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What do I tell my daughter when she grows up?
When she's old enough to understand and/or think responsibly for herself, I'll tell her that mummy dearest was a stripper. I don't think there's anything to be ashamed of. Everyone's got to do the hard yards once in their life, so stripping is what's helping me get through mine.
My Mum and brother would be disgusted in me what do i tell them or do I hide it?
So would my entire family, so I hide it.
I live and 1hr and a half from the nearest club?
I live about 30mins away from my club and usually work weekend nights so I just take the car. Public transport runs from 5am in Melbourne, but I wouldn't take that risk. Besides, I'd be too dead to be up for that in the morning!
I am a massage therapist day job what if clients found out?
I work multiple jobs too and am currently studying at uni just on the other side of the CBD so the chances of running into someone I know from either place is pretty high. But right now, I'm just focussing on dolling myself up and hoping for the best that no-one recognises me.
My partners family would be filthy on me too as with majority of my friends?
As from last night, I have no partner so no need to worry about that now. Woot! But while I was still with my boy, we hid it from his parents as well since they're just as conservative as mine. I've only told 2 of my closest friends: a really good girlfriend of mine and my ex. No-one else knows because firstly, I know they look down on sex industry workers and secondly, I don't want them to start assuming that I'm made of money because it's far from it.
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"As from last night, I have no partner so no need to worry about that now. "
I am sorry to hear about your boy!
Do you find it hard to hide it from your family at all and dosent it eat you up inside??? I guess it just has to be a risk that you take? Do you think it is tp far an hour and 30mins or is it safe so know one will no me?
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I think you might find that it's not as great as you think. Maybe you could take a little vacation and try it out for a week or so. Then if you still want to do it worry about your friends and family and driving and stuff.
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I am sorry to hear about your boy!
Meh, it was bound to happen sooner than later. I'm just sorry that it had to happen now rather than sooner as it should have.
It is hard to hide it from my family especially since I still live with them. I don't go out often and all of a sudden I'm spending my weekend nights out til late when the club closes, so I tell them I'm out clubbing which technically is a half-truth ha. And then there's the issue with hauling all my stripper gear around as well. It would SUCH a help if my club had lockers (which they do, but the other girls have taken them already) so for now I just hide my stuff in obscure places throughout my bedroom.
An hour and a half is a far enough place so that no-one will know you. But keep in mind that MOST of the strip joints in Melbourne are on King Street, so if you're planning to work at any of the clubs there then you should brace yourself for getting found because the risks are really high in a club that's situated in a place with such high exposure.
I did have qualms about working at first but soon my ever increasing debt took over any insecurities I did have. The thought of my family finding out (especially my mum, who'd be completely devastated if she knew) was the foremost reason that kept me from working. But now, it doesn't eat me up inside as much since I really enjoy what I do. Then there are those days, like Lena said, where you just want to throw the towel in and ask yourself why you even got yourself into the situation in the first place. So before you decide to take the plunge, you have to be REALLY sure that you have what it takes to go through stripping (shit and all) and whether it's worth it to hide it from your loved ones.
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don't sit around wondering - u could do that for 10 years and never get anywhere. just go do it, if u dont like it u don't ever have to go back!
as for what to tell your daughter, i don't see what the issue is why would u ever have to tell her?
im sure lots of women have done this and never told their children.
if u think u want to tell her later on then for sure, tell her but i don't think it's something that ever needs to be told. im sure i dont know every single job that my parents have ever had and the important thing is that they have given me everything that they could give me throughout my life and always provided for me.
i live with my parents and i am studying law - they brag about this to everyone.
i tell them that i work at a bar - which i do in a way but i don't sell drinks lol.
whose benefit are u going to be honest for? i do not feel bad about lying and it does not eat me up because i lie for their benefit not mine. i dont have a problem with what i do but they would, they would probably see it as something that they did wrong so i would never hurt them by telling them.
what people dont know cant hurt them.
you are not a child either so if u do decide to tell them then they have to let u make your decisions.
i have to keep my dancing on the down-low in general because i will be a lawyer in the future and its definately not something that firms look for in a resume.
having said that many lawyers come into the club and they think dancing would have been a smart way to get through uni.
as for living an hour away from the nearest club? why is that even an issue? many people have to travel for work. and as eevee said, its a bonus coz its less likely that u will run into people that u know.
while i totally understand and empathise with you in the concerns that u have about dancing, i think u need to just do it. as i said u never have to go back if u dont like it and if u dont do it u r going to continue to sit around thinking about it forever. one day u might regret not giving it a go. u can come up with 1001 reasons not to do it - i even wrote up a pros and cons of dancing list lol but u wont know until u try.
so hunny come down to centrefold and eevee and i will look after u xoxoxoxoxo
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I am really glad you 2 are hear I love it u are the greatest!!!!!!!! what nights do you both work? do you work on the same nights? If so I think i will have to come down for a chat and so you can give me a lap dance ect so i can see it and how it works how does that sound we need to make it a date!!
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kitty im working this thursday and saturday nights.
yeh for sure come in and we will have a chat and a drink!
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whats your stage name? so i can ask for you if i do end up coming in i will pm you and let you know it will most likley be saturday
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jessica
if u decide to come sat let me know earlier on and ill put u on door list so u get in free.
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cool that would be awesome!!!! Do you think i would look dumb if i came buy myself or should i bring someone for support? I am such a loser lol. I crack myself up I get so nerves and scared
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it's up to u. before i started i went to goldfingers with one of my male friends - i did not want to go alone either hehe. i got a lap dance of a gorgeous dancer called sheree and knew it was something i wanted to do. but if u come by yourself u will be fine.
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I'd say just go do it to try it for a few days and see what it's about and if you really like it. All of the things you mentioned were exactly why I started dancing under a month ago when I have been curious about it for years. After a year days, pay attention to how you feel about the situation and if you even like it, and then you won't have ot be so curious anymore, and if you don't like it or feel really guilty because of what your mom/etc would think or are too scared that the wrong person might find out, then you can stop and at least you will have tried it for a few days and you'll know what it's all about. I really like it and don't want to quit, but if I couldn't handle it, I would happy that at least I was a stripper for a week so the curiousity would be completely gone. Just a thought.
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yeah I am just going to do it so my curiosity dosent eat me up inside I probly wont do it till the new year cause it is just so crazy this time of year!
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I say go out and do it, you'll only young once, and you don't want wonder "what if" when you're older.
I just started a couple weeks ago, and I have to hide it from my parents and friends as well. If my dad found out I think he would disown me. It's not the easiest thing, but I know it's what getting me through school and that makes it all worthwhile. I just tell my family that I'm a bartender and that's why I'm working late nights.
As for the friends thing, I just don't tell them what I do. They know I have a new job but they don't know what or where. I will never forget the night before my audition, we were talking about strip clubs (one of my friends is a bouncer in a different club) and their stereotypical views of strippers, how we are all drugged up, bitchy whores. It definitely hurt to hear the comments, but then again it didn't stop me from audtioning and doing it.
I still work part time at my old job and go to school, and actaully my first night I ran into someone I work with. It's just the easiest to treat them like everyone else and go on with your business. If you freak out, you're just going to draw attention to yourself. You aren't doing anything wrong by dancing, you're just doing a job that you enjoy!