Customers making demands for stage shows
maybe this isn't as big a deal. But it always bugs the hell out of me.
Normally I make a point of having a good connection with someone at the rack. But I was in a bad mood because hardly anyone was tipping, and I had the worst cramps and could barely get through my stage set.
So this guy (who's only tipping a dollar) shouts out "eye contact!" I say "what?" and he says "I want more eye contact!" Maybe it was the fact that he was only tipping minimum, but it really pissed me off. I had been making eye contact, just not full on through the whole dance.
This is a more minor example. Occasioanlly a guy will try to dictate my whole dance, in which case I usually just give a snotty "what was that, Mr. Director?"
Anyway, how do you deal with it when guys try to tell you what to do on stage?
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And part two, for certain "requests", do you think there's a way to capitalize on this? Is it appropriate to ask for an extra tip? Maybe not for eye contact, but when a guy says "do that blah blah move again!!" I want to please my custies of course, and seem likable, but I don't much like the idea of being a puppet for two guys tipping minimum.
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My standard line is "this aint Burger King honey...you dont get to have it YOUR way"
Or I'll tell them that I only take requests for $50 not $1.
As for the eye contact guy..I'm a bitch..so I would have stared at him for a second, then flipped him off.
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My ex-husband had an irritating line whenever I made an "I want" demand. Of course, I have now ripped it off for my own. When a customer cops a 'tude and tells me what he wants, I just smile and nod, and say, "It's good to want things. It builds character."
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LOL, both of those are great! Now I can't wait to bust them out. Thanks!
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A girl i used to dance with used to say "I dont take requests" or "im not a jukebox".
They get the point.
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^^Kinda the same thing I did the other night. He said, "dance", waving his hands like I'm a monkey or something. I don't dance like I'm in a night club at work. Mr. cheapass.. I replied for a bit more tip I can do that and that I am a woman you do not tell me what to do. He starts to tell me that I can coaxing me to do it. He didn't win.
I would at least ask for some tip. No tippy, no special attention.
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My regular right now sometimes says things like "Spread your legs and stare into my eyes" when I'm on stage, but that's sort of what I do anyway sometimes, so it's not that big of a deal, to me anyway. He also tips hundreds on stage, so I am willing to accommodate his drunken, boyish requests.
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i completely ignore anyone who shouts any "command" at me on stage. right after they do it, even if i was 4 inches from them at the time, i will stand up/walk away/whatever and -completely- ignore them for the rest of my stage show.
i don't look at them, i don't listen to them, and i don't talk to them.
sometimes silence says more than words.
guys who are "barking" commands at you have no respect for you anyway. they don't care if it upsets you. what -does- bother them is when they feel their ego has been hurt. i think that's why the silent treatment can be usefull.
it also helps if there are other men sitting at the stage with better attitudes. because then i will spend more time dancing closer to them, doing moves for them, smiling at them, etc. while mr. disrespectfull sits over yonder.
one guy yelled something like "PULL THOSE FUCKING PANTIES OVER" at me (and i work topless..not nude anyway). i walked away from him, ignored him, and spent time around the other guys. he started yelling "hey! come over here!" ... "hey.. come OVER HEEREEEEE" while waving a dollar. lol ... that went on for 2 songs. at one point he actually said "ARE YOU DEAF"
dumbass
went i left the stage i waved goodbye at him and blew him a kiss. the other men at the stage side all laughed. they knew why i wasn't paying him any attention in the first place, and they actually tipped me more because he was being a jerk.
i could tell he was pissed when the other guys laughed at him. haha... loser.
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Good comeback to that when your feeling bitchy is.. "Sorry sweets, I'm not desperate. Like you."
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I ignore and crawl away to a polite customer... They usually don't make demands until I'm down on the floor in front of them, then they're like "spread your legs!!" or "show us the pussy!" or "lets see some ass"... fucktards. lol. It's kind of funny to me... I'm not used to doing the whole open leg thing b/c at cheetahs.. we just didn't do that, when we accepted our tips we closed our legs and knelt down to the side, no pussy showing at all! So to be DEMANDED by some asshole waving a washington to show my pussy... not happening.
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I like to look at them with a smile and say real sweetly, "Sugar, I don't come down to WalMart to tell you how to greet the customers so don't come in here and tell me how to do my job.";)
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Andygirl
I like to look at them with a smile and say real sweetly, "Sugar, I don't come down to WalMart to tell you how to greet the customers so don't come in here and tell me how to do my job.";)
Thats hilarious!!!! Permission to use??;D
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hehe. man this threaqd makes me mad..after a bad night, its a reminder of assholes i encounted today lol.
but anyways, i do the same thing pretty penny does..just ignore them on purpose and be all cutesy to another customer. they usually get hurt and leave.
but thats if im in a GOOD mood.
if im in a bitchy pms mood, ill jus say things back like, "dont tell me how to do my job!" or if they say "baby take it off already! lets see that pussy!" ill reply, "then take out your wallet!" or a simple "patience!" "youre requesting something with that amount of money? baby thats nothing to me."
grr sometimes i do okay handling it, but i wish i knew better ways. usually if im in an okay mood and they ask me to take it off or something, ill jus say "i like to be a tease".
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cameron_keys
My standard line is "this aint Burger King honey...you dont get to have it YOUR way"
Or I'll tell them that I only take requests for $50 not $1.
As for the eye contact guy..I'm a bitch..so I would have stared at him for a second, then flipped him off.
I'm with Cameron...I tell them requests start at $50, so unless they plan of pulling out at least 49 more dollars they should zip it and save that hefty $1 for the ride home.
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^^I like that!
This is another thing that bothers me about stripping. I certainly won't take requests for a freakin' dollar, but way too many girls will. I'm not going to flip upside down and put my crotch in your face, but it really doesn't matter, since the girl before me and the one after me probably will.
I always look at them and say, "Dude, it's just a dollar" in a snotty voice.
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the dancers i work with will either make the money sign with their hand(rubbing fingers together) or if the guy says "i want...." she'll say "want in one hand and shit in the other, see which fills up faster"
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Andygirl
I like to look at them with a smile and say real sweetly, "Sugar, I don't come down to WalMart to tell you how to greet the customers so don't come in here and tell me how to do my job.";)
Ha! I use a version of that one too. "Look, I don't come to your job and tell YOU how to sweep the floors!" :)