Staying Positive After a Slump?
I've been doing pretty well since I started dancing. I've seen my self gradually getting better and recently have been very proud of myself. I've felt like "wow I'm really starting to get this down and I'm getting good at my hustle". Then wham 3 shifts in a row I just havent cut it. My Thursday wasnt horrible, but not good by my standards. Friday was awful, I got so frustrated...I walked with 130$ the least I've made since I've started dancing. I went in agan last night figuring it was just not my night Friday...but I had a horrible night last night too!
Now I know I have to accepy that there are gonna be bad nights...but how do you girls stay confident and positive? I find that I get to a certain point that I just start to feel like shit and nitpick at myself...and once I get there it makes it harder to make money because I've started to loose my confidence. I get that "maybe its just me, maybe I just suck" mentality. I'm usually a pretty confident person, but I think I let the bad nights get to me too much, making it harder for me to have a good night. So I was just wondering if anyone has any tips to keep yourself from getting to down over a shitty night or a little slump.
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I posted this a long time ago...maybe it will help
You just gotta take the good with the bad, and brush it off. If you let the bad get to you, it's gonna manifest and start a snowball effect.
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Thanks. That was pretty helpful :)
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I agree with Kaylinn.
Also, don't nit pick at yourself, that just erodes your confidence more. You have to love yourself no matter how much money you make. Otherwise you are giving the customers way too much power over you self esteem.
Take the good with the bad and save your money so that when it's bad, you won't be devastated. Try to always have fun, and when it's good streak ride it out and take it for everything you can!
Good Luck!
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Yep...there are good night and bad nights. Just realize that tomorrow is another day and a whole new ball game. Last week I worked two days. One I left OWING money(though they didnt make me pay it). Literally..I made $5 all day and gave that to the DJ(its a $10 minimum..but hes insanly cool and I had to MAKE him take the $5 because he knew I didnt make anything. Didnt pay house..nothing. Needless to say..I was bummed.
The second night my good reg cmae in..I drank expensive champagne all night and walked out with a LOT...over $1600 AFTER tipping out VERY well.
So...my point is, you never know.
If its been too many bad nights in a row and you are getting down..take a cpl nights off and recharge. And dont sweat it..it isnt you, its just the nature of the biz.
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Thanks.. I needed to read this. I literally made NOTHING tonight!!!! :'( I was SOOOOO frustrated and mad.... . but I guess you're right, that's the business.. I hope tomorrow is good
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I keep spreadsheets of what I make each shift. This helps me keep my earnings in perspective--I can see both the good and the bad. Try to average your earnings for each shift you have worked for the past week, month, etc.
I recall your thread about your $1000 night, Taylorlila. Try to average that into your three shit nights, and it might make you feel better. Remember, you are the same person who had that awesome night, not a horrible dancer who makes shit for money.
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I am goin through the same thing except my personal life is messing with my head at work. Tonight will be tough for me. It won't always be a 600 + night. Mabey go do somthing nice for yourself no matter how big or small before work. A new dance outfit that always helps me make money.
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cameron_keys
Yep...there are good night and bad nights. Just realize that tomorrow is another day and a whole new ball game. Last week I worked two days. One I left OWING money(though they didnt make me pay it). Literally..I made $5 all day and gave that to the DJ(its a $10 minimum..but hes insanly cool and I had to MAKE him take the $5 because he knew I didnt make anything. Didnt pay house..nothing. Needless to say..I was bummed.
The second night my good reg cmae in..I drank expensive champagne all night and walked out with a LOT...over $1600 AFTER tipping out VERY well.
So...my point is, you never know.
If its been too many bad nights in a row and you are getting down..take a cpl nights off and recharge. And dont sweat it..it isnt you, its just the nature of the biz.
Yep, yep, yep. Our club, well fuck, our city is getting to that super hit or miss time of the year. I had a 1k+ hit last week, and the other 3 nights were ok, but nothing special.
Personally, I have been feeling super drained at work both physically and mentally. It is really hard to keep up a good attitude when the guys are giving you nothing to work with in terms of conversation and THEIR attitude. When I am in this kind of mental exhaustion, I would rather give up trying to get money out of them than let them suck every last bit of positive energy and happiness out of me. I just don't have enough excess to go giving it away to losers that are total black holes of negativity.
Sorry, this post is not helping. Just my $.02, it is that time of year.
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this is my motto, and i think for some ppl it may be helpful to copy this onto something you can put in your locker at work, so you see it often:
"You are the best, the prettiest and smartest dancer here. Smile. Have fun. You make more than most people make in a paycheck, so one bad day means nothing about your hustle."
what i am tryign to get across with this lil bit of pepping up is that sometimes the guys are just not quality, and there's only one diamond in the rough that night, and maybe you missed him bec someone else got there first. just remember, $130 in one night is still not awful. so long as that's not your consistent, and if it is, you may need to revamp your hustle. you also may be seeing the beginning signs of burnout, so if you are getting annoyed with custies, take a break (ike two or three days off) and get a massage to relax yourself and remind yourself how hot damn sexy you are.
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I always get annoyed by the custies. My hustle is circling the drain.....
I need to watch sunnie more....SHE'S got a hustle!!!