Originally Posted by
oodlesofnoodles
Its hard to hide something from someone you live with even if you don't live with them very much. If you're otherwise happily married and you're dead set on doing it, tell him - he may be able to adjust, or you may find that you can't keep doing it. He'll be more pissed off and devastated if he finds out some other way. Also, it's good to be able to share that part of your life with someone, like, "Some asshole bit my nipple, can you believe that shit????" "Aw honey that sucks. Did you kick his ass?" "Yeah." "Really? Did you hit him hard?" "OMG just shut up! I'm pissed off!" LOL.