I'm so sorry sweetie. :hug:
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I'm so sorry sweetie. :hug:
Oh man, i'm so sorry to hear that. :( Your story crushed me.
Oh, sweetie, this breaks my heart. I'm very sorry for your loss.
Take the advice that cinammonkisses gives. You are his girlfriend, you should be able to pay your respects and say goodbye.
omg I reread your post and just realized that you were notified of his death by an answering machine message! I am so sorry that is just horrible!
Definitely get in touch with the funeral home. they will work with you on setting up a time for you to come and see the deceased. This is common that family issues prevent a mourner from being at the funeral, so funeral homes do this all the time!
You need closure, too.
Know that we are here at SW to listen. I'm so sorry for your loss.:grouphug:
I know I was very very upset about that! Yet what could I do!
You would think that after he told his parents he was serious about me. I will be allow to say good bye.
I did not see your message until today. I did not go to the funeral. I thought I experience the most upmost disrespect in my life. I dont know how to feel!
Thank you all for your support! I really need to express my grief with out causing all kinds of promblems.
Leilani, have you had any form of closure? What I mean is, has his family been in touch, offered you a program from the funeral....maybe told you to look out for the obituary in the newspaper, or where he would be buried so you could visit the grave later?
I don't mean to be crass, or maybe I watch too much t.v., and of course I mean no disrespect, but with how this situation went down, I wouldn't be satisfied with just a phone call........:-\
I mean, do you know any of his friends, that you can speak with.......
There is an online obituary, I could see online. I get very upset about this whole thing! I have been thinking maybe, I should just try to delete everything, and just start over! I dont really like chicago. I just need to start a new life. What happen to me is so upsetting, I find my self being angry with others, or yelling at people. when there is no reason to yell. I do say I am sorry for yelling, yet the more I think about this the more i get upset. I had no strength to fight with these people. My mind is still unclear. I did not think things like this happen!
Trust me, I'm pretty sure all of us here sympathize with what you are going through. One thing that does strike me odd is the fact that someone from his family called you and told you that he was dead, and to not come to the funeral etc...
Has it ever crossed your mind that this was his way (sick, heinous way) of breaking up with you instead of doing it face to face? :(
I'm really not trying to offend, but I'm pretty sure I'm not the only person who's had this idea pop up on their mind.
I am so, so sorry for your loss:hug:
Cinammon I had recieve a call from his friend. His mother said they where sorry, they had no way of getting in contact with me. Yet told me it was not best if I came to the funeral. The funeral home has a online obuitary, if he went threw all of this to break up with me. That will be sick, why would he do all of that!
It is hard for me to believe that he is dead. His death announcements where in the newspapers. If you google his name. You will see (now) the the differant papers. That talk about his death. This is one reason why I did not say his name. I thought it is not fair!
I am so very sorry hun...........
You know I felt as if I was disrespected on the highest level. I am still upset about the whole thing! Yet what can I do about it!
I dont think he fake his death. Why would he go to the extreme like that? He had a life and a career. I dont think he would end it all for me. I just love him so much! The way this all happen, it is just terrible. I am soooooo upset!
leilania, this may not be comforting, but, I don't think those are questions you ever get answers too. I lost my mother 5 years ago, she was only 57, and I still can't phathom why it would happen to a person like her.
Oh you poor woman, oh God I am so sorry. This is horrible. I wish you the best, sending a huge hug.
Sorry I am late to this thread. I am so sad to hear what you are going through. Stay strong, you are in my thoughts and prayers.
My thoughts are with you. I'm so sorry to hear of all you are going through.