No, i already met you here!
WHat do you do when a guy keeps insiting you go out with him?
I usuaully say, "oh well i dont mix business with dating" or "sorry i dont date people who ive met here".
this one guy yesterday leaned over and kept talking to me when i was on stage.(at our club, there can be 3-4 girls on stage. we can stay on there as long as we want, and we just wait a guy to come up so we can start dancing for him. weird i know..) anyways, he kept talking to me, trying to ask me to go have coffee with him. i kept telling him "sorry , i dont date guys outside the club. if i met them at the club, i cant. its biusiness,etc etc."
and he kept going , "yeah it sucks we met like this. how about we try to meet outside the club? outside this enviroment?" i was getting annoyed, i was like "no sorry, i already met you HERE. you cant change that." and he kept going on and on about how we "could" change that. he was wasting my time, bugging me, while another guy could have came by me and started tipping me. he was cramping my style!
whats a good way to turn a guy down? its so hard because u want them to spend $$$ on u too. but i guess most guys who just want to "take me out to dinner" dont spend that much anyways - right?
hmm.what to say/do? THANKS!
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^Those guys don't spend money on you. If you're not getting money out of him while dealing with the bullshit, just walk away. Usually, telling them to come into the club for a while to see you before you'll trust them enough to meet them outside makes them jump back like they've touched a hot stove. (Because they know it's a hustle line)
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Those guys are so hard to get to buy dances. I try the "Since we met here we should at least get to know each other with our time now." If they dont bite that then Im off onto someone else who is there to buy dances.
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oh i fucking hate that... don't waste my time thinking you're gonna get laid...
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Originally Posted by
Windy
Whats a good way to turn a guy down? its so hard because u want them to spend $$$ on u too. but i guess most guys who just want to "take me out to dinner" dont spend that much anyways - right?
Right. The guy has no clue about how the club works, doesn't buy dances from you, and to make it worse, is actually interfering with your money.
At this point, he's a complete and total loss. So you just need to get rid of him.
"I have this great boyfriend who might actually get picked up in the NFL draft, I'm so excited for him! But he sometimes drops by the club to say hi, so maybe you shouldn't talk so loud about this 'dating' thing."
There are more subtle ways, but this little gem deserves the direct approach.
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if subtle hints dont work and effective fuck off always does.
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Just pretend he's not there and if that doesn't work, look him dead in the eye with the death look and tell him flat out to "GO AWAY!!! What part of NO do you not understand, leave me alone or I'll have you kicked out". It's that simple. I know when you first start, it's hard to be mean like that, you're afraid it's going to hurt your money but you soon realize that the longer he lingers around you, the more it's hurting your money because he's preventing other customers from coming up to you. When I have annoying, non spending customers up at the stage trying to talk to me and waste my time, I turn around and face the crowd behind me and totally ignore him. Doing that will/should make him feel like an idiot.
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Tell him you are married or that you have a serious live-in relationship.
I always wonder if I'm just a really big bitch, because I don't get guys harassing me like that. You ladies are always talking about guys wanting to take you OTC or wanting your number, etc. Hell, I never even tell my real name.
For me it's businessand nothing more. I don't indulge them in anything further than the dances they want and the money they are going to spend. I don't come right out and say anything rude, so maybe it's just the attitude I put off. Or maybe it's something that comes with age, I dunno.
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I would have told him to fuck right off. Never put up with this type of shit. if a customer isnt spending and is stopping you from making money aswell as being a nuisense piss them off asap! You dont have to be nice - he obviously wasnt.
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"Even if I did meet you outside the club I still wouldn't be interested!!!"
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KamrynAnne
oh i fucking hate that... don't waste my time thinking you're gonna get laid...
Yep because it is not going to happen.
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tghanks guys! i guess i was jus being too nice, thinkin he stiull mite spend $ on me.
thanks for the comebacks and ideas!
and tart - haha i always wanted to say fuck off to a rude customer.but never got a chance! i shud! it mite feel good ;)
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I always just say "Sure". Then I add that I charge $200 for a dinner date for one hour. Then I say that If he would Like an additional hour of time it will run $175 for each additional hour. Then I ask for the sale}:D . That usually shuts them up.
* as a side note, even if the guy is a cop, charging for a "dinner companion fee" isn't illegal.
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:O
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Originally Posted by
Paris
I always just say "Sure". Then I add that I charge $200 for a dinner date for one hour. Then I say that If he would Like an additional hour of time it will run $175 for each additional hour. Then I ask for the sale}:D . That usually shuts them up.
* as a side note, even if the guy is a cop, charging for a "dinner companion fee" isn't illegal.
haha great :)
we have a vip room, and thats 300 an hour. perhaps i can say "i charge 450 an hour for dinner dates." and if they go whoa! i go, "well our we have a vip room which is 300 hundred - way cheaper ;)"
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I always say, "I need to get to know people VERY well before I am ever willing to tell them my name or meet them outside the club, but if you come see me here a lot for a few months, then I'll have a chance to get to know you better."
I have a very few regulars who've become friends, who I've been willing to see outside of work. It's not the norm, and most of the guys who are asking this aren't going to stick around for months and find it out. Once they figure out I'm not going to sleep with them, that whole get-to-know-you-better thing becomes less interesting for most. But occasionally there'll be one who goes, "okay, fair enough", and sticks around by me at the club, and then I make more money off them.