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stripper raped at the bachelor party
I've been in this business for 9 years now, and although I've always been cautious and always advise others to be cautious, I've never actually met anyone who has been in danger at a party. I've not even heard of a-friend-of-a-friend kind of stories of a stripper being raped or otherwise assaulted at a bachelor party.
I have family that works in banks, and bank tellers are robbed on a fairly regular basis.
My personal worst bachelor party experience was when the bachelor would rather fight with my bouncer than sit still for his lap dances. I personally was in no danger, but my bouncer had his hands full.
I'd like to hear about either personal stories about a party that went bad or second hand stories of assault at bachelor parties.
I run dozens of dancers every week, and although I hear stories about annoying customers and down right infuriating customers, the dancers always make it home safe and sound at the end of the work day. The biggest dangers seem to be the potential accidents during the party, (Spilled drinks on the floor, falling dunk customer etc.) resulting in injuries like sprained ankles and minor bruises. But these accidents are just that, accidents.
I'd like to know how common it is for dancers to be actually assaulted while at parties.
Thanks in advance:)
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I never have been, or been worried that I would be. I would say I've done about 50 private parties. But I have also had security and pre-qualified customers. I have not met anyone this has happened to, or had anyone tell me about it.
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i know of one girl who got raped at a bachelor party.
however, whilst this was a horrible thing to happen... she was a very silly young girl who always got VERY drunk while working and took a lot of drugs and whored all over the guys and didn't take security and often hung out with them after her shift had finished. not that i'm saying she deserved this or asked for it in any way at all... sadly, i was not surprised when i found out it had happened to her. she was acting in a very dangerous manner.
in my 3+ years of doing private parties as a both a topless waitress and a showgirl, i never once felt in any danger of being assaulted. but like susan said, i always had reliable security and behaved professionaly.
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i quit after i was mobbed by guys who surrounded us and demanded we contiuned on with a show-after someone already broke the rules. tbh it scared the crap out of me, and id hate to think how much worse a situation could have gotten.
private parties ARE unsafe, ill stick with clubs from now on.
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Originally Posted by
Darcy Foxx
i know of one girl who got raped at a bachelor party.
however, whilst this was a horrible thing to happen... she was a very silly young girl who always got VERY drunk while working and took a lot of drugs and whored all over the guys and didn't take security and often hung out with them after her shift had finished. not that i'm saying she deserved this or asked for it in any way at all... sadly, i was not surprised when i found out it had happened to her. she was acting in a very dangerous manner.
in my 3+ years of doing private parties as a both a topless waitress and a showgirl, i never once felt in any danger of being assaulted. but like susan said, i always had reliable security and behaved professionaly.
I know a girl that does the same stuff. She says security is 'unprofessional looking' because they make it look like you don't trust the customer. ::)
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^ I doubt the girl I was talking about would've even been capable of composing an excuse like that... she was one of the skankiest, trashiest, dumbest bimbos I have ever met in my entire dancing career. Still, it's sad that she got raped... it fucked her up pretty bad. Well, worse than she already was.
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I send secruity to every gig, including strip grams. It's not just for security, but more to ensure that the dancers arrive on time and conduct themselves as professional as they can be (I prefer if dancers just don't talk, period). I've only had a handful of incidents, but they were all incited by the dancers (usually for trying to steal from the customers).
People go to bachelor parties and stags to have a good time, I couldn't imagine a group of people hiring dancers with the sole intentions of kicking their ass and raping them, and I hope I never meet them either.
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i know a girl who got pass out drunk at one such party. she woke up to guys having sex with her. it's still unclear wether she was "just" really drunk or had been drugged. the guys who did it said she "wanted to" and she just "fell asleep during it".
i know it's not wise to get drunk (if thats all it was) at such parties, but... that's not an excuse. plus, she "fell asleep" and you just "kept having sex with her"
well then. i guess that makes it "ok".
that being said... all the other girls i've known who've done private parties have no such stories. mostly they just have stories of guys acting like jack asses or begging them to do more. ...and getting thrown up on and stuff spilled on them.
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This is good information, everyone! I'm putting together a guide for private party dancers for my agency. This information can help me figure out how to minimize the dangers of private party dancing to the dancer.
Most of it seems like common sense, but to someone who is unfamiliar with the business or is naturally overly trusting of strangers, some guidelines of safety are going to be very important.
I've walked away from parties that I felt weren't safe. I don't care how much money they were offering, I was no about to jump in that cabin cruiser and got out to the middle of the lake without any way to get back to shore. Sorry. Find another location or no stripper.
Thank you so much for your responses. Hopefully I can help dancers stay safe and earn gobs of money!
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Getting raped or sexually assaulted is something that should never happen with the right preparations and security. When I used to do private parties, the homeowner of the residence had to be present and he was the one signing the forms. Therefore, we could threaten to sue his balls off if anything happens. Also, security should never have the girl out of their site.
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Just thought I'd mention I PMed my story to Paris to contribute to this thread but I didn't do it in the thread so it didn't look like I was threadjacking randomly. :)
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I'm with Paris.
I drove for over an hour one time (slightly getting lost on the way) to a PP. As soon as I arrived in the street .. even my security was with me in having me turn the hell around and get out of there. My instinct told me .. don't do it. I listened.
I rang up the agency pronto informing them why I did what I did.
I was driving to do an 18th party and see-ing how the 'kids' acted out on the street.. it didn't look like the party was being adequately supervised at all.. they looked too drunk. No way was I getting out of my car.
I don't care how much money it cost me (and I lost) by not doing it. My safety is worth alot more than that.
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I've never heard of anyone being raped though I do know a girl who had her windscreen broken with baseball bats whilst trying to leave a private party because she wouldn't do extras. This was in Sydney, and she had security with her.
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If dancers were raped as often as movies and tv suggested we'd all have at least one story to tell. I think we're less likely to be raped at work because we generally work with security and a crowd. There can be one psycho rapist present but even without security I suspect most men would not stand by and let him run amok. Itlooks like you have your bases covered.
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Its always the number two question I'm asked at parties: "Do you have to fight a lot at parties?" and the answer is no. I find answering that question to be more of a problem than guys behavior at a party. I used to carry a stun gun with me but I used it more on dancers than anybody else.
For the most part, partygoers will police themselves! People pay me a lot of money to send girls to a party, they don't want that to end short over something stupid. There is always one guy who always tries to see how far things can go like reaching around his buddy to cop a feel or finger the girl, but once the bouncer or dancer screams at him, his buddies will tell him to cut it out or even make him leave.
I have, however, seen fun loving crowds turn into angry mobs and it usually because of upselling (dancers telling the crowd we want $X amount to do a girl-girl show, toy show, etc.,) but the ethics of that should probably be discussed in another thread.
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ctstriptease1
II used to carry a stun gun with me but I used it more on dancers than anybody else.
:eek:
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ctstriptease1
People go to bachelor parties and stags to have a good time, I couldn't imagine a group of people hiring dancers with the sole intentions of kicking their ass and raping them, and I hope I never meet them either.
I beg to differ. Im sorry but men are assholes. You seem to have a serious issue with dancers.
Even doing parties inside the club i've had the worse problems. Men seem to think its funny to try and molest girls.
"Hey lets hire a stripper! I bet shes a whore and we can get a good gang bang out of her!"
I I've seen and heard about more dancers getting hurt by a rowdy crowd then i've heard about dancers hurting customers. As for dancers stealing from the guys? I have never heard of that.
Every time I read a post from you CT about dancers and parties you always paint the dancer in the negative image and make customers look like angels. Its totally the other way around.
Now to answer Paris's question. A friend of a girl I know was raped at a PP... a guy took our her security with a chair and before she could react a bunch of guys jumped her.
I believe her and her security pressed charges... I don't know the exact outcome of the situation as it had happened on a Fri night and I left town on Sunday.
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ctstriptease1
I used to carry a stun gun with me but I used it more on dancers than anybody else.
Do you just make up this stupid shit to try to get a rise out of us dancers whom you obviously look down upon so strongly?
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Darcy Foxx
Do you just make up this stupid shit to try to get a rise out of us dancers whom you obviously look down upon so strongly?
No shit eh?
Though maybe his agency is just a bunch of fuck ups that the other agencies wont hire lol.
Seriously I would have to be paid A LOT of money to even consider working for CT because I refuse to work with an agent that has that kind of attitude.
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Callyish
I beg to differ. Im sorry but men are assholes. You seem to have a serious issue with dancers.
Even doing parties inside the club i've had the worse problems. Men seem to think its funny to try and molest girls.
"Hey lets hire a stripper! I bet shes a whore and we can get a good gang bang out of her!"
I I've seen and heard about more dancers getting hurt by a rowdy crowd then i've heard about dancers hurting customers. As for dancers stealing from the guys? I have never heard of that.
Every time I read a post from you CT about dancers and parties you always paint the dancer in the negative image and make customers look like angels. Its totally the other way around.
Now to answer Paris's question. A friend of a girl I know was raped at a PP... a guy took our her security with a chair and before she could react a bunch of guys jumped her.
I believe her and her security pressed charges... I don't know the exact outcome of the situation as it had happened on a Fri night and I left town on Sunday.
Once I stole a bar of soap from a PP hotel bathroom. P:
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Lysondra
Once I stole a bar of soap from a PP hotel bathroom. P:
OMG!! YOU THEIF!!! Someone call the cops now an arrest this thief!!
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Callyish
OMG!! YOU THEIF!!! Someone call the cops now an arrest this thief!!
So I guess I shouldn't mention I also took the shampoo? :/
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Lysondra
So I guess I shouldn't mention I also took the shampoo? :/
Thats it! Im stun gunning you!!! After all thats what the all mighty CT would do! He is the god of dancers!
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