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I'm pretty new to this, so there may be better suggestions out there ... but when I get someone like that who doesn't respond AT ALL, just looks scared (which is surprisingly often???), I take his hand and start to inch away a little, to give him room to stand ... usually he'll get up and start walking. ??? Maybe they're scared to say yes and need you to take the initiative?
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^^ That's exactly what I would do. Instead of repeating myself and sounding like a hard sell, I'd hold out my hand and smile, maybe even give a little head jerk in the direction I wanted to go.
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You already said let's go, if he didn't say no he has agreed. Just take his hand and take him with you! Had you asked him if he wanted to go and he would've been silent then you can repeat yourself, like "come on, let's go!" and then grab his hand. Sometimes if the guy seems fresh it's also a good idea to mention about the price beforehand so you're sure they know what they're agreeing to by going with you. Some guys just plain love it when you take the initiative for once, oftentimes they have to fret over even saying hi to women so when they don't have to do/say anything they tend to be pleased.
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It happens to me all the time. I tend to just say, "come on, let's go." And pull them towards the dance area. I have a friend who says, kind of hypnotically, "yeeah, that sounds gooood, we'll doo thaat, hmm?" and repeats it. It works really well for her.
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i dunno, i usually push the hard sell for ppl like that. i make it seem like a deal, esp if during a dance, telling them how much better it is back there. but if it's before a dance, i put their hands on my hips and kinda pull them towards the vip room/dance area. and that seems to work for me, all while im making eye contact using my sexy/bedroom eyes.
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He likely was plain scared. Never had done it before, really wanted to go, but was worried, not just about the money but about what to expect, loss of control. In addition to the selling, some reassuring is probably in order. Maybe mix in a gentle, motherly touch with the flirtiness?
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Originally Posted by
JusticeSpeaks
Ok, so Im dancing for this guy, who looks like he's fresh out of highschool.
So Im being all sexy and stuff and then I try to hustle him a little for the backroom.
He's says hes never BEEN back there before... so I entice him further.
Then I say,"Lets take it to the next level... lets go."
Then he sits there, speechless... he even looks a little scared. I wanna say he gulped.
Mind you, this is a guy who came to me, interested in me, wanting to see me get naked.
He doesnt tell me yes or no... yet, I dont want to have to repeat myself again.
Maybe he doesnt have too many brightly lit bulbs in his head... but, give me SOMETHING.
I didnt know if he was still contemplating it or if I should entice him more. It was weird!
What do you suppose was going on?
Have you ever had a customer give you a silent response? And what do you do?
Like I said, he may have just been scared but then I thought maybe I missed something... and should have spoken up.
What do you think?:O
i know exactly what your talking about. i had a guy like that tonight. he was from out of town and had been club hopping all night. he told me that tomorrow is his birthday so i told him," well im glad you saved the best for last, let get away from all these people and go in the backroom so i can give you a birthday dance, you deserve it!" he looked at me with a blank stare so i just grabbed his hand and said ," come on, lets go." i pulled his hand and led the way to vip. i see girls do this so often, just grab the guys and pull them and say ,"come on." and they go! usually when i try this the guy pulls back and says no, no right now, but sometimes you have to be aggressive and insistant and tell him what hes going to do.
if he wanted you and called you over and you ask him if he wants a dance, take the initative and grab his hand and tell him, " Lets go!"
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Agreed with the advice to take the initiative. Grab his hand, stand up and start gently pulling him in the direction of the dance area. "Come on, let's go have some fun!" You can talk price on the way. Usually by the time you've gotten him up and walking in that direction, he's too far gone to disagree over the price ;D
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take his hand and wait for him to respond with body language, if he is in agreement he will get up and follow you.
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If you use this technique, just make sure the guy actually has money in his wallet before you start dancing. The last thing you need is some young guy saying, "I didn't know how much it was, she just grabbed me and took me back there." And unless you specifically talked about $$ beforehand he would have a point, a pathetic point, but a point nonetheless.
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when they go silent, just stare at them blankly for about 6 seconds and then go
"WOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOHOOOOOOOOOOOO!!!!!!!!!!!!!! !!!!!!!"
and leave.
if you can't get money out of them you can at least confuse them.
i'm jk (mostly) the "taking the lead" thing usually works. if not though, i stand by my original suggestion.
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Originally Posted by
Pretty_Penny
when they go silent, just stare at them blankly for about 6 seconds and then go
"WOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOHOOOOOOOOOOOO!!!!!!!!!!!!!! !!!!!!!"
and leave.
if you can't get money out of them you can at least confuse them.
^^^^ YESSSS!! I"ve so felt like this before. I can't stand it when guys don't say a yes or no. I've stood there, asked even LOUDER, and make them respond. I'm worth a fucking one-word response, dammit. Maybe it's the former teacher in me, but I don't let anyone get away with this mannerless auto-ignore thing.
OTOH, sounds like this kid was in shock. Almost cute. Happens mostly with the young, shy ones who are probably wondering what the protocol is in a strip club and are afraid to fuck up. If I feel the guy might be a bit intimidated, I'll just start joking with him and make him laugh. Then I say something with a smile like, "Now seriously, let's get to my office." And they come.