I feel so F-ING STUPID :(
I feel so so stupid. but i guess i learned my lesson. but IM PISSED.
I go to the champagne room with this guy today right. This young guy. well he buys the bottle (thats all it takes to go back there no up front) and after like 10 dances i get this feeling I really better tell him how many Ive done for him. He was a bit drunk. Well, I tell him and he starts accusing me of lying. We did have a couple breaks, yes because i had to go on stage and to the restroom another time but that doesnt matter, this is how I make money I aint lyin to ya!! Well, the fucker ends up running out of the club. I swear I want to kick that fucker in the NUTS when I see him again. I guess Im just not on top of the game yet, its my 3rd day back after a few years. Anyhow, I was crying because of the alcohol and stress in my life I now feel like I made such a fool of myself. Cryin over money.
Ah, well Im tryin to let it go BUT I AM STILL VERY [email protected]!!!
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Good decisions are made using wisdom. Wisdom is earned with experience. Experience is earned through bad decisions.
I'm sorry you had such a crappy experience. Now you know to never leave your customer (even if you HAVE TO GO ON STAGE) until he has paid you. And keep communicating with your customer through a series of dances as to what his running total is.
Just pretend they all want to steal dances from you, and don't give anyone the benefit of the doubt no matter how nice or how loyal of a customer. I've had long time customers try to rip me off. I've had off duty employees try to rip me off. Always assume that your customers are trying to steal from you, and you'll be just fine.:hug:
It's like wearing your safety belt in the car. Even though you don't think it is likely you'll get into a wreck, put it on anyway.
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Your club seems to have a weird setup. In a typical club with a Champagne and VIP room, when a customer has bought time from you, you are SKIPPED on stage.
Upon entry to the room, there should be a FLAT RATE that you charge UP FRONT that includes the clubs cut and your own.
How much time did his bottle of Champagne buy? If there is no set time, you should establish one. Tell him a half hour is $200, and an hour is $375. That is in addition to the Champagne cost. And that way you are not obligated to dance for him the entire time. You could also sit and chat.
And that is one reason to minimize drinking at work. This is a job and customers look for vulnerability in a dancer so they can take advantage. You couldn't have been on the top of your game with all that alcohol oin your system.
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yeah, i guess ya really cant trust anyone. he seemed cool and i feel like such a fool, thats why im so upset, i dont like to put made a fool like that it TICKS ME OFF! but yeah, ya live ya learn.
i AM going to establish a flat rate SERIOUSLY. that is just bull, they should have it set up differently, its just so annoying all they want is to make money off the bottle. the manager was just like, always ask for your money after a couple dances you know the drill. :(
now i feel like the stupid dancer that cries like a baby over money. ah i just hope no one talks about it when i go back, thats always irritating.
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Paris
Good decisions are made using wisdom. Wisdom is earned with experience. Experience is earned through bad decisions.
Awesome quote. may I use it?
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Next time grab his shoes. :)
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^That's the second time I've heard that advice... It sounds like a sure way to get your money... But how the hell do you get the shoes?! :(
lilhotmama, I'm sorry that happened to you. :( I think every stripper gets ripped off at least once... I had a guy get a bunch of dances in the VIP and then refuse to pay. He said he thought that I was "just being friendly". Even the manager couldn't get him to pay up. He flat out refused. :( At least it's one of those damn "learning experiances"...
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It sure sucks that it happend. It has not happend to me as a dancer, but when I worked as a MPA (massage girl) it happend once. The guy got his massage and left without paying. I was furious.
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One thing I suggest when dancing for a guy in the private dance or champagne area is for him to remove his cell phone, keys, etc, and place them to the side or behind me (depending on how the space is set up). It'll make it "more comfortable" for him, plus then I won't knock into them with my leg or some such thing. When finishing the dances, stand between him and his property (not obviously unless he refuses to pay) until he reaches into his wallet and pays you. If for some reason he won't pay for the dances, smile, pick up the phone or keys and say, "ohh....thank you....i've always wanted a new phone." i've only had to do this a couple of times over many years of dancing...but the knowledge that you stand between a guy and his necessary stuff is usually enough to keep the guy from stiffing you.
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to top off last night i started my period when i got home. i get depressed easily this time of the month and cry at the drop of a hat. i swear im not a baby cryin over money!
you know what that is an exc. idea keeping their phone or keys!! im doin that next time if they dont want to pay somethin up front.
thanks for your replies, i appreciate it.
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xbloodydewdropx
One thing I suggest when dancing for a guy in the private dance or champagne area is for him to remove his cell phone, keys, etc, and place them to the side or behind me (depending on how the space is set up). It'll make it "more comfortable" for him, plus then I won't knock into them with my leg or some such thing. When finishing the dances, stand between him and his property (not obviously unless he refuses to pay) until he reaches into his wallet and pays you. If for some reason he won't pay for the dances, smile, pick up the phone or keys and say, "ohh....thank you....i've always wanted a new phone." i've only had to do this a couple of times over many years of dancing...but the knowledge that you stand between a guy and his necessary stuff is usually enough to keep the guy from stiffing you.
Wow, that's a great tip! I'd be worried about the guy knocking me down to get his stuff, but it's worth a shot!
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Do you have a bouncer that counts your dances? (Usually when dances are done in a seperate room) Use him as your enforcer. Guys respond better to big gorilla then small girl.
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I see now that she is in Houston. There are no bouncers, just floor managers who are like Sgt. Schultz on Hogans Heroes, "I see nothing, I say nothing".
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8TJ
Awesome quote. may I use it?
Sure, but it isn't mine. I don't remember where I heard it, but I thought it was awesome, too!