To tell or not to tell friends you go to school with
Ok. So here's the story....I'm in my first year of grad school, and I'm working to pay for school. I've danced on and off for three years and all of my friends from before grad school know I dance. They're all cool with it and I knew they would be because they are all super cool and open-minded people.
What's been on my mind lately is whether or not to tell one of my good friends from school. My department is small and I'm pretty good friends with everyone. During the school year it was easy to explain why I "couldn't hang out" on this or that night (i.e., I had to go to work (about an hour away)), I'd just say I had a lot of work to get done. But now that summer's here it's harder to explain why I'm not hanging out. I don't necessarily want to tell everyone, but maybe just the one girl I hang out with/study with the most. Although since we all hang out I kind of worry that if I tell one person they will all eventually find out. My fear all along has been that it might eventually come to bite me in the ass, and I've never wanted my job to put me at a disadvantage in school. But I don't like lying and trying to hide what I do. I feel like I live a double life and it's troubling. I don't think there's anything wrong with dancing and honestly, I'd question my friendship with anyone who had a problem with me after they found out.
What should I do? Keep it to myself as long as I can to avoid a sticky situation? Or out myself?
On an interesting side note: I've been out with said friend and pulled out a bunch of singles and she made a joke like "oh, what have YOU been doing?" If only she knew! Maybe next time I should test the waters and say "what's wrong with stripping anyway?" I dunno know.
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If your feeling the slightest bit of worry, don't do it. I mean, it's nobody's business what you do with your life. Keep it to yourself if there's a chance it could be used against you.
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Hmmm...how well do you know these friends? I told a select few when I was in grad school, but only after I knew that they would keep the secret. It worked out fine for me....then again, only you interact with these girls on a regular basis. Good luck.
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Yeah. It's just that I feel like these people don't really know me. It's funny cause I just got back from dinner and one of my friends was like "I didn't know that strippers had to pay to work and be on stage. That's so wrong." I just wanna say something. Do I really have anything to worry about in telling them? I don't think they'd hold it against me, but I'm more worried about others finding out or having possible conflicts in the future where there's something to use against me.
Anyone have any experiences in this situation? If you told people did you regret it?
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If you don't want everyone at school to know, don't tell anyone. You cannot assume that any person you tell will keep it quiet. This is great gossip material, after all. People love to talk about this kind of thing.
I have told people and had it backfire.
Re: To tell or not to tell friends you go to school with
[QUOTE=Bridgette;1126883]If you don't want everyone at school to know, don't tell anyone. You cannot assume that any person you tell will keep it quiet. This is great gossip material, after all. People love to talk about this kind of thing.
I have told people and had it ba
totally agree.. great advice...