Hell fucking yeah, sobriety
I started dancing soon after my 21st birthday, and I've been drinking every shift since for TWO YEARS. After some shit happened Friday -- shit involving me throwing and breaking objects -- I decided to get sober, or at least not drink at work anymore. I went to an AA meeting Saturday morning at seven in the morning, and just made the decision that I could not drink at work anymore. I either had to quit drinking or quit stripping. I love dancing, but I knew it wouldn't be sustainable as a part or full time job if I drank during every shift. It just wouldn't be worth the ill effects.
So yesterday I went for 12 hours in two different strip clubs without drinking a bit of alcohol. I worked six hours today and had no drinks at all.
I'm so proud of myself. I might have the occasional drink now and then (a beer after work is a great reward for being sober for 12 hours), but I'm never drinking at work again. I found that it actually improved my hustle to be sober, and the positive vibe I was giving off made it easy to sell dances. More than one person commented on my pleasant demeanor.
Maybe this isn't a big deal for some of you that have never had a problem with drinking at work, but this is the hugest fucking deal to me and I want to share my experience.
Oh yeah...wanted to add...during the moments I started to get shy (like when I was on the main stage and a ton of people were just staring at me when it was super busy) I just thought to myself, "Project confidence!" And I did, and "real" confidence is so much better than drunk confidence.
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That is awesome! I have been bad with drinking and not always stopping for a while....my only thing was that it was never at work...but always while out with my friends and boyfriend. Last night i officially became the durnk girl at work that everyone noticed. I feel so stupid and do not want to go into work tomorrow. I had a real long vip and just kept chugging wine...my manager wanted me to go upstairs if i left the vip room...i managed to get to the floor to sell two more dances and i do not even remember the guy i danced for. My lapdance/vip areas are kept under close watch....but there is still that fear there of not remembering who you danced for. I really learned me lesson bc i am embarrased and sad now.
I just got plasted at this big family wedding i went to....and embarrased myself. I have been telling myself for years that i will become a more controlled drinker....and never create an embarrasing moment for myself again.....but yet i always still manage to do so. So now i want to do just as your doing, sunchild, and just stop the drinking.
How did you feel the next day when you went back to work....did people say anything to you?
I know i am not the first or last girl to do this....but im still embarrased to be known as the girl that was a sloppy drunk.
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Do you think you can keep it up?
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I have to keep it up. And yes, because I realized it's not as hard as I thought it was.
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:highfive:
im SO happy to hear that not only did it help you emotionally and physically, but improved your hustle. YAY, go you!! and im very impressed you can be in a bar and not drink. kudos sun child.
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I have to keep it up. And yes, because I realized it's not as hard as I thought it was.
That's so awesome. And a forsure sign that you'll keep it up! I mean even if it WERE hard to keep it up ...you have to.
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Congrats! :) I'm doing the sobriety thing too. So far I've been sober for a week and a half. Alcohol wasn't that hard for me to give up. I'm still missing Mary Jane tho. :(
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That's great! When I stopped drinking at work I began to make double and triple what I used to make. Congrats!
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Thats great, SunChild... Good for you for not psyching yourself out about it-I know its hard... (my dad was alcoholic----but he stopped drinking completely after throwing up in the car with me and my sister after a party. SOOOO embarassed to have behaved that way in front of us... He picked it up again teh moment we both had graduated high school though...) On some level, the hardest part is just realizing you HAVE to say no, and seeing the benefits of it. You aren't depriving yourself of alcohol, you're maintaining your health, and helping to be more alert, and safe and in control, at your job!
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That's wonderful! Congratulations!
I think it's a good thing I started out working in a no-alcohol club. I love wine and cocktails, and I think my newbie self would've fallen into bad habits if it had been available. But since I started out working without alcohol, I'm in the habit of working without it, just the occasional glass of wine once or twice a week. It does make it easier to work once you're used to it, and I personally feel more confident when I've got all my wits about me!
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Congrats! I almost never drink at work unless a good paying customer demands it, and I find that alcohol really messes with my hustle. I bet you will make more money!
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Whilst I congratulate and applaud you for doing something that just seems beyond the "average" stripper thus making yourself into a super stripper (imo) ... i am a bit concerned about you having a beer after work as a good way to reward yourself for staying sober.
If you have a problem with alochol then it isn't just restricted to work.
Is there another way that doesn't involve having any alcohol to reward yourself until you have reach the point (in your opinion) that you know you won't be going back to being an alcoholic? Why not a mocktail instead? Or some sort of food oritentated reward (that is still healthy) ... or anything else.......................?