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I always tell them to not touch me in between the legs, no oral contact, and please do not tweak my nipples as some clubs allow boob touching. If I danced in an ideal world, I'd make shitloads of money by talking only. I hate being touched at all but it's the norm at the clubs I work in so I keep it at a comfortable minimum.
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I'm with Yek mostly. Voted for enjoying medium, but just b/c there was no 'enjoy light contact' option, which to me is touching of things aside from crotch/ass/tatas. I will allow (but not necessarily enjoy) touching anything aside from my crotch tho if A) the guy isn't a jerk, and B) I'll get paid more for it. And hey, touch sells. I like to start my dances off pretty prudish/teasing and allow more the longer we go, pretty sure I wouldn't make nearly as much if I allowed maximum touching from the get-go.
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P.S. Funny aside about this- my roomate is gonna join me dancing as soon as her BF moves away next month, and she was driving me to the airport today so we had a chance to talk about it alone a bit. I told her, among other things, that she might want to think about her comfort zone for touch in advance. At that she got this terrified look on her face and said 'I don't have to let them finger me, do I?' Choked on my cig b/c I was so taken aback and laffin so hard, assured her that's not how we roll LOL
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I enjoy medium contact...but minus touching of my boobies.
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I don't think boobs belong in "medium contact." I think boob touching belongs in "high contact" and touching the crotch belongs in extras since it's, you know, genital contact.
I enjoy airdancing, prefer one-way contact to everything else, and am cool with limited two-way -- anything more I might put up with for money for a limited time but I can't work like that for too long.
My comfort level increases in direct proportion my enjoyment of the customer's company and the amount of money he is spending. To a certain extent--because while everyone's mileage may very, I think we all have an eventual line that doesn't get crossed for anyone.
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it depends with me. Ill allow a custy to squeeze me and hug me, but they cant touch my ass or breasts. If they are my friends, I dont mind if they lay a hand on ym lower back or covered buttcheek, but thats just how me and my friends roll.
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I prefer not to be touched at all. I don't enjoy it. Very light contact may be okay in some instances, but really my preference is for none.
I think that genital contact is in itself an 'extra' (and an illegal one at that in Victoria).
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Originally Posted by
GoldCoastGirl
I prefer one way (dancer to customer) contact and will be up and all over the customer naked if I can due to it. Yet where there is two way (customer to dancer, dancer to customer) contact I prefer (and thus voted) I enjoy medium contact (gentle touching of breasts/ass/etc/no crotch).
I'm a sensual person so I don't mind being touched on my breasts and ass etc NO CROTCH!!!! Yet at the same time I find I do and give better lap dances when there is only one way (dancer to customer) contact because then I am not restricted by the customer's hands.
I find it rather boring and mundane doing two way contact dances. I have a limited scope of movement as all they want to do is touch and I can't get away from them due to the touching... and thus I tend to do the same type of moves which will allow touching of my breasts and ass over and over again... :yawn:
Yah, light dancer-to-customer contact is okay as long as they can't touch me.
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Originally Posted by
Pretty_Penny
my own answer: i dislike most contact. i -used- to be ok with medium contact, but men pushed and/or downright forced themselves past my boundries. also, after awhile of that i started to associate the touching of my breasts, etc. (even in my personal life) with negativity. as soon as that started to happen, i stopped allowing anything more than arms/stomach/sides/SOMETIMES ass, if they know how to keep their hands from going between my legs. i have, on rare occasion, allowed breast contact when i am desperate for money. this is something that really bothers me personaly and is something i need to stop doing. i can honestly say that allowing more contact than i am comfortable with inside of a strip club, is the only thing i've done in my adult life (and i'm 27) that i TRULY regret. it's the only thing i would absolutely take back. it caused me to doubt myself, which is something i never did before. i think part of the reason it still bothers me, is because i still allow myself to let my limits slide when i'm low on money. part of the problem is that i work in an extras ridden city where very high contact is the norm. even having said that, i can still only blame myself. i need to stop allowing more than i'm personaly ok with all together so that i can forgive myself. i hate the fact that i've let men push their way past my limits for a little extra cash. i also hate the fact that i'm willing to bet almost none (if any) of those men would give a flying fuck if i told them that. in fact, i think that many of them would think it was funny or that they "won" in some sort of twisted game.
to clarify: i've never done "extras" or let anyone touch "there". by past my limits i mean mostly breasts... or just putting up with rougher contact, etc.
i am -very- commited to being entertaining, doing my best on stage, being a good conversationalist, giving a great tease of a table side, or an even better private dance. i -want- the customer to be happy and those who are seeking those things are normaly VERY happy when they leave. unfortunately though, most customers are only seeking high contact.
Yup, likewise.
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I hate to be touched it creeps me out I wear thigh high boots i can tolarate tochinng of the boots but thats about it.
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out here in houston the standard lap dance is pretty high contact. guys do feel on your boobs almost always, though i hate it if u push their hands away they usually will walk away, because its just the norm here. i dont allow my crotch touched though that grosses me out as well as licking.
When I first started dancing I did allow more contact, but yeah it still fucks with my head too. Couldnt sleep those nights.
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Originally Posted by
Pretty_Penny
my own answer: i dislike most contact. i -used- to be ok with medium contact, but men pushed and/or downright forced themselves past my boundries. also, after awhile of that i started to associate the touching of my breasts, etc. (even in my personal life) with negativity. as soon as that started to happen, i stopped allowing anything more than arms/stomach/sides/SOMETIMES ass, if they know how to keep their hands from going between my legs. i have, on rare occasion, allowed breast contact when i am desperate for money. this is something that really bothers me personaly and is something i need to stop doing. i can honestly say that allowing more contact than i am comfortable with inside of a strip club, is the only thing i've done in my adult life (and i'm 27) that i TRULY regret. it's the only thing i would absolutely take back. it caused me to doubt myself, which is something i never did before. i think part of the reason it still bothers me, is because i still allow myself to let my limits slide when i'm low on money. part of the problem is that i work in an extras ridden city where very high contact is the norm. even having said that, i can still only blame myself. i need to stop allowing more than i'm personaly ok with all together so that i can forgive myself. i hate the fact that i've let men push their way past my limits for a little extra cash. i also hate the fact that i'm willing to bet almost none (if any) of those men would give a flying fuck if i told them that. in fact, i think that many of them would think it was funny or that they "won" in some sort of twisted game.
to clarify: i've never done "extras" or let anyone touch "there". by past my limits i mean mostly breasts... or just putting up with rougher contact, etc.
i am -very- commited to being entertaining, doing my best on stage, being a good conversationalist, giving a great tease of a table side, or an even better private dance. i -want- the customer to be happy and those who are seeking those things are normaly VERY happy when they leave. unfortunately though, most customers are only seeking high contact.
all that being said: in the ultra very very rare case that i am actualy attracted to a customer -and- he happens to be fun, nice, etc. i'll allow the most contact legal. :P
..... but that's literaly only happened once in the last 2 years. oh and, if jonathan rhys meyers ever comes into my club i will A. "cut a bitch" to get to him first and B. break every law possible.
Wow. I've totally been there. I used to let my regular do that in the private room and it used to make me feel so disgusted. I totally went through the same delema. I just didn't know how to say no and only allowed that when I really needed the money. I thought that was how you had to make money but it's not. I never want to go back to that..I was drinking all the time to deal with how personally angry I was at myself to allow that to happen. I felt totally out of control with the situation and I hate that. Now I make very good money not allowing that stuff to go on by just caring about my look, being a good convresationalist and being a party girl. You really don't have to do things like that to make money, I save my money now and don't put myself in desperate situations...and I made a promise to myself that if I ever can't make money in this buisness by my own comfort level than I'm going to retire because to me it just isn't worth it but luckily that hasn't happened to me yet. It's really a shame that this fantastic industry has gotten to this point. In my town girls made WAY more money the stricter it was...I miss those days!
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My answer wasn't one of the options.
I prefer medium contact, but no touching my breasts, crotch, or ass crack. They can touch my legs, outer thighs, butt cheeks, even my stomach, but never the breasts and never the crotchal area.
And I give a pretty liberal dance, but I don't grind them down to a nub. I back it off so they'll get another........and another.........etc.
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as a retired male dancer i can say i really enjoyed giving those extra's cause in reality that is what brought the extra funds and it was good.
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Cally
I hate contact but I will allow touching of the breasts, ass and everywhere but my crotch. I can be a heavy grinder... it doesnt faze me.
I hate it..
Me too. I definitely dislike it strongly and I'd rather actually dance (a la table dance) than grind. Not only do I hate having to worry about the octopus hands, but I also find doing long series of lapdances boring. But I do it, obviously, because that is my bread and butter.
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I chose that I'll put up with medium contact for the money, but to me medium does not include breasts, ass and crotch. Breast and ass is high contact. Crotch is extras. I call it medium contact because it does include some grinding.
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Here is a question for you women, i dance in toronto, ontario and when you get that few ie..Gay , lesbian, bi-sexual do you ever feel grossed out? kinda makes you want to just go back stage and cringe? i really do not like the fact that i get touched by guy's and i alway's warn them, but they do spend alot of money and that i find hard to resist.
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I'm on Susan's side - I think breast touching is hard contact. I don't say that pejoratively - I mean, I do it, but there is nowhere to go from there that doesn't involve fluid or secretion.
I enjoy hard contact - sometimes. Sometimes any contact is pretty repulsive. I think it depends - not on the hotness of the guy, but how much I like him. There are some guys that are fun and into you; there are some guys who are just touching you the same way they would jerk off.
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Where I work, the contact is going to happen, so I try to focus it on my legs or waist. I don't mind some petting or light touch, but "grab and squeeze" will set me off. I actually like a little bit of contact, especially in the situations where you feel an actual connection with the costumer.
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Can retired dancers contribute?
Ok, I became very accustomed to hard contact where I worked. But looking back at it, I get upset about what I allowed.
Two-way light contact was great, I don't mind being touched by people, I am a touchy-feely type of person. But I got very accustomed to letting them grab my boobs and ass sometimes, and its affected my psyche negatively since then.
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My choices have always been either 1 way contact (only me touching them not them touching me) or air dance. If they can touch, then no touching anything on me other than my arm or maybe a brush against the side of my outter thigh now and then but thats it. No grinding!
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COMPACTER
i really do not like the fact that i get touched by guy's and i alway's warn them, but they do spend alot of money and that i find hard to resist.
Bingo! That probably sums up the feelings of the majority of female dancers, right there.
I get creeped out by men touching me, too. I'm much more comfortable with women touching and caressing me during dances than the male customers (I'm totally straight, it is a perceived level of threat that is coming from the male customers).
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It really concerns me to read that a lot of respondents to this poll regret doing things or had trouble sleeping at night coz of a dance. Im sure the customers never feel this way. Especially the jerks that you have to continually fight off.
I worry that down the track things will play on my mind.