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Had my baby at 6 months need positive vibes and prayers
After spending 3 weeks in hospital for pre-term labor I gave birth to Jayden Michael at 24 wks 3 days. 15 weeks before my due date.
I don't know where to start.
So I went through an exact repeat of what happened to me last year but with a much better outcome, thank GOD. I went in to labor at 22 weeks was admitted into one of the top hospitals in the country and because of what happened last year was then referred to a high risk fetal medicine team who fought tooth and nail to keep my baby inside of me. On saturday I started to contract again and after sustaining the pregnancy for 2 1/2 weeks they decided that due to the risk of infection and fetal stress that my baby was better outside of me in NICU (neonatal intensive care) than inside. They had bought an extra 2 1/2 weeks of him in side of me and had already administered steriod injections to develop his lungs because we knew that I wouldn't make it to 40 weeks. They felt that they would rather have an early baby with no infection that a slightly older baby with infection and the hospital where he is they have viability at 23 weeks 5 days, so I had just made it (They save babies born at 22 weeks but the hospital statics show that 23 weeks and 5 days is when then the babies at that particular hospital go on to survive with little to no defects) I had to make a decision on the spot so I agreed and within 30 minutes they were performing the emergency c section. I don't remember too much about the whole ordeal because everything is such a blur in my mind but they got him out as quick as they could in to the incubator and into NICU. I only got to see him for a split second.
I thought that my life was over and on sunday was ready to give up. I just couldn't do it again, not again. I was a mess and in a really bad state of depression and post-traumatic stress. Most of all I was confused I didn't know who I was where I was and I couldn't grasp on to the fact that I was a mother. The whole exp was too surreal. I couldn't even face my own son, I was too scared to look at him :'( I felt so detached. On monday I went to visit him and he looked so beautiful and peaceful lying there in his incubator, he melted my heart. At that moment the Dr. came over to and prepared me for the worst.. that he even if comes through this there still may be disabilities that will have to deal with :'( . Five minutes later I lost my hearing and was blinded by a bright light, I couldn't breath and collapsed right there in the neonatal intensive care unit. They had to sound the code blue alarm so when I came to I was on the floor sorrounded by doctors, nurses, security guards, babies lol the scene was unbelievable. I remember loosing my hearing and not being able to see my husband in front of me just this white light (lol just like the movies altough I can promise you there was no angels or heaven. It is a blinding light and that is it LOL ) then it was as if something was on my chest and I was fighting to breath, then I could hear my hubby saying to me "remember Jayden" and I came too. That was all it took. After I callopased and was taken to my room I became was a different person! The depression was lifted and I was so much more positive.. I needed something dramatic to happen for me to snap out of the hell I was in.
SO fast forward a week a later...........
Things are really looking good! He is in the NICU (neonatal intensive care unit) and is doing REMARKABLY well everybody is amazed. He is doing mostly everything a full term baby does even though he was born 15 weeks prematurely. His heart, brain and chest x ray's show no trauma or bleeding. He is peeing having, bowel movements, is EXTREMELY active (constantly trying to pull out his tubes lol he is so cute!) He will grasp om to your finger when you touch his hand, a very good sign meaning that he is responsive. He needs 10% oxygen apart from that all breathing is his own. He is doing so well that they want him to slow down so that he doesn't use up too much of his energy, sometimes they have to strap him down lol because they wiggles around to much which lowers his oxygen levels. He even opened his eyes yesterday which they said would take a few more weeks. The doctors agreed that because he has come so far in less than a week that they could try to introduce my breast milk so now they are feeding him 1cc of milk every 6 hours, through a tube. This is a huge deal because generally babies feed when they are full term but he seems to be handling it well. He is just so advanced so early.
As for his care he is in the no.1 hospital in the state and no. 3 in the country for neonatal care. The sucsees rate at the hopital (as in babies born at least 22 weeks, who survive with minimall to no defects) is extremely high. My son's doctor is so wonderful she actually sleeps in the hospital. all the neonatologists do in that hospital they don't believe in having any residents in the unit or doctors on call, so that god forbid a dr was needed at 3 am someone would be there within seconds. These people dedicate their life to that job and the babies which is why the hospital ranks so high. His hospital care will ending up costing over $100,000 which I have medical coverage for however because he weighs less than 2lbs once all of my insurance is used up, the government will pay for the rest of the medical cost.
I have 24/7 acsses to the NICU so I can see him whenever I choose I also can call 24 hours a day to speak to his doctor or nurse. In 2 weeks I should be a able to hold him and feed him from my breasts in another 4 weeks. He will be allowed to go home god willing in July when he is at least 34 weeks and weighing no less than 4lbs. The hospital will continue to follow him for the first 2 years of his life.. they will provide any threapy or care he needs and then at 2 years old they will conduct an IQ test to see where his metal development is at. If he does well on the IQ test he will be discharged from out patient and if he still needs help they will continue to work with him. He has such an amazing team.
I still have a long road to travel and need to take each day by day anything could still happen so please please I need all your positive vibes and prayers that my baby continues to make progress and we make it through. :) I have faith that all will be good. God is great and Jayden has made it so far everyday is a miracle. My life has changed in a matter of weeks . It is amazing the things that we humans take for granted. I can't begin to even explain to you how it feels to look at a 1lb 40z tiny person who is stronger than everybody I know, myself included. Life truly is a miracle.
PS. Please excuse my spelling and grammer my head is still over the place lol. After 3 weeks I was discharged late last night and haven't really slept during that whole time. I'm still trying to adjust to everything.
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Re: Had my baby at 6 months need positive vibes and prayers
Ack, what a terrible situation to have to be in! I wish you and Jayden all the best of luck. *good vibes* :hug:
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Seraya I will keep you, your husband, and Jayden in my thoughts and prayers, its wonderful to hear that he is doing well, and has a strong fighting spirit! Keep us posted, and congrats on a beautiful baby boy!
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Wow, I am so sorry you're being put through this, but I'm very glad to hear that Jayden is doing so well. Congratulations on being a mom :) You & your family are in my thoughts.
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Oh Seraya *hugs*
I actually started to cry the second I saw the thread title, I was so scared it would be a repeat of last time... reading the rest of the post though left me with a smile and a heartache for you.
Im glad this is turning out better then last time. My thoughts and prayers are with you through this and I wish you nothing but the best of luck.
Keep us posted please. *hugs*
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I'm so glad he's doing well (and you too!! I understand the feeling of going into labor that early, but they were able to stop it, so I could never understand what you're going through right now!
That's sooo awesome that he's feeding! are you doing kangaroo care?? probably if you're in the best hospital!
(((HUGS)))
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Oh my gosh, that made me cry. I have you and Jayden in my thoughts am I'm pushing tons of positive vibes your way. :grouphug:
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Hey Seraya! I'm so happy to finally hear from you. You and your family are always in my thoughts and prayers. I will most definately keep praying for you and the baby. You two have to fight the fight together.
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I was thinking of you and your baby a few days ago wondering where you have been from SW. Im so glad your story has a happy ending to it this time. You made me all teary eyed reading your post. All of you have amazing strength to keep going and facing head on whatever comes especially Jayden.
I pray he continues to do well and that all his upcoming tests turn out positive.
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You're in our thoughts. :hug:
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I've been thinking of you, and wondering how you were doing, and when I first read this, I thought, Oh, God, not again. I was just brand new here when you lost the baby last year, but that story stayed with me, and hurt me, and I alwyas think of you and hope you are doing well.
I was elated to read you were pregnant again, and I have thought of you many times and hoped for a healthy pregnancy.
While it's still a terrible thing to have a preemie, I'm so happy and relieved that your son is alive, and as healthy as can be expected, and will survive.
You and your baby are in my thoughts and prayers always.
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Be confident, you will all be fine. We're glad to hear from you. Of course my prayers are with you.
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Thank you so much guys the support on this place always keeps me strong! :grouphug:
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TheSexKitten
Ack, what a terrible situation to have to be in! I wish you and Jayden all the best of luck. *good vibes* :hug:
Thanks for your vibes.
I try not to think of the situation as terrible. After what happened last year the thought of going through this again was unbearable but it's funny how life takes a hold of you (i knew my chances for preterm birth would be higher). It happened and now he is here so strong and resilient! It is a blessing the total opposite of terrible. :)
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glad to hear the good news! best wishes to you and your new extended family! children are indeed the greatest gift. :)
the joy in my heart goes out to you on your good news but also my continued compassion and sympathy goes out to my friend who is likely reading this. we should all be thankful for our children and loved ones, especially over this memorial holiday.
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sassysummer
I'm so glad he's doing well (and you too!! I understand the feeling of going into labor that early, but they were able to stop it, so I could never understand what you're going through right now!
That's sooo awesome that he's feeding! are you doing kangaroo care?? probably if you're in the best hospital!
(((HUGS)))
OMG yes yes I cant wait to do the Kangaroo care. I'm taking classes in neonatology and we were shown a video of the kangaroo care I couldn't hold back the tears. God willing in another 2 weeks I will get that chance.
They were able to stop the contractions, I was responding the medication really well however the sac was starting to fall in to my vagina and they didn't want to the take the risk of infection and then passing the infection on to the baby so they decided that it would be best to get him out.
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:goodvibes :goodvibes
i'm thinking about ya! :hug:
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Kaylinn
What's kangaroo care?
Hi hun here is some info from http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kangaroo_care
Kangaroo care is a way of holding a preterm infantskin-to-skin contact between the infant and the person holding it. The baby, wearing only a diaper, is held against the parent's bare chest. Kangaroo care is typically practiced for two to three hours per day, skin-to-skin, over an extended time period in early infancy. With babies who are medically stable, there is no maximum duration for kangaroo care, some parents may keep their babies in-arms for many hours per day.
Researchers have found that the close physical contact with the parent can help to stabilize the preterm infant's heartbeat, temperature, and breathing. Preterm infants often have difficulty coordinating their breathing and heart rate. Researchers also have found that mothers who use kangaroo care often have more success with breastfeeding and improve their milk supply. Further, researchers have found that preterm infants who experience kangaroo care have longer periods of sleep, gain more weight, decrease their crying, have longer periods of alertness, and earlier hospital discharge.
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Dearest Seraya,
Tears are in my eyes. I am so happy for you and also praying for continued good news about your family. Good luck with everything, poor girl, you have been through so much. Wishing only the best, kat.
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Seraya,
I'm so happy for you! I was scared when I started reading the thread, remembering what you went through last time. You are going to be a remarkable mother. I'm sending positive vibes your way...congrats to you and your hubby :)
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Did anyone notice we have stripperweb/wiki? Dont want to highjack here.
Thats an interesting idea to help infants grow and keep healthy. Ive read about that somewhere else once too.
Just want to say that eventhough the experience was scary all over again Im sure you are more than overjoyed (and your strong mamma instincts kicked in) that he is stronger and stronger each day. I hope the being scared part is over and he can come home to live out a healthy happy life with wonderful parents.
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My prayers are with you and baby Jayden.
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I'm so glad you have such a healthy and beautiful baby, and that you got the care you and your family deserve. You're in my thoughts and prayers.
I have no doubt your baby will be more then fine, he has strong parents, and I'm sure he's just as strong.
(ps: congratulations!)