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I feel like the girls don't like me at all, and its making me kinda self conscious
I don't know if all of you might not be able to understand but i guess let me explain the situation...
I work at a club during the dayshift where the majority of the girls (usually like 4 or 5 besides me) are older (30 and up). And I am 21 about to be 22. For me as a person, i'm generally not that talkative and kind of to myself. There are different rooms u can sit in, in the dressing room, so not all the girls are in one room, staring and rolling their eyes all day, many of the girls be in their own space or whatnot. BUT, i always feel like i'm being talked about or i hear them talking about me or something like that. I generally get business because i'm nice and friendly and give a sexy sensual dance. And I think this is making the other strippers upset cause i'm making a lil money and taking from them. But i'm not trying to take from them, I just get there first. The DJ was like yesterday, maybe i should "take a day off" or somethin like that. But i'm still goin in today cause i want some $$$ to keep building my savings up...
anyway i guess my question is, does anyone else have problems like this at your clubs with girls. I know it says on here you should always hang out with the girls on the floor to make it seem like to the customers your friendly and personable and liked and all of that, but i don't do that, because when i do say hi to those bitches, they give me some short "hey", all low voiced and shyt. i'm not gonna be kissin no bodies ass when i dont have to, i'm not workin at wall street, this is the strip club. and the men like me, so thats all that really matters. i dunno... let me here ya'll's opinion.
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Re: I feel like the girls don't like me at all, and its making me kinda self consciou
Actually hanging out with the girls on the floor can be a bad thing. It is intimidating for men to walk up to a group of women esp a group of dancers so customers might to reluctant to approach u if u are sitting chatting with the other girls. I say keep the chatting to the dressing room.
But if u want to get on friendlier terms with the other dancers just be nice and friendly and helpful.
When I first started at my club I noticed that a good way to make friends was sometimes to suggest double dances to custoemrs and then go ask one of the girls if she would like to do a double with u.
A girl is gonna start thinking your ok if u help her make some $$$$
Now I have had some newbies do this to me and I just couldnt help but think they were cool for doing that.
It's ok to stick to yourself too. Just smile at the other girls and never talk shit about other girls and u will be fine. It takes time for u to be accepted. So many girls come and go through the club that the girls will onyl make an effort to get to knnow u once they realise u r stikign around.
No use making friends if u r gonna be gone in a week.
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Re: I feel like the girls don't like me at all, and its making me kinda self consciou
Wanna know my way of getting the girls to like me at a new club? Bring food! Seriously, strawberries are in season and super cheap right now.. I just stop by the grocery store on the way there and pick up a box to share. I always bring healthy stuff to share.. some other ideas are carrot sticks, grapes, bread/crackers and a hunk of good cheese, cherries, nuts... you get the idea :)
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Re: I feel like the girls don't like me at all, and its making me kinda self consciou
Eh, fuck them...I've beenworking at my club for 6months, and I STILL get girls who ask me if I'm new. Know why, because I come to the club ready to work, and I keep to myself. Dont get me wrong, I'm not snob by anymeans, I'm cordial to everyone..but I am not one of those girls who wants/needs/desires to be Miss Popularity in the dressingroom...
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Re: I feel like the girls don't like me at all, and its making me kinda self consciou
Just give it time. I started working dayshift at my club and was serously making money cos the other girls were quite lazy or just ignored the customers and kept talking amongst themselves. I smiled and introduced myself to the girls and slowly started making small talk with them. Some were friendly and some not. You dont need to be best friends with everyone at work but it is nice if u have a few chicks to chat to.
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Re: I feel like the girls don't like me at all, and its making me kinda self consciou
Older dancers ( being one myself ) kind of ignore the young'un's. It's not because I don't like the little girls, it's because I am at work and well.. working. I'm polite to everyone, friendly and so forth. Plus if your a new girl at a club and there are dancers there that are already established they are sort of waiting to see if you are okay. As in not, Psycho, a druggie and having other baggage that comes with some dancers.
It'll be okay. Just do your thing and be sweet..
You will do just fine :)
R
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Re: I feel like the girls don't like me at all, and its making me kinda self consciou
Maybe switch shifts or clubs & try working with 10+ dancers per shirt. I bet you will feel less self conscious.
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Re: I feel like the girls don't like me at all, and its making me kinda self consciou
I kind of feel the same way about my club...but it doesnt bother me. While all these girls are sitting in the dressing room bitching about how money sucks tonight...I'm out making money and it didnt suck for me :)
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Re: I feel like the girls don't like me at all, and its making me kinda self consciou
in my short dancing career (1 year), i've found that girls will talk about you no matter what. like you, i'm reserved and keep to myself in the dressing room and am polite to everyone and work when i'm out on the floor, often making more than the rest. it's only been recently that i've heard what people are saying about me.
drunk dancer: "you said that you were from a higher class than the rest of the dancers so you don't have to be nice to anyone!"
me: "really? have i ever been not nice to anyone here?"
drunk dancer: "oh, i think you're really nice! that's just what other girls have been saying, that you are from a higher class. we're all strippers and we're all here to make money, no matter where we come from."
me: "so where did this come from?"
dancer: "you said to another dancer when she asked for eyelash glue, 'i don't wear that fake shit!'"
me: "i did? uhh, no. i just said that i didn't wear fake eyelashes. i never said 'fake shit'".
dancer: "i love you, elizabeth!"
geez louise!
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Re: I feel like the girls don't like me at all, and its making me kinda self consciou
^^^Insecurity is a BITCH. You said, "No, I don't have what you need" and she heard, "You're trashy and fake." I HATE that. I've gotten that in the past because of the way I carry myself.
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Re: I feel like the girls don't like me at all, and its making me kinda self consciou
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Originally Posted by
Dottie Rebel
^^^Insecurity is a BITCH. You said, "No, I don't have what you need" and she heard, "You're trashy and fake." I HATE that. I've gotten that in the past because of the way I carry myself.
like i said, girls will hate you for ANYTHING.
i've learned that the only thing that matters is what i feel about myself, whether i'm classy, ethical, and polite, which i believe i am. i've come to understand that these other girls don't know me at all so they have no authority to judge me so.
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Re: I feel like the girls don't like me at all, and its making me kinda self consciou
Women all hate each other.
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Re: I feel like the girls don't like me at all, and its making me kinda self consciou
^no, that's not true. if a man starts a war with another man, does that mean men all hate each other?
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Re: I feel like the girls don't like me at all, and its making me kinda self consciou
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Originally Posted by
mina loy
^no, that's not true. if a man starts a war with another man, does that mean men all hate each other?
Being a man is easier than being a woman.
A man can have his shit together and other men appreciate.
Some will undoubtedly hate.
I got 2 sisters, I know how women get.
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Re: I feel like the girls don't like me at all, and its making me kinda self consciou
^ not all Women. To the OP, like others have said no matter where you go someone is not gonna like you. it sucks but try to ignore it the best you can and just focus on your money, the entire reason you are there. I know its fun to have a buddy to chat with but for now just ignore it and make lots of $$$ =)!
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Re: I feel like the girls don't like me at all, and its making me kinda self consciou
I agree with bringing food. After a few drinks are in their system break it out, they'll love you for it. ;D ;D
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Re: I feel like the girls don't like me at all, and its making me kinda self consciou
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Originally Posted by
miss marina
^ not all Women. To the OP, like others have said no matter where you go someone is not gonna like you. it sucks but try to ignore it the best you can and just focus on your money, the entire reason you are there. I know its fun to have a buddy to chat with but for now just ignore it and make lots of $$$ =)!
Would you say it's more common for women to hate on women or for men to hate on men?
That's all I'm saying...
And why you feelin crappy?
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Re: I feel like the girls don't like me at all, and its making me kinda self consciou
lol u edited ur post quick there jose3030...
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Re: I feel like the girls don't like me at all, and its making me kinda self consciou
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miss marina
lol u edited ur post quick there jose3030...
You caught the ninja edit?
http://smiliesftw.com/x/ninja3.gif
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Re: I feel like the girls don't like me at all, and its making me kinda self consciou
look, men hate on each other just as much. Girls in the club are competing for money. of course they are going to be more catty(in the club)
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Re: I feel like the girls don't like me at all, and its making me kinda self consciou
You never answered my question..
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Re: I feel like the girls don't like me at all, and its making me kinda self consciou
^^^ Dude... you're not a ninja. Just another chauvinistic, assuming GUY (*ahem, troll*) posting in Stripping General. However, you and your idiotic comments could make like ninjas and just disappear from this section...
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Re: I feel like the girls don't like me at all, and its making me kinda self consciou
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Originally Posted by
Embyr
^^^ Dude... you're not a ninja. Just another chauvinistic, assuming GUY (*ahem, troll*) posting in Stripping General. However, you and your idiotic comments could make like ninjas and just disappear from this section...
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I said "ninja edit"..
Nevermind.
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Re: I feel like the girls don't like me at all, and its making me kinda self consciou
I just read the "Important Information"
No wonder y'all mean to me, I'm not supposed to be in this forum.
Oops. :)
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