Re: help figuring out custy
i would take full advantage of this situation and TELL HIM TO COME IN AND SPEND MONEY!!!!
you can still be nice and sweet about it too. when you call and ask him when he's coming in next, don't say it like a question... be like "i BETTER see you friday! you BETTER be there... or else!!" but say it kinda jokingly and light-hearted. still, he will love the fact that you are demanding. this guy obviously loves a girl who can boss him around. those kinds of guys are the BEST!!!
Re: help figuring out custy
Yeah I agree, take advantage. Even it's not your normal personality, be bossy! You're there to make money, no? Take his ass in the back and get an hour or two out of him in VIP. And don't feel bad, it is after all, what he wants.
Re: help figuring out custy
Buffie, you're absolutely correct that he wants to be submissive, the question really isn't a matter of how much, but "how".
What your customer really wants is for you to engage in an intricate role playing game with him. There is a fantasy in his head that he wants you to help him realize. Inside the context of that fantasy he wants you to dominate him. But that fantasy has a script of sorts to it with a myriad of details. The key to figure out what those details are. He's already given you a couple of clues with requests for a specific type of footwear, and having you call him when you get home.
The problem is that simply divulging all the details to your face either takes the fun out of this for him (he wants you to be in charge after all). Some of those details also may be somewhat offbeat and embarrassing and he doesn't want you to ostracise him as being a weirdo.
The other problem of course, is that you're not a mind reader. To make this work, you're going to have to get some input from him. So what has to be done here is to give him a chance to divulge those details in an environment where he can do it comfortably without your judgment. Namely, when he is home by himself.
What I suggest you do is next time he's in (or better yet, call him so you can save him a trip) and ask him to write down what he wants you to do to him. A list or some general tidbits will work, but something in the form of a short story might be even better. Next time you see him, collect his submission and take it home with you and read it. Do not read it in front of him. That will give you some info as to what those details are. If you still need more clues, encourage more writings out of him. Encourage him to elaborate as much as possible, even going so far as to write dialogue, or lines that he wants you to say, possibly verbatim. You do not have to follow his script word for word. In fact, its best if you just took some elements of it. That way there's still some mystery to it and you'll keep him on the hook longer.
I also point out, being agressive does not neccesarily mean mean spirited and bossy. Those in fact can be turnoffs if thats not part of his fantasy. You can reconcile being domineering with being sweet and giggly. Now shy, well you're going to have to work on that because its diametrically opposed to what he's asking for. You do need to act comfortable and confident. Don't worry, these things take practice. You can even use some of what you learn here to prod your customers for other guys like him.
And don't worry if this isn't like your natural "at home" personality. Thats true for most dancers. Part of the fun of your job is getting to play a different persona.
Best of luck. Keep us updated. :)