Originally Posted by
Chrissy68
well, first off, that guy was most definitely a troll, not a normal SW member.
boundaries are VERY important. most guys will follow them. and the best words to use (projecting and telling them how they are/shoudl be) are "im so glad you're such a gentleman and respect the rules. so many guys just dont. but that's just one reason why im having SO much fun with you!" telling them they are a gentleman and how they have respected your rules, which you have to clearly define, is great. now, that line/those words are to be used after you've defined rules and the custy goes to break them.
as for defining rules, i find the best way is to put my hands on their hands and move them where i want them, i.e. on my hips versus trying to grab my boobs. sometimes i just hold their hands, because they are out of control, and sometimes i have to play dom a bit and pin their hands against the wall, but that's usually "hot" to them. i only do that in extreme cases. being upfront with someone will save you headache later.
also, i use "yea it sucks but those are the club's rules, but playing by the rules can be really fun", and "i just dont want a bouncer to come interrupt us," as lines to empathize with the custy, but make my point, if they're making a stink and they most definitely will not respond to the gentleman/respect line, aka Grabasses.