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Keeping regulars...
A woman i know said she used this trick for keeping regulars... i'm wondering if it's a good idea or not.
She would get a guy to like her and if he asked to see her outside the club, she'd say, "I can't go out with you yet, I've only known you (amount of time)." She would mislead them into thinking if they kept coming back, that she would eventually agree to see them.
Is that a bad idea?
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Re: Keeping regulars...
if by "keeping regulars", you mean "keeping regulars a little longer", then yeah, agree to meet them OTC if only they spend more money ITC.
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Re: Keeping regulars...
Eh...I've done that a couple times (stringing a custy along with a promise of an OTC outing). I don't feel bad about it, I just think of it as fulfilling the fantasy they're paying for (having hot women take interest in him). Gotta be careful about the kind of guy you do this to...he could end up really peeved once he figures out its never going to happen and you knew it the whole time. Stalkers have to start somewhere...
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Ah, the good old "date the dancer" syndrome. Probably 90% of all guys who walk into a strip venue have a private fantasy that this is what's going to happen to them. It's one of the main motivating factors for buying PD's - you get to chat to the girl in more private circumstances and might (just might) get her phone number.
As to whether a case of "date the dancer" syndrome can be converted into a repeat business - depends on the degree to which the guy buys into a dancer's "stripper personality". If he believes it's for real, he's likely to come back for more. If he can see it's an act, he's far less likely to suffer from the syndrome.
As to whether the guy'll get peeved - depends of the degree of misrepresentation as to the chance of an OTC meeting. If he's spend mega $$$'s over a long period and got nowhere, he understandably going not to be a happy bunny. If he's only come back once or twice and not got his fingers burned, he's more likely to smile.
If you look at how to get repeat dances on a slightly different basis, it comes down to the average guy feeling he's liked by a dancer. Being called by name, flirted with, and chatted to with genuine interest give a much better feeling than "wanna dance".
Ok, if I'm being realistic as a bloke, then I'm just $20 to you, and you'll most likely forget me as soon as you move on to your next customer, but at last be friendly enough to leave my illusions intact. Just like the average dancer likes to be treated with a bit of respect by her customers, so us custy's want to think you've liked us as a person.
Regulars will come back, be it for the bait of an OTC meeting, or the thought of the dancer being attracted to them if they buy into the illusion that the dancers motivation is not just $20.
Phil.
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yea, you cant keep a regular for more than the "shelf life". when you tell them you arent comfortable (yet) and you need them to respect that etc. you are only prolonging it. all regulars have a shelf life. when it comes down to it, you are having an emotional mini-relationship with a custy ITC and eventually will have to end it before it goes OTC or meet them otc and prolong it slithgly more. but once you meet them otc it's done itc so why bother!
beyond that, unless the custy "gets it" you can't keep them beyond their short shelf life.
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I always would say, "anything in life is a possibility" They could take that however they wanted. Most would take that to mean hey, maybe I got a shot..
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i'm starting to hate having regulars. they are more needy than my kid!
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I guess that all depends on how long you want to keep your regulars. If by "keep" you mean hold on to them for a few more weeks until they figure out what's happening and then leave you, well yes, the string along the OTC move would work fine. But it will get weird and messy in the end.
I've asked a few dancers over the years if they wanted to spend time together OTC and I've spent time with some, had others tell me "no," and had a few try to do the string along. The best results for both parties were, in order:
- those cases where we both actually sincerely did enjoy each other enough to spend OTC time;
- those cases where I was told "no" up front;
- those cases where the dancer sincerely pretended to enjoy herself during our OTC time;
- the string along.
Essentially, what I'm saying is that if I like a dancer enough to ask the OTC question but the answer is no for whatever reason, I'm still not going to walk away as a custy. Whereas the string along simply results in a total loss of interest in someone because they can't be honest enough with the situation.
Oddly enough, this is the exact same scenario (only reversed) as the "maybe later" threads.