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Leaving money basket, etc. by a customer?
I have this happen all the time where girls will leave their basket or pouch full of money, personal items, etc., by me, and ask me to watch it for her.
I was wondering if you regard this as purely innocent, or kind of marking your territory in a sense?
It's like if I'm sitting there with a girl's stuff beside me, and another girl comes up, the second girl assumes I'm already busy with so and so, when this is not necessarily so. It seems to be an effective way of keeping a customer tied to their seat, and with a particular girl.
Sometimes I don't mind, but other times, I might like to sneak in a dance with another girl while the first girl is busy.
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radar
kind of marking your territory in a sense?
Bingo. :)
Although, I never understand why a gal would trust a customer with her money. I mean, thats about as trusting as you can get, but not particularly smart. I have done it though. One gal once even gave me all her wadded up stage and tip walk money and asked me to uncrinkle and face it for her while she went to the dressing room. I found it weird, but happily obliged.
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radar
It's like if I'm sitting there with a girl's stuff beside me, and another girl comes up, the second girl assumes I'm already busy with so and so, when this is not necessarily so. It seems to be an effective way of keeping a customer tied to their seat, and with a particular girl.
Sometimes I don't mind, but other times, I might like to sneak in a dance with another girl while the first girl is busy.
My ATF used to do this with her dress all the time. The dancer who leaves her belongings may assume (innocently even) she's doing you a favor by marking your table and keeping others from "bothering" you. You pretty much have to tell her you'd like some warm-ups with the other gals while she has you on hold.
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Sounds pretty stupid to me. Damned if I'd leave my money with anybody, much less some random custy!
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Girls at my club do it ALL the time, with their hankerchiefs. We all have our standard booty scarves or what have you. So leaving it on a seat isn't risking anything, and it says "mine. I'm here." Which I think is bullshit and unfair if they're not on stage/ or gone for more than 15-20 min. Let someone else have a chance!
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I'll leave my purse or something with a trusted customer (that I've talked to on prior occasions and is a well-known regular of the club) if I just have to run and do something quickly. I'll just set my stuff down and ask if he'll watch it, go do what I need to do, and come back. I don't leave it there for too long, and I don't leave it to "mark my territory." I just do it out of convenience. It's easier to have someone I trust watch my stuff for a couple minutes than carry it around with me if I'm having a busy moment and have to run around and do something.
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I count/hold my fav's money sometimes especially when she comes right off stage and has to go to the ladies room. Shes concerned about money falling out of her garter going to and from. She leaves this big pile of bills and runs off. Nothing else to do but count and organize it. Lets see ~counting~...a buck from that customer...2 dollars from another guy..a 20 from FBR...a buck from another customer...another 20 from FBR. And so it goes.
FBR
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radar
Sometimes I don't mind, but other times, I might like to sneak in a dance with another girl while the first girl is busy.
Then speak up. Tell her you look forward to her return but you don't want to be tied down to the table while she's gone; therefore, she shouldn't leave her valuables there. That's vague enough that it might mean you're going to the bathroom, to chat with someone else or to get a dance from someone else. If she gets pissy about it, find yourself another dancer who won't.
-Ev
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^^^That's true. Usually before I leave my stuff with a custy, I'll first ask him if he'll be sitting there for a couple minutes. If he would say no, then I wouldn't leave my stuff there.
If a girl just puts her stuff down and leaves, I don't think you have any obligation to watch it. If she asks you if you'll watch it for her, and you don't want to, just tell her that you may not be sitting there for long, or make up some other excuse, or just come right out and tell her that you would rather not. It's not going to hurt her feelings.
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My table is home base for dancer smokes, drinks etc once in a while but its understood that no territorial rights are being granted.
FBR
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i've done that before with good customers to show that someone is already there.. but never with money or anything important.
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Territory.
It's like when a wife tells her husband to hold her purse. It's meant to be controling and emasculating.
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My table is always at least one safe haven for all dancers on the VIP floor (the second floor at my home club). That means I guard purses, count money, watch the clock for rotations and tip the bouncers to lay off the dancers when things get a little crazy. It's also where all the dancers congregate so we can group-tip at stage. But this is an entirely different dynamic from many clubs -- in most cases at my home club, we've all just finished doing shots down the street together before the shift began.
But that's the home club(s). If you are dealing with a single dancer out of town, I can see where leaving a purse or cash with you is absolutely territorial marking. This is going to be unpopular for me to say, but I think you should honor it. Meaning that if you are away from home, you should stick with this girl alone. If a new dancer is trusting you with her purse or her cash, then either she thinks you are probably worth more than whatever she's trusted you with (many dancers can spot Armani and Pencaldi from a few miles away, or they know what you are driving) or on the other end of the spectrum, she is so trashed or high or strung out or vulnerable that you owe it to her to watch out for her and make sure she is safe.
It's in my nature to protect all dancers, so this may be poor or at least biased advice. But I think it will serve you very well in the long run.
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DC proper is a different universe.
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I was thinking too that while it may ward off other dancers, it may also ward off other customers as well.
Guys may think that if you are leaving your stuff with this guy that he may be your boyfriend, significant other, etc., and they may be reluctant to spend any of their cash on you/him. You may be ruining their fantasy that you are available, possibly attracted to him, etc.
I also agree with a previous poster that it is akin to carrying your gf, wife, etc.s, purse while out shopping.
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I've done it before, i've known that customer for a long time though.It is marking your spot.
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I had one dancer do that. She and I talked, then she had to go on stage so she left it with me (really unnerving at first). But she continued to do this throughout the night. I never had a lap dance from her because I was having too much of a great conversation, but nevertheless attempted to pay her for conversation. She declined the offer of money, then thanked me for being such a gentleman. Why would a dancer turn down $$$ and trust someone for that long even though only meeting them that day?
Genuinely curious.
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MrE
Why would a dancer turn down $$$ and trust someone for that long even though only meeting them that day? Genuinely curious.
Intuition/instinct. Seriously. Sometimes I can sense that I can trust someone even though I've just met them. For those who don't believe in a literal sixth sense about these things, chalk it up to the reception and interpretation of subtle physical, verbal, non-verbal and behavioral cues.
Either that or I'm really drunk and simply can't be bothered to give a shit. 8)
-Ev
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Silverback
Territory.
It's like when a wife tells her husband to hold her purse. It's meant to be controling and emasculating.
or it's because she needs someone to hold her purse while she does something.
but, whatever.
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Strippers have had their money stolen doing this. I kept my money within eye distance all the time. Trust no one.
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i have only left my purse with two diff regs and ONLY in VIP when i had to use the bathroom. but i know that neither would go thru my bag or even think about stealing my money. some random dude? no way in hell.
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evan_essence
Intuition/instinct. Seriously. Sometimes I can sense that I can trust someone even though I've just met them. For those who don't believe in a literal sixth sense about these things, chalk it up to the reception and interpretation of subtle physical, verbal, non-verbal and behavioral cues.
Either that or I'm really drunk and simply can't be bothered to give a shit. 8)
-Ev
Also - really, most customers aren't going to steal your shit. Seriously - who here (barring Sandy) would actually either go through and take stuff from dancers or just leave it there for someone else? I mean, yeah, if you do it all the time the odds will catch up with you but you are like 100x more likely to lose your panties if you take your eyes off them for one second than lose your cash.
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This only happens to me in crowded department stores when she's in the changing room.
*Snarf*
It's no big mystery bro, You're trust-able. Don't read too deep into it, and don't look at it as a signal for your next PL crush, cause that's when you'll find out she's leaving it there to mark her territory, and what's the fun in that?