would this be really rude?
Ok my regular spends approx $200 per week on me and visits at least once a week, sometimes twice.
He has been away on business for 3 weeks and my earnings have suffered :'(
He is now back and coming to see me on my next shift and I was thinking I wonder if there is a chance he will "backpay" me for the 3 weeks he missed. I know wishful thinking probably!
Would any of you ladies mention it to him. I was thinking of giving him the sob story of how I didnt do very well while he was away (kinda true at least of last week).
If you would do it, how would you say it?
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No, I would not mention it.
He wants to think you like him because you like him, not because he gives you money. You need to keep him thinking that, and straight out asking him for it will look bad, IMO. What you could do is say something like, "I have missed you so much!" and make a big deal of his coming back. He will probably have missed you too and will want to spend extra time with you, and therefore, more money.
But that's not a bridge you want to burn by being rude, so be careful.
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Hmmmm... It does sound kinda rude. I definitely wouldn't straight out ask him for it, he probably doesn't want to think that you look at him as 'just' a paycheck ::) At most I would mention that it's been quiet the few weeks he's been away and you have struggled a bit. I wouldn't explicitly say that I've missed his money. Maybe at that point he'd feel inclined to make it up to you.
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That's true I didnt think of it like that - of course my perspective is the money and his is not.
Thanks thats good advise, I will just try to entice him to spend more rather than ask for it. I dont want to loose him as a regular.
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Well, my regulars know that I am a jokester, so I'd say something like, "hey where's my backrent" and lol with them..Then I'd say, "I'm just joking, but seriously I really missed you, how was your trip?"
They dont' feel like I'm outright asking for the money, but it does remind the little voice in the back of their head that they've been gone for X amount of weeks, and that maybe a little extra than normal wouldn't hurt.
BUT, this is a big but, if you never joke with your custy's then coming out with the line above could crash and burn for you!
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I wouldn't mention it if you don't want him to think you are greedy or ever want him to come back. I think it woud be a very insultng thing to tell him.
I think just telling him in a eal nice way how much you really missed him whil he was gone would get better results.
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I wouldn't say anything for the fear of losing him as a customer over this.
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I wouldn't mention it. Depending on the person, he may give you more than 200 next time he sees you (like, maybe an extra hundred) or come in more often over the next couple weeks. Just make sure to tell him how much you missed him! :)
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Thanks ladies. I am not going to ask. See SW saved the day again!
Ill just say how much I missed him like u ladies advised and see how I go ;D
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Oh I wouldnt mention it. It might completely deter him from coming back at all. You could tell him things weren't the same without him, but otherwise hinting for backpay may backfire on you.
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jaizaine
Thanks ladies. I am not going to ask. See SW saved the day again!
Ill just say how much I missed him like u ladies advised and see how I go ;D
:) I just saw this... :P
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iamchris
Yes, it would be extremely rude. You work in the service industry. He pays you when you do something for him. He is by no means obligated to support you.
She was just inquiring advice, and already accepted said advice and said she wasn't going to ask him. Your response sounded a little snappy and very customer-ish, which is why stripping general mostly appreciates input from strippers. and not customers. Reason being, things are entirely different from our perspective. Our jobs aren't like waitressing at a restaurant kind of service jobs, and things are very different from our side. Not trying to be rude or anything, just pointint this fact out.
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Thanks Pooka, yes thats why I posted it here not in customer convo.
Im surprised to hear from a customer that i provide a service and he pays me more it - i thought customers complicated the situation way more than that and tried to read more into it.
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I would probably say, "I missed you! Without you around to spoil me I can't have my caviar and champagne on Thursdays! *giggle giggle*"
1. He'll know you're exaggerating and aren't serious about the money but he might think about it.
2. At the same time, men spend money on you because they WANT you to spend it on frivolous things, not things you need. If you gave a sob story, he'd feel obligated and like you can't even live without him - and that's needy. But saying you can't live LUXURIOUSLY without him is like saying he improves your life by being around.. not makes it.
But that's just me.
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I would personally not broach the subject, even by implication. Asking for back pay, directly or otherwise, is suggestive of a sense of entitlement that should not be there. He owes you nothing. What he pays you for is a service (either dancing or simply your company and conversation). He is under no obligation to pay you the time during which you were not providing this service, even if non-provision was because of his absence rather than because of some fault of your own. If I were a customer in this situation, the implication that I should perhaps back pay you would put me right off for the reasons above, and I would not return to you as a client. I'd advise simply cutting your losses with regard to the period in which he was away.
Please don't interpret this as being rude or harsh by the way- I think alot of you, Jaizaine. Just trying to show you the other perspective.
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Its cool it doesnt sound harsh at all it sounds honest and truthful. I was not thinking of it like that which is why I am so glad I made the post and thought about it and had a chance to hear opinions from u ladies.
Im just going to use the "i missed u heaps" approach and see what happens. I feel bad for even thinking like about the back-payment now. I just had the suckiest week on record - not only coz he didnt visit but I left the club in tears making only $90 so I was feeling desperate lol.
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I apologize for posting in the wrong section, and this will be my last one here. However I thought my insight might be valuable as I am essentially putting myself in his shoes. This is far easier for me to do as a male who isn't a stripper, and what you are really asking for is how he'd react to you saying something. In my opinion, despite all the experience all you girls have with these types of guys, I could do that better than any stripper here.
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Originally Posted by
iamchris
I apologize for posting in the wrong section, and this will be my last one here. However I thought my insight might be valuable as I am essentially putting myself in his shoes. This is far easier for me to do as a male who isn't a stripper, and what you are really asking for is how he'd react to you saying something. In my opinion, despite all the experience all you girls have with these types of guys, I could do that better than any stripper here.
You must also remember that many strippers on here also frequent clubs as customers. So we can pretty well put ourselves in the customers' shoes, too.
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More trolls? New trolls? Boy they get stupider each time.
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Whatever to the troll.
To the OP, oh my gosh that would be SO rude !! Can you imagine how pissed you would be if your manicurist told you that you owed her "back pay" because you decided not to get a manicure for three weeks and her earnings had suffered!
Just be super nice to him and let him know how much you like him and miss him when he doesn't visit.
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thanks but i posted this m0nths ago and have sorted it