Work affecting personal life?
I've been doing this for 3yrs now, but only recently have i had this problem(until about a month ago, i worked in a club with no contact, onyl stage dancing). I find that now that I am working in a club with contact (including 2 way in the VIP rooms), I am finding it is impacting my personal love life. I find myself being very cynical about the person I'm being intimate with and my mind almost goes into 'work mode' when they start touching me.
This sucks!
Am I the only one who experiences this? Do any of you have some suggestions on how to deal with this? My guy does not understand (and he normally understands all my bitches about work), and I feel stupid for having this problem :(
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Yea I once worked at a club like that...I changed clubs. I think a better way to handle that kind of club is to set your own boundries. Such as, when they touch you they arent allowed to grab, squeeze, poke, twist, spank, kiss or suck anything on you. They are still touching but not doing anything more than rubbing you. Not sure if you can get away with something like that but it might be worth a try if you want to stay at this club.
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Yea, I have always worked in one way contact clubs. And only when I started dating a serious boyfriend did I notice how the club had changed me, my sex drive, my attitude. I think I would definetly like to start stage dancing only. Like TM said everyone has their own boundries.
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I've had the same problem too. I've told my man that honestly after a long night of dealing with assholes and being stressed out I'm not in the mood to fuck -- and he understands. (I think that if you have the sort of relationship where a guy DOESN'T want to hear that then you're in trouble... although of course the OP seems to not have that issues, thankfully). So when I get home at night I take off my makeup, put on some sweats, hang out, smoke a little and watch a cartoon -- everything opposite to what I do at work and kind of reaffirming myself outside of my stripper personality.
I also went from a no contact club to one with light contact. It's a huge change for me and reading posts from girls here on SW has helped so much. We're not alone! :)
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hmm..ya i sorta know wut u mean. i mean at the end of the shift, im a little mad sometimes by guys tellin me stupid stuff and trying to touch me and all..that i tell my b/f to act extra nice to me when i get off work cuz i jus am sick of assholes!
sometimes i do think its a little weird...i mean sure i flirt with the guys,, show em my pussy and all...(i dont do any contact tho..cept for mmaybe my legs/waist but even that feels weird to me..) and i guess it does feel weird cuz i have a b/f, u know? its like i think 'ugh if he was flirting with sum girl and kinda touching her and her touching him, id be upset.' you know?
what i try to do is jus not think bout ME at work. i try to be strictly my persona the stripper at work. and when i get home, i jus try not to think bout it. what happened or anything. so that its jus a little part of my life that gives me money but nothing else, you know?
goodluck :) i also agree with tigersmilk said...yes jus like touching no squeezi9ng and other stuff. you know? no0thing too perosnal, just the basic touching.