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jealous ugly girls using "stripper" like it's an insult
Exactly one week ago my boyfriend and I received messages on myspace from some girl I don't know but who has been stalking (literaly) my boyfriend and apparently me too. She's morbidly obeses and ugly as sin so I know that she could never in a million years ever have a shot at being a stripper. I think she's not quite right but she said some things in the messages that I thought I would get over in a week but I'm still fuming over a week later. I know it's not true what she says and how she found out I am a stripper I do not know. Here's one thing she wrote to my boyfriend:
I don't need some sluty ass bitch who degrades herself talking shit about me! At least I hold myself in higher regard than that... I don't sell myself for money...
In the message to me she said that she was bettering herself unlike me by going to community college (no offense to anyone that does) yet it's funny because I go to a well-respected university. She also said I was "skanky" and "cheap!" I drink expensive champagne every night I work and am quite "prudish" at work. Not to mention she's never been to my club or even MET me!
I guess I'm just wanting to know how you all handle this kind of criticism and blatantly false accusations. This is the one thing that I cannot deal with regarding stripping: people's misconceptions and using our profession as ammo against us to make themselves fell superior.
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It's one thing to try and educate someone who does not understand, but no matter what you do she will not like you... I wouldn't worry too much about it, but that's easier said than done. Do you respond to her messages, I would NOT b/c that would show that they got to you. She will give up eventually.
And yes, you sell yourself for money and NOT cheaply! LOL Everyone sells themselves for money. You aren't selling your body (you still take it home every night, right?), you are selling a service. Haircutters sell a service. Waitstaff sell a service. Teachers sell a service. I am a therapist, I sell a service. Looking good while doing any profession is a boost. Not fair, but true.
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Myspace? Block her fat ass and you'll never have to hear form her again.
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The first thing to do is to work on believing that what you do is cool, awesome, fun, funny, smart, and above all, A-okay. Ain't nothin' wrong with being a stripper; ain't nothin' wrong with calling a stripper just that. Anyone who wants to use the term derogatorily is trying to take a cheap shot; it's your responsibility to deflect the cheap shot and respond as though it's the nonsense that it is.
Foe example, if you were a firefighter, and someone was like, "You stinking... firefighter, you!" you'd laugh and say, "Yep." Or "Ooookay." Or "Um, whatever." Why? Because WTF is that person talking about? Clearly, they're just spouting nonsense. Same thing in this case, only substitute "stripper." It's what you do, it's not who you are (except for the looking good part, that IS in part who you are, you are a professional good-looker, and don't you forget it ;) ) and people can think whatever they want, but it's your ultimate conviction in your (and your profession's) okay-ness that really matters.
It's the stigma (and mystery, and slight deviance), in part, that keeps this job so well-paying; it's not leaving anytime soon, and honestly, I wouldn't want it to. What I DO want (and I can only imagine you want as well) is for individual girls to be good examples of what doing this job means. You strip; you're also educated and classsy. In short, you KNOW that you're better in a number of ways than the person insulting you. Knowing that, what else matters? Let them talk.
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Wow, some girl cannot contain her jealousy! She's probably just mad b/c she isn't as gorgeous as you, and you have the man she wants!
Keep your head high, im sure you're awesome at what you do.
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I would say "who cares". Who is she in your world? Nobody. What does it matter what she thinks about you or how she judges you? it doesn't. Blow it off and be the bigger person, no pun intended lol! I agree, block her and report her abuse to myspace.
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I agree with the "who cares." I used to try to change people's opinions about dancing, but honestly, you really can't. People are going to think what they think, and if they think that, I just mentally give them a big fuck you and write them out of my life.
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I hate to admit it i have some friends who use the word stripper and things like that to insult other girls. since i havent started dancing yet i havent had to beat any of them up. of course now that ive found this place i may have to start kickin butt!
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I'd actually just be creeped out, wonder what her connection was to me and my bf, and block her fat ugly ass... But I'd probably send her a message like, "Quit stalking me. I've blocked your fat ugly ass, so don't bother responding". If you brush her off like a bug and you don't dignify her insults with a response, she's just going to feel like the dumbass that she is.
Tell your bf to do the same.
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Sounds like she's just mad because no one would want to buy her!LOL!
Block her, she's just taking out her "fat aggression" on the thin and beautiful!
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I had some dumb girl from the past message me on My Space, calling me a "plus-sized stripper" and some other insulting shit. It took all I had not to respond, but I really didn't want to get into it with someone like that. I hadn't even seen her in five years. People like that really hate to be ignored, and if you feed into their ego by responding you are giving them exactly what they want.
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Re: jealous ugly girls using "stripper" like it's an insult
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Originally Posted by
Bella21
I'd actually just be creeped out, wonder what her connection was to me and my bf, and block her fat ugly ass...
^^I was kinda thinking the same thing. How does she know who you are and what you do?? I would wonder (and worry) more about that more than the insults.
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i know you said "no offence" but i do go to a community college- and college is college to me - yet you suggest that u are somehow "classier" than her because you go to a "well respected" college. ha?
anyways, about the myspace whore, id jus ignore her - or tell her how much money you make a night - that should shut her up. lol. everytime my friends or anyone get all preachy about what i do - i just tell em what i make. lol.
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Kennedy8
Wow, some girl cannot contain her jealousy! She's probably just mad b/c she isn't as gorgeous as you, and you have the man she wants!
Keep your head high, im sure you're awesome at what you do.
Exactly what I was going to say.
And about the whole university vs. community college deal - some degrees have such long waiting lists at unversities (the uni I want to go to has a three year waiting list for nursing) that students will get their AA at a community college and then transfer to a unversity to obtain their Bachelor's. Really, an education is an education.
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Originally Posted by
teeth_of_the_hydra
The first thing to do is to work on believing that what you do is cool, awesome, fun, funny, smart, and above all, A-okay. Ain't nothin' wrong with being a stripper; ain't nothin' wrong with calling a stripper just that. Anyone who wants to use the term derogatorily is trying to take a cheap shot; it's your responsibility to deflect the cheap shot and respond as though it's the nonsense that it is.
Dude. Right on. :thumbsup:
Stripper is not a dirty word ;D Best way to defend from crap like that is work on your OWN perception of what you do. When you're fully comfortable with it this crap won't bother you, or at least very little.
And put stupid myspace bitches on ignore.
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Geeezzz...OBSESS MUCH!!!??? I think this girl's in love with THE BOTH of you! Psycho Bitch!!.... Deleted!!!
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Re: jealous ugly girls using "stripper" like it's an insult
Wow! You girls are so supportive! After reading all of your responses I feel a million times better so thank you, thank you, thank you!!! Although I should clarify that I wasn't necessarily caring about what SHE or anyone else thinks of me-I was most concerned about how one handles the "cheap shot" (so true) of being called "skanky," "slutty," "cheap," etc. due to being a stripper and mostly the "name-caller's" own insecurities.
I totally agree that this girl was just an insecure fat broad who wants my boyfriend and wanted to somehow "get to me." I just know that a lot of the time this will come up in real-life situations and I was totally unprepared for how to deal with this until reading this thread. Regarding this evil bitch I was just concerned with how she knew so much about me. And you should all be happy to know that I immediately blocked her (as did my boyfriend), never wrote her back (although it was soooo tempting) because I knew she would've wanted that,reported her to myspace and her profile got deleted...oops. If she ever contacts me again my boyfreind and I will be going to the authorities.
I apologize for misrepresenting the "community college" comment. I should state that she went to a regular college first (where she knew my bf) and now attends community college. I wasn't trying to sound better in any way, I was just commenting on the fact that we both go to college (because college is college) and whereas I started at a state university and now go to a more advanced one she had no business getting on me about "bettering oneself."
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I wonder if her name is Marci....just kidding! Me and the ex had a few Myspace stalkers.
Looking at Marci took all the anger out of me because....that poor girl!
Try to think of it that way. She will never have what you have as far as genes...probably not even with a stint on The Swan.
PS Holy shit!! Is that Gem?
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It's Jerrica...I love it! I watched JEM religiously when I was a kid, that's awesome...hehe!
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/\ /\ /\ Yes!!! I love Jem!
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"Dance" was my favorite, and "Roxy" and "Rapture" were my fave villianesses. I have seasons 1 and 2 on DVD...they're not going to come out w/ season 3 which really ticks me off!!!...I guess I'll never get to see "The Stinger" episodes again... *sigh*
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norcalgirl
Not to mention she's never been to my club or even MET me!
Exactly. She's never met you, doesn't know you.
Let it go.
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Mileia777
It's Jerrica...I love it! I watched JEM religiously when I was a kid, that's awesome...hehe!
i got a jem doll! :P there's a little switch in the back, and the earrings light up
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/\ /\ /\ I still have my Jem doll! It sounds like the exact same one as yours ;D Ha, this ironically turned into a thread about something I love (Jem) when originally it began as something I hate (jealous fat girls.)