personal life getting in the way
So..Ive hit a little wall...
My personal life seems to be interferring with my professional life. Now, I put this in hustle hut because it is a question about how to make money when you are feeling shitty.
Ive been trying to make this huge move out to Hawaii and Im working my butt off to get there with a pretty penny. But I keep running into obstacles. Financial aid needs to be paid, I need to get an apartment, etc etc.
I try keeping the smile on my face and I try to be friendly, too, but I think the customers can see that I am totally faking my attitude, which = less $$. So, is there some clever trick I can use that will prevent me from acting so fake, yet get these guys to give me more?
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there is no trick. what you have to do takes great will power and even the best hustlers cannot always do it. you have to come into work, and become your stripper persona. always happy, always having fun. fuck money, it's just money-type attitude. the attitude is everything! you have to put it completely out of your mind. get a massage/take a bath/calm YOU (real you) the afternoon/day before work. when you get to work, do up the makeup, do up the hair. you are now STRIPPER YOU, with a calm beginning. put money out of your mind. completely. talk about the move to hawaii, fine, but dont talk about getting there and all the stress with it. talk about how fun it will be, the sights to see, use it as a marketing tool! "i wont even be here soon, let's go have fun while i still am here!"
when you feel shittastic, you cannot let it come into the club with you. leave it in the car. resume it in the car. do NOT bring it inside. walk thru those doors with a smile on your face and KNOW you will make money and have a good night. why? because money doesnt matter and you are there to have FUN and dance your cute lil behind off.
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Totally agree, you have to become an actress to make this work for you. Soon as you step into your car, turn off the "you"
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I have the same problem - the more I need the money, the less of it I'm able to make. I find it helps to chill, go to the gym, listen to fun silly music, etc. Then I go to work a little early and do my makeup and hair in the dressing room, sometimes with a drink. It helps put me in "stripper mode" better and eases me into it. It doesn't always completely fix the problem, but it helps a lot.
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i had a panic attack at work the other night.
i had had two bad experiences with guys in one week and at the time, thought that the guy i was sleeping with was over me and i had also cut muy hair real short and dyed it plum red which made me feel very unattractive so i was feeling pretty low inside and then being at work on a busy weekend night full of assholes, i just freaked out. i thought i felt better the next night but i didnt and i ran out on work. ive since taken 2 weeks off to get my head straight and realised the following:
the custies opinion of me does not matter
dont work wen youre feeling shitty
im there to make money, not be validated
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I am the same way.. when my bf and I argue it puts me in a totally shitty mood, and I feel like I cant work that night... Honestly, what helps me most.. is just RELAX... maybe have a drink to relax you, but dont drink too much bc wnen you get drunk u tend to get emotional, or atleast i do, and cry and think about things on my mind...
Think of being on the beach.... hear the waves, feel the cool breeze, seriously visualize it... as stupid as it sounds, it always works for me!!!!
and get ya hustle on girrrrl!!! visit hustle hut as often as possible and go to work with a goal, and remember u are there to make $$$ not to sit around and waste time...
good luck!!!! xoxo
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I'd give you the opposite advice to everyone else. If I'm feeling bitchy and I can't seem to shake it I start acting bitchy. You know, overly so. Making up stupid mocking answers to everything the customers ask (like "Are those yours? - No, I borrowed them from my granma," "can I sit here? -As soon as you give me money," "is the VIP any good? -No I'm absolutely crap at it" etc). This goes against every rule out there, probably, but I've found that it works.
The reason I suspect that it works is that a) I'm playing by their stereotype of the streetwise bitchy stripper and b) at least I'm being honest so there's no phoniness to be detected in my words/gestures. This of course only attracts a certain type of a customer, but the customers you get with this approach tend to be very eager to please you/make you happy and in their vain attempt to prove their worth to you they end up parting with A LOT of money.
Of course you can't be needlessly mean, you can't tell custies to fuck off or for example if they comment meanly on your look/attitude you've just got to turn their comment into something seemingly positive rather than going "well you're fat too" or offending them in any way. You've got to make it very clear it is about you and your attitude, not because there's something wrong with them. Act like a spoiled little princess who hasn't gotten her way.
The mean bitch is a stripper persona that can work but you've got to know how to work it I suppose.
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I have to disassociate myself from anything negative (husband, bills, family, ect) prior to work. I read a book from successories (30 min modivational quotes) eat a clean meal, put on favorite music, and get ready early. Dont answer your phone if you know it is going to spoil your mood!