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boundaries?
Hey Ladies quick question,
Ok so I already auditioned and got hired and I start on sunday. I was pleasantly surpised at how easy it was to strip on stage (way easier than I expected), however Im a little nervous abouut the lap dance part. HOw do you set boundaries? I just dont know whats allowed and whats not, do I have a say? Also what exactly do you do during a nude dance, should I talk to them? Im just feeling a little lost :) I would appreciate any tips for lap dances, also what should I say to the customer If they try to do something I not comfortable with. I dont want them to get mad you know? So please....... tips? thanks :)
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Re: boundaries?
Well, there's the line the law draws, which you should def get familiar with. And then there's your personal line you can draw even shorter if you want. If someone starts to cross either line you guide them away to another area and/or say something. And hey, you have TOTAL say, can walk away from anyone anytime.
As for talking, some people like it during dances but my exp is that most don't- recommend speaking when spoken to there, gl!
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Re: boundaries?
Don't believe everything customers tell you about what other girl's do in lap dances.
"All the other girls let me touch their breasts".
A lot of guys work on the nothing ventured, nothing gained principle, and they'll try and con you into doing more than what you should.
For the rest of it, from a guy point of view, we like to think you're enjoying yourself.
The odd "I like dancing for you, you're so polite/well behaved/fun/enjoyable to dance for" won't go amiss.
Try and remember our names as well: "Are you enjoying yourself, John?" sounds better than "Are you enjoying yourself?"
Don't try to be too subtle - we don't want artistic - we want to look.
And finally, be prepared for some very personal comments - you'll be told you have nice legs/bum/breasts/kitty.
The average guy won't tell you that outside the venue, but somehow feels free to do so inside.
Good luck...
Phil.
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Re: boundaries?
On my first night working another one of the dancers gave ME a lap dance so I could see what/what not to do. She just told me the rules and standards at the club and showed me a couple of easy things to do to start out with. I found that really helped because I could actually see her and what she was doing.
I'm not sure what the situation is at your club but there is hopefully a friendly veteran dancer that could give you some hints.
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Re: boundaries?
I'm not a girl but keep your money right. Some girls get into a financial crunch and their boundaries change. Plenty of money to be made within the boundaries of the law.
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Re: boundaries?
Don't ever apologize. Instead act like your boundaries are a natural law. Apples don't apologize for falling out of trees and this stripper doesn't apologize for one-way contact, lol. It just is what it is. I move their hands to the side, I tell them, "Oh honey, you can't do that," big smile. They are seldom unhappy and almost always buy more dances cause it's time with me that they want. And my dances are hot, lol! (Sometimes they go off to find another dancer, but hey, you can't win them all, lol.)
If a guy says, "It's so unfair that I can't touch you," (or "can't touch you there") put a big naughty grin on your face and say, "I know! It's almost like torture - I'm such a bad girl!" See? Not apologizing, just stating the facts.
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Re: boundaries?
Bitter apple spray always helps set boundries some people don't quite understand or respect.