.
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How to get over heartbreak after losing your stripper girlfriend:
Drink a lot of alcohol.
Go to strip clubs and buy a lot of dances and VIPs.
You should feel a lot better in a year or two.
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[QUOTE=Sirona]Gah. Questions like this always make me feel like strippers are viewed like a whole other life form. Like they're asking, "Gee if I fell in love/had feelings for/wanted to ask out a gleefendorf from planet Zeldar what should I do?"
It's like they think we have an extra vagina or something equally magical...[/QUOTE
Extra vaginas! LMAO......twice the fun ! Twice the hormones?
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Shouldn't this be on the blue side?
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Originally Posted by
Sirona
How so? Elaborate please.
So, it's time to get back to that "different lifeform" comment.
There are so many aspects of this, that it's been daunting to even try writing it down. It turns into a tome or two on sociology pretty quickly on. What I'll try, instead, is to just post conclusions, and anyone interested can make or request supplemental expositions.
The first thing to keep in mind is that you typically first meet a stripper at a club. At least, that's where you will recognize someone in that business, because there's nothing to say that the person standing next to you in the line for the automated postage gadget at the post office is or isn't a stripper. Anyhow, you start off being in the presence of someone who is already involved in a job that has social stigma and misunderstanding attached to it. So, you're already dealing with someone whose social rules aren't going to be predictable, and you have to pay attention to everything to see whether something is really important or part of the dancer's professional persona or actually doesn't matter at all.
Next, you're already in an environment that has competitive aspects that don't exist anywhere else. Like koalas being stuck with a limited diet of eucalyptus, you're dealing with someone who uses social interaction as the direct source of her income, so that requires a whole different set of rules and vocabulary, just to know what is an element of genuine interest and what is just part of the introduction for professional activity.
In addition, you are already in an environment, addressing someone who is alternately propositioned, insulted, ignored, disrespected, or made the subject of some stalker's fawning awe with astounding frequency. A dancer has a whole different set of social reflexes, in addition to a tendency to mask her moods and fabricate reactions for her professional purposes.
The next relevant part of the environment is the physical characteristics of the encounter. Even with bouncers and friends around, someone who is, essentially, naked has a degree of paranoia and anxiety imposed by the perception of vulnerability that not having some sort of protective covering or barrier between the dancer and the customers or a specific customer. Even if it is not a conscious element, there is always some degree of tension in the interactions between dancers and customers.
Dancers rely on physical appearance for business purposes, but at the same time, they are constantly receiving observations, some genuine, some insincere, some irrational, some with ulterior motives, about their appearances. This sort of concern can show up in dietary choices, a tendency to get into arguments, approval-seeking, abject hostitily to such statements, and a variety of other responses. All of which do not apply in that same way to women in other employment.
Most dancers are young, and if they make an extraordinary income from that job, it damages their income expectations with regard to other forms of employment. The availability of that sort of income at the age of nineteen or even twenty-two can derail what would be the normal development of an understanding investment and return that having an entry-lvel job at Kinkos or some restaurant would instill. As a result, their social and economic priorities are different, and in any attempt to relate, you have to figure out on a case by case basis what that priority schedule is.
In the end, it's the difference between panthers and cheetahs, tortoises and turtles. Different appearance. Different relexes. Different priorities. Different instincts. Different environments. It really is a different life cycle.
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Originally Posted by
maximvsv
So, it's time to get back to that "different lifeform" comment.
There are so many aspects of this, that it's been daunting to even try writing it down. It turns into a tome or two on sociology pretty quickly on. What I'll try, instead, is to just post conclusions, and anyone interested can make or request supplemental expositions.
The first thing to keep in mind is that you typically first meet a stripper at a club. At least, that's where you will recognize someone in that business, because there's nothing to say that the person standing next to you in the line for the automated postage gadget at the post office is or isn't a stripper. Anyhow, you start off being in the presence of someone who is already involved in a job that has social stigma and misunderstanding attached to it. So, you're already dealing with someone whose social rules aren't going to be predictable, and you have to pay attention to everything to see whether something is really important or part of the dancer's professional persona or actually doesn't matter at all.
Next, you're already in an environment that has competitive aspects that don't exist anywhere else. Like koalas being stuck with a limited diet of eucalyptus, you're dealing with someone who uses social interaction as the direct source of her income, so that requires a whole different set of rules and vocabulary, just to know what is an element of genuine interest and what is just part of the introduction for professional activity.
In addition, you are already in an environment, addressing someone who is alternately propositioned, insulted, ignored, disrespected, or made the subject of some stalker's fawning awe with astounding frequency. A dancer has a whole different set of social reflexes, in addition to a tendency to mask her moods and fabricate reactions for her professional purposes.
The next relevant part of the environment is the physical characteristics of the encounter. Even with bouncers and friends around, someone who is, essentially, naked has a degree of paranoia and anxiety imposed by the perception of vulnerability that not having some sort of protective covering or barrier between the dancer and the customers or a specific customer. Even if it is not a conscious element, there is always some degree of tension in the interactions between dancers and customers.
Dancers rely on physical appearance for business purposes, but at the same time, they are constantly receiving observations, some genuine, some insincere, some irrational, some with ulterior motives, about their appearances. This sort of concern can show up in dietary choices, a tendency to get into arguments, approval-seeking, abject hostitily to such statements, and a variety of other responses. All of which do not apply in that same way to women in other employment.
Most dancers are young, and if they make an extraordinary income from that job, it damages their income expectations with regard to other forms of employment. The availability of that sort of income at the age of nineteen or even twenty-two can derail what would be the normal development of an understanding investment and return that having an entry-lvel job at Kinkos or some restaurant would instill. As a result, their social and economic priorities are different, and in any attempt to relate, you have to figure out on a case by case basis what that priority schedule is.
In the end, it's the difference between panthers and cheetahs, tortoises and turtles. Different appearance. Different relexes. Different priorities. Different instincts. Different environments. It really is a different life cycle.
Come one come all, welcome to Stereotypical Dancer Land. ::)
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Re: atracted to strippers,and out of bad relationship
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Originally Posted by
maximvsv
in addition to a tendency to mask her moods and fabricate reactions for her professional purposes.
well maximvsv I would argue that most people do this in their professional life. We can't all express what we are really feeling at work no matter what the profession.
This sort of concern can show up in dietary choices, a tendency to get into arguments, approval-seeking, abject hostitily to such statements, and a variety of other responses. All of which do not apply in that same way to women in other employment.
Now this is just complete and utter BS!!
What women don't get into arguments, what human beings don't seek approval and dietary choices PLEASE.
You have thought way too long and hard about this.