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do u know a time waster when u see one?
I have been thinking about how over the past four months my ability to spot a time-waster within the first minute or two of conversation has improved.
I never knew what you more experienced ladies were talking about when I used to read posts saying that you will work out who are the ones who will get dances and who will waste your time. But now I can easily spot them.
So I thought of this idea for a thread to help other newbies of ways that you can spot a time-waster who is not going to buy dances so that you don't waste your time.
Here are some I have worked out:
- Guys who don't get over the whole stage name/real name thing.
You approach this guy, say your name and all he wants to do is harass you about whether it's your real name and he might even joke that his name is his stage name.
I have found this to be a typical time waster who usually won't buy dances.
- The Strip Club junkie aka Mr. I'm too good to buy dances but I'll take you OTC.
This guy typically will throw you a line like "I don't get dances" or will brag about how many strippers he has picked up etc.
- Too focused on the strip club game.
This is the guy who is only interested in harassing you about why you work in a strip club, do your parents know, etc. He will also ask you everything about working in the strip club like how much do you get paid, do you get along with the other dancers, do you really like the job, etc. A variation of this is the guy who basically tells you he thinks that what u do for a job is morally wrong and he wants to save you from it.
Well these are the ones I have worked out.
I'm hoping others will add to this thread with more versions of the time-waster non-dance buying patron.
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He grabs me within 30 seconds of my approach. This guy is either just trying to get as much free feel as possible OR is a horrible groper during dances. Either way I want no part of it and I just walk away immediately.
He insists on buying me a drink BEFORE doing any dances.
He doesn't like when I order something non-alcoholic. These guys may buy a couple dances but again they're a pain in the ass to deal with so I leave them quickly.
He asks "what does your boyfriend think of your job" within a minute of my approach ::)
He wants to give me a massage ::)
He pulls me over too much, won't let go of my hand, etc. These are asshole ways of trying to hold me in place while trying to appear flirty and not spending any money ::)
He doesn't tip the waitress/bartender for the drink he ordered.
He mentions that he has dated or married a stripper.
He brags alot about his job, wife, car, house, yacht, etc.
He says ANYthing about drugs, "dates" (paid or not), how he wants to fuck me, how I must make soooo much money, how I'm only interested in money, etc.
I could go on....
LOL
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Those are awesome Bridgette. I forgot about the ones that try to be all grabby before u have even negotiated a dance and I'm with u I'd prefer not to even dance for them.
The drugs one sets off "How to pick up a stripper" alarm bells with me coz all those idiots with that mentality think it's the way to our heart (or panties).
The buy a drink before a dance is terribly annoying >:(
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"when are you going up on stage next?" <that question means no dance to me!
"I'll wait till the special/feature"
"I'm from Houston" <my no contact ass knows to back out gracefully
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Brigette pretty much nailed it.
Any guy that acts like he's on to our "game".
Any guy that is excessively grabby without being excessively tippy. ;)
The worst are the guys that change the subject when you ask for a dance. These guys are professionals.
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Originally Posted by
Lola Rose
"when are you going up on stage next?" <that question means no dance to me!
Ahahahahaha!!! Yep. Fucking cheapasses >:(
Ditto too on Houston - I have yet to meet a guy in the SC from Houston who wasn't shitty so I learned a long time ago to just bail on them.
Also, if he says something like "you should come work in Tampa/Ft Lauderdale/Houston/Miami" etc. Again he might buy a couple dances but he is NOT going to spend much money AND he will be a pain in the ass so I spend very little time on them.
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Oh, oh, oh, lemme tell you..............
If you sit down with him and his mouth begins to run...and doesn't stop. He won't shutup and let you get a word in edgewise. He starts talking about his life, and several other non-sequiter stories follow. He is dodging around on purpose, making sure you sound rude and interuptive if you start to interject. Meanwhile, his hands are all over you, rubbing against your neck and legs. He strategically avoids the boobs, and other areas that would get him instantly kicked out.
He is well practiced in this, and focuses on fresh, naive strippers. He buys you a drink, which isn't unheard of, but then wants to buy you another drink as soon as that one is finished.
You ask him for a dance, and he says "later, later" and goes back to babbling on endlessly.
Ladies, stay away from this guy, he WILL ruin your night! Nothing, and I mean NOTHING, pissed me off more than knowing I'd been had!
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Originally Posted by
Emily
The worst are the guys that change the subject when you ask for a dance. These guys are professionals.
Or when they pretend like they didn't hear what you just said >:(
But I think the worst is the one that tells you to go to the friend, especially when they throw in "He makes the big bucks". Nice job, put the pressure on your friend and make him look like the unsuspecting asshole. The unsuspecting asshole then laughs nervously as you have just been macking in his friend -- why would you do this to your buddy?
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I know I probably shouldn't be posting on here, but damn is it really like that?! Am I a time waster by association, ouch, that's brutal.
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Probably by association to H-town. As in Houston, as Lola Rose & Bridgette pointed out.
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Originally Posted by
datchapin
I know I probably shouldn't be posting on here, but damn is it really like that?! Am I a time waster by association, ouch, that's brutal.
Yeah, why all the hating on Houston guys? Oh well, you did it to yourselves boys........:-\
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When you're making your rounds through the room and a guy is loud hollering about how hot you are looking.
For me, I used to think this was an obvious guy who wants a dance but boy was I wrong. All they wanna do is flirt, and talk about meetin you outside.
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Well, Houston guys aren't a "waste of time"...just really hard to deal with for most dancers not willing to go above and beyond the call of duty. I put them more in the "I'm not their type" category.
And the guys trying to get personal info out of me aren't necessarily wasting my time either. They can turn into money.
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TW: "can i have your number?"
Me: "no, but you can give me yours, all you have to do is write it on a £50 note and ill be sure to call!"
hasnt happened yet ;)
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Basically, any time a guy strikes me as intentionally rude or unpleasant, I can pretty much write him off. Guys who grope and proposition you in the first two minutes are looking for extras. Guys who want to know your real name and whether your family approves of your job, etc., etc., are there to give their egos a quick boost by either pitying or insulting the poor, stupid stripper.
It really seems to me that, with some exceptions of course, the guys who want to buy dances are the best behaved customers. I usually make my best money off my politest and pleasantest customers. (Of course, it's possible that my rude and gropy customers would spend more money if they weren't sensing the silent death threats I start sending out after they try to jerk my thong down for the third time.)
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Any guy who feels the need to tell you how much money he has/makes. I've found if the guy REALLY had a lot of money he would just SPEND it to impress you(which he's obviously trying to do, otherwise why would he bring it up) instead of TALKING about it.
Any guy who asks if you are drunk...with a hopeful look on his face(these guys almost always want to find a trashed girl who will either go home with them or do extras)
Any guy who mentions he dated a (or most times MANY...yeah right) strippers or who has a lot of friends who dance(this is a variation on the guy who "knows our game"...bleh). Yeah ok....then why are you here ALONE buddy?? My husband knows a lot of strippers too..thats why he doesnt need to go to a strip club...and on the few occassions he does, one of us is with him!LOL! He loves feeling like Hef!
Any guy who mentions he knows/is friends with anyone(bartender, manager, owner). Whether he actually does or not...it means he isnt going to spend and most likely wants special treatment for free.
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All you girls are spot-on with what I've experienced. I especially hate the long-winded ones... I had one last night that just would not let me get away... just had to walk off.
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Originally Posted by
cinammonkisses
When you're making your rounds through the room and a guy is loud hollering about how hot you are looking.
For me, I used to think this was an obvious guy who wants a dance but boy was I wrong. All they wanna do is flirt, and talk about meetin you outside.
Me too!! I used to think these guys were a sure thing but I was so wrong.
Also the "when are you on stage" is a great point too and I hate it when they say "Oh I'll see how you dance on stage and then decide if I want a dance" - that is so insulting. Obviously if a guy wants a great mover, with a great body they can watch the stage to see who will meet his expectations but I don't need to be fobbed off like this.
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Guys who make A LOT of comments and/or ask you questions about all the other dancers in the club.
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I can't believe no one has mentioned the young dude who waves you over: "Hey, yo, baby, c'mere. I just wanted to tell you you are gorgeous! You are definitely the best looking girl in this place. Huh? Dances? Naw, I don't do dances." I swear that every weekend some kid tries to waste my time with this nonsense. This is of course just a variation on the dude who asks you out, frontloaded with meaningless compliments that I imagine are part of the dude's rap.
I'll stand up for Houstonians as the ones I run into all the way in OR are good tippers and nice which shocks me considering that the clubs here are the polar opposite of the ones there. Hell, the first Houston guy I ran into up here tossed a $50 at me on stage. So I dismiss no one based on their hometown.
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guys who've actually dated or are married to strippers are not always time-wasters. it depends on how they tell you. some guys mention their ex-wife was a dancer or something and say 'i always get a couple dances, come back in 15', and they will get some dances and stage tip while they are relaxing.
but the guys who are just like 'i've dated tons of strippers, i know the game, blah, blah' and don't mention spending money or attempt to do so are time-wasters.
but i've made money off guys who were married to or dating strippers, with the caveat that guys married to (or who were married to) strippers are much more likely to buy dances and stage tip.
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Originally Posted by
Susan Wayward
I can't believe no one has mentioned the young dude who waves you over: "Hey, yo, baby, c'mere. I just wanted to tell you you are gorgeous! You are definitely the best looking girl in this place. Huh? Dances? Naw, I don't do dances."
oh yeh, makes me wanna scream just because i am a stripper does not mean i need validation from a stranger!
it also does not make me a liar, a whore or blind and desperate for a shag with anyone who offers.
::)
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Originally Posted by
Bridgette
He doesn't like when I order something non-alcoholic. These guys may buy a couple dances but again they're a pain in the ass to deal with so I leave them quickly.
i dont know if this is played out and old but, it seemed to work for some girls. you could make an arrangement with the bartender or waitress. anytime you order something with a cherry (or something else), it means non-alcoholic.
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anyone who gropes like a leech while on the floor.
anyone who tells me to talk to their mate- the mate never wants a show either
anyone who opens their wallet in front of you and kinda fans their money to show off, but offers it to you ,only if, you go home with them tho.
yeah, and the second they ask if im on stage... they dont wanna pay for a dance.
usually the guys who arent drining too- i always aproach and ask them if they are sober drivers or whatever, if they are = $$, if not, usually they are cheap.