don't ask me how much i make
i am very upset that the girls at my new club has been asking me how i do some of them i think are just makeing conversation and don't mean harm but sometimes i get the feeling they are trying to imadate me (which won't work) I don't think girls should ask each other this unless they are buddies but don't come up to me out of the blue and ask me how many dances I do its none of your dam bisness so don't ask. The number of dances i do that night might not even be a true reflection of what i make anyway becuse i get tips on the floor to. I just this behavior is rude. end rant.
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Just reply "usually between a million or sometimes 1.2 million on good nights" with a straight face. Should nip that in the bud.
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All I say is, "I'm doing alright" I want them to at least think (in satisfaction) that they could be possibly making more than me. I've never been one to gloat. I'll be damned if my shit gets stolen.
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sc0101
Just reply "usually between a million or sometimes 1.2 million on good nights" with a straight face. Should nip that in the bud.
haha i love it if only i was bold enough to pull that line off. :)
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Meh, I wouldn't worry about it too much. Believe me, you'll run across much worse things than that in your dancing career! Drama, crazy, catty girls, fucktard custys, etc.
All they're basically trying to do is size themselves up to you. It's a natural trait in women. Just answer it with something like, I don't talk numbers, but I do very well and have no complaints!
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whoops, ive been guilty of this one. but i was trying to size up the club more than anything, kinda get a feel for how it usually is there.
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yeah i don't know many girls that just come right out and ask my exact dollar ammount.. i would probably lie anyways just to throw them off.... my club is rather small so u can kinda assess if girls are having a good night, shitty night, if their regulars are there, or if they are being paid to sit....
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I always tell them that I don't discuss numbers, but that I'm doing ok, good, great, etc. They know though, you know? They see you back there doing dances and they see the money in your locker or when you open your purse. I doubt they ask that of girls who aren't doing so well. Take it as flattery.
I had a female custie ask me last week how much I make a week and I turned it right around and said, "Well, how much do you make?" Her husband goes, "she makes $814" or whatever it was. I did tell her a few ballpark figures, because she really wasn't trying to be a bitch, she was just curious.
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Yikes, that's weird! I can't say I've ever had a girl straight out ask me that (although I've had them try to beat around the bush and get me to offer the info). I would say something like, "I do okay" and just leave it at that.
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I admit, I ask this of some of the other girls in my club during a night sometimes. Usually just as conversation and I never ask how many dances they have done, I always ask "so, hows your night going?" I never ask it to be rude or anything, just to talk. Most of the girls dont mind answering, and some get into specifics even (which makes me feel weird if I have done better than they have).
I dont mind if a girl asks me about it, but I dont like it if they ask me how many dances I've done. That i do find rude.
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Sometimes I throw girls off by saying Im having a shitty day. In reality I do pretty well consistently. I just like to feed their little messed up egos so that they can think they are better than me by me making less. When girls think I do shitty they stay out of my business and dont cockblock me. I have this problem at the peep show one than anything else.
Its is rude to straight up ask how much someone has made that night. I dont ask..I dont care.
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I HATE when people ask how much I make. It irks me to no end. I won't ever give dollar amouts, I just say I do ok. People don't normally push the issue after that.
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how much do you make?
j/k. when i'm asked that question i say, "i don't know." they stop asking or assume i'm doing well. then they leave me alone.
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I find that the "how's your night going" or " how are you doing
tonight" general questions are ok...kind of a way to gage if it's YOU or the club thats off if you are having a bad night.
But asking for specifics in dollar amounts is just tacky in any job. I've had girls do that "he tipped you at least $100 right?" "You were with him forever...you've made at least a grand tonight havent you?". I just smile and say that I'm doing well or I'm getting lucky tonight. Specifics are no-ones business.
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Yeah.. I think thats a little bizarre to ask a stranger their exact amount. I ask girls I don't know well how they are doing, but I don't get into actual #'s. With my friends however, it doesn't matter.
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I hardy even tell amounts unless it is to complain as in--I only made $70 last Tues! Otherwise I ask some girls how its going and others do this to me just to be nice or as cameron said, to see if the whole club sucks or just I do.
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I hate it when girls ask me that. If I tell them a dollar amount it'll either piss me or her off for not making more.
So now I just say: Her: "How are you doing tonight?" Me:"Good but not great" No one seems to have anything to say to that (so far).
Although I don't mind complaining when the club is obviously dead.
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toomuchhomeworklately
I hate it when girls ask me that. If I tell them a dollar amount it'll either piss me or her off for not making more.
Yep..theres no happy end to that.I'm an extremely competitive person and if I find out that others are making significantly more than I am I'll be PISSED...at myself (unless they are doing something extra to make it). Then i make even less because I am constantly measuring what I'm doing against them. BAD for my hustle! So keep your numbers to yourself please!(offering up how much you make is just as annoying to me as asking what I make)
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especially when customers ask.. thats the worse.. when they beg you to tell them.. i honestly never feel like going into a big speech about some nights its only $200, other nights i've made close to $1500... its none of their business, or anyone's for that matter... So its like what are u supposed to do.. look like a pathetic dancer who doesn't make money, or someone who makes a lot, and certainly doesn't need to make any money from the customer who's asking you the question..... its like would they rather feel obligated to make some girls night who doesn't make much money, who is ok looking, kinda just there, or a girl who makes great money, who is good looking, and is very personable???
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either way your kinda fucked....
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I never ask how much a girl makes but I'm always saying, "How's your night going?" It's more of just a polite conversation thing really. I really don't care how much other dancers are making. I wonder if that comes off as rude? I never thought about it../:O
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i don't mind if it's a new girl and shes politely asking for a general average. i just don't like the "what did you make today?" bullshit or asking me "does he spend a lot?" when referring to one of my regs. the only time i'll put up with that is from girls who've never danced before. most of them just don't know better... esp. the younger ones.
when customers ask how much i make, i ask them right back. mostly because i got tired of the unrealistic figure guys had in mind when they ask.
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i honestly ask certain girls, but only when i really want to know the truth.