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no boyfriends/husbands allowed at club
hi there
this is probably a dumb question but in the house rules at the place i just started dancing one of the rules is no boyfriends/husbands allowed in the club while you're working. is this standard? i mean i can imagine the reason for it but i just thought it was kinda funny that it was an actual rule. it said that if your guy comes to pick u up he has to wait in the foyer.
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Most every place I know of have this as a policy. Of course I know many dancers and their SO's who try to sneak around it.
In general clubs want to avoid potential problems of an SO getting jealous or over protective.
Also, if an SO is sitting around incognito as a customer and then the dancer goes home with him, it could give the impression the the club allows dancers to solicite and leave with customers in general.
Another thing to keep in mind is customers are sometimes more observant than you think. There could also be a situation where a jealous customer tries to do something to a dancer's SO.
I've been in places where a dancer will show up and her SO will just go sit quietly in a dark corner nursing a beer. Every now and then she'll pop over and hand him some of her tips for safe keeping. Once some customers realize a dancer' SO is around, it can hurt her hustle as some will just find it uncomfortable being with that particular dancer while her SO is watching.
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It is standard everywhere I have been.
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Very standard... although I've seen some cases where girls didn't tell their boyfriends what they did and found out at the club what their g/f REALLY did for a living. Led to some pretty interesting moments...
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Lol- that sounds funny Rockette..what are some of the things that have happened?
My club doesn't have that policy (would be hard to enforce with the amount of dancers dating the staff). When mine came in once, I asked him not to come back for a while...it was waaaayyy to distracting to work with him there. He enjoyed himself though.
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Sorry to thread hijack to the OP!
One girl was nearly dragged out of the club by her roided out boyfriend, and he had to be held down by two bouncers before a third one helped get rid of him. This guy was huge too, probably slightly larger than our bouncers currently (all are about 6'3"-6'5").
The last time something like this happened was completely the opposite, the guy actually ran out of the club and cried in his car for awhile. I felt bad at the time, but I really shouldn't have. He just couldn't come to terms with his g/f actually being a stripper. Guess it hits some guys harder than others.
I have stayed out of the drama at work... for now anyways.
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They dont allow bf's or husbands at all where I work. They have to wait outside and tell the valet theyre there.
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i got canned from a club for my bf being there. that tells you something.
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My boyfriend wants to come in, sit in the back, and watch me work, which I find mildly creepy. I told him not during my first week. :P
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Pretty much standard. My hubby has come in now and then with a friend, usually stays at the bar and then leaves....but even then, I'm not crazy about him coming in. Not because I don't want him to see me work, but because I want to hug, kiss and be with him...it winds up distracting me.
I actually think it is a good rule for clubs to enforce, for so many reasons. If I worked as a secretary, I wouldn't have my hubby come "hang out" with me at work.
Verfolgung (damn that was hard to type right) pin points it exactly.
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Standard here too. My DH (who wasn't my husband at the time) came in once with his best friend since no one knew they were my friends. He is the least jealous person on earth and it was fun for all of us for them to get to see that side of my life. :) I wouldn't reccomend it though. It;s easier to just buy a pole and perform in your livingroom, lol.
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Originally Posted by verfolgung
Most every place I know of have this as a policy. Of course I know many dancers and their SO's who try to sneak around it.
In general clubs want to avoid potential problems of an SO getting jealous or over protective.
Also, if an SO is sitting around incognito as a customer and then the dancer goes home with him, it could give the impression the the club allows dancers to solicite and leave with customers in general.
Another thing to keep in mind is customers are sometimes more observant than you think. There could also be a situation where a jealous customer tries to do something to a dancer's SO.
I've been in places where a dancer will show up and her SO will just go sit quietly in a dark corner nursing a beer. Every now and then she'll pop over and hand him some of her tips for safe keeping. Once some customers realize a dancer' SO is around, it can hurt her hustle as some will just find it uncomfortable being with that particular dancer while her SO is watching.
All wonderful points. The ones I was going to point out and a few more. All the ones I've been in have had this rule as well.
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I've never dated strip club types so it's never been an issue for me. I can't imagine my husband even wanting to go in there, and especially not when I'm working.
I've seen plenty of drama when other girls have had their boyfriends, girlfriends, etc. come in the club "just to hang out." It never ends well in my observation.
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my bf comes into the club....but i usually make less money if he's there cuz I slack off.
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I cant work as good if my DH is there. I dont know why but i just cant. Im kinda glad they have rules like that. keeps the drama away u know?
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Originally Posted by Fancey
I cant work as good if my DH is there. I dont know why but i just cant. Im kinda glad they have rules like that. keeps the drama away u know?
So you must dance in the American League vs the National League right? :jester:
Sorry for hijaking the thread. I had actually never seen this term before, so I googled it and came up with Domestic Housemate. Is this correct? Curious if you don't mind me asking, is this like a common law marriage or somewhere between being more than a bf but not yet a fiance or a husband?
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Hmm I was told it meant 'dear husband'.
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They dont have this rule in my club. In fact when i first got with my SO i told him i was a stripper and also said if he couldnt deal with that i wasnt about to give it up for him. I made him come in and watch me for a shift and at the end of it i asked him how he felt and he said "You are so sexy up there on stage and all these guys want you home and i am the lucky one that DOES get to take you home, i totally trust you, this is just a job and i can see that..." After that i was like "ok your a keeper".
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Originally Posted by verfolgung
So you must dance in the American League vs the National League right? :jester:
Sorry for hijaking the thread. I had actually never seen this term before, so I googled it and came up with Domestic Housemate. Is this correct?
PleasureVictim's right, it's "dear husband." There's a whole set of terms... dear daughter, dear son, etc...
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It's a military term, usually.
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My fiance used to come see me at my old club and I never had any problems. He would come with his friends sometimes and buy them dances and stuff. I had a birthday party at the club one year and he came with a bunch of his friends and they covered my stage in money.
I usually ignore him and go about my business with other customers. He tips me on stage and then goes back to his seat. I know my situation is probably the exception to the rule but sometimes having your boyfriend in the club isn't so bad.
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Originally Posted by verfolgung
So you must dance in the American League vs the National League right? :jester:
Sorry for hijaking the thread. I had actually never seen this term before, so I googled it and came up with Domestic Housemate. Is this correct? Curious if you don't mind me asking, is this like a common law marriage or somewhere between being more than a bf but not yet a fiance or a husband?
Its alrite. DH = Dear Husband. We are married.