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smothering much?
this would drive me fucking bats!
he has all the hallmarks of someone who wants to control you asap... it starts with moving in... then what you wear... where you go... etc
*shiver*
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Nautilus
he has all the hallmarks of someone who wants to control you asap... it starts with moving in... then what you wear... where you go... etc
*shiver*
That's exactly what I was thinking. I'd be honest and just tell him that you feel as if he's calling you to often.
I once had to tell my S.O. that. She was upset and for a while it seemed like she was doing better about not calling as often. But it was short-lived everytime. I eventually had to leave her alone. She became emotionally and later physically abusive. Control is something I will not tolerate.
If he doesn't change after you've told him how you feel then he will NEVER change!
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people like that HAVE to be "checked"...just bring yourself up to being firm with him and letting him know its bothering you.
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BLAHHHH I HAAATe this type of stuff.. I would say StRaIgHT OuT.... No beating around the bush... "I love communication, but I need my space and I will feel smothered by incessant phone calls. If I say I will call you, please allow me to call you IN MY OWN TIMe." There- pointed and diplomatic. if he doesn't get the point, or other areas of the dating relationship start to look iffy/controlling, get oooout immediately. this could be an obsessive type.
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How annoying and needy? Does he not have other things happening in his life, does he not know you may have other obligations as well? My opinion is that these are all very bad signs, signs that he will be VERY controlling in the future.
If you choose to continue the relationship, I suggest you just tell him that you enjoy the time you spend together, but you have other obligations and that you can't answer the phone if you're busy(busy could mean watching TV, or anything). I've had to do this before, and although it worked, the guy turned out to be, IMHO, mentally imbalanced.
I strongly encourage you to run out and buy "Why Men Love Bitches." Read it, learn it and follow it. It will help you immensely.
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yea, wow... totally thinking he's out for controlling you.. but he definitely reminds me of an ex of mine, and that was partially why he is an ex. he was overly needy and in the end i learned he was highly depressed, transferring his feelings of despair onto me, and calling every five minutes to "check" on me.
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sounds like the beginings of a toxic relationship to me!
my advice: get out now.
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Eww creepy! I couldn't tolerate that for a day. Bucko needs to back waayy the fuck off, or you need to tell him buh-bye! This is serious, be very careful with guys like this.
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Hmmm...I had a guy like this before.
I just said, "Stop fucking calling me so damn much. When I'm done doing what I'm doing, I will call you back. Do you comprehend? Keep calling me like this and you'll find that I not only never call you back, but I will never answer your call, either."
Of course, I said it all sweetly and shit. But, um, yeah...you need to say something. If he gets bent out of shape over this...I would say that you may want to reconsider the reasons you are dating him.
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This is not the same guy with the sponge bob sheets, who climbed out of the window naked after you, is it?! :rotfl:
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Hello!
If this hasn't been addressed already,
Miss Marina,
Tell him exactly what you want to say. "Stop calling me so much sweetheart, I will call you when I get a free second"
And you need to do EXACTLY that, CALL him back. In a reasonable amount of time, even if you aren't free, take a moment and call. And important that in this convo you take time to make plans for a future rendezvous. It could be as simple as "Hey lala, this is taking a bit longer than I thought, so I can't talk long, but I wanted to call you as I said I would. Think of something to do friday, I'm free. I'll call you again as soon as I can talk ok?"
And be diligent about getting off the phone. Then take your time and call him back.
Then, when this insecurity of his peaks up you can say "Hey when I say I'll call you back, you know I'm good for it. I just don't like being hassled! But If I didn't want to talk to you, I wouldn't tell you I'll call you back!"
If he still sports some insecurities, drop him like he's hot.
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VenusGoddess
Of course, I said it all sweetly and shit.
:rotfl: can't understimate the importance of this part... ;D
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Nautilus
smothering much?
this would drive me fucking bats!
he has all the hallmarks of someone who wants to control you asap... it starts with moving in... then what you wear... where you go... etc
*shiver*
This is how my ex was grrr..
But anyways I understand. This guy that I just dumped today(how ironic) was so into me after 1 week!!! I left for vaction for 2 weeks and when I came back he got me a $350 coach purse and myy fave Betsy JOhnson perfume it is like $80 bucks. He was calling me every morning , noon and night when I got back (thank god I was out of the country when I was on Vacation so I couldn't get calls). He wanted to have lunch and dinner and hang out all the time. He was too clingy. I just got out of a realtionship and was not ready for this.
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I explain to those types of people that I have caller ID, I am aware that they called the first time and I will call back when I'm available and that everytime they call it interrupts what I'm doing. I politely tell them that the moer they call and bug me, the less likely I will be to return the call, and I may not be so nice if I do return the call.
One time I returned the favor, I called HIM repeatedly when he was busy and he got the idea.
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short skirts
I explain to those types of people that I have caller ID, I am aware that they called the first time and I will call back when I'm available and that everytime they call it interrupts what I'm doing. I politely tell them that the moer they call and bug me, the less likely I will be to return the call, and I may not be so nice if I do return the call.
One time I returned the favor, I called HIM repeatedly when he was busy and he got the idea.
I'd think sinking to his bad behaviour would only perpetuate the issue, if he is a real cling-bot.
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Wow, you're dead.
If that happens, can I have your mp3 player?
Need one for the gym...;D
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WOOOP
Wow, you're dead.
If that happens, can I have your mp3 player?
Need one for the gym...;D
WTF? did I miss somthin'?
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Ya you missed the part about this guy sounding looney.
I say if she pisses him off, she's gonzo...:O
(Lyssa Lynn even said it best, "this is serious").
Seen this happen to a couple of friends, dancers and non.
Some guys get a lil too whacked, this is a good sign, incessant calling???
How desperate...
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Well i talked to him. at first he got a little mad but its cool now i think..he did text me twice since he couldent call lol..so far its going OK. =)