Re: Always Exhausted, Damaging my Life
Yeah I wish he could come! But I'm a delivery driver for a deli, and I don't have big enough orders to warrant help, although sometimes my whole car is filled up. I'm a minimum wage employee who gets (generally good) tips, so no I can't have my husband with me all day. Basically I work at a deli that also caters, not necessarily a catering business soley.
Re: Always Exhausted, Damaging my Life
well, he's not really there to "help". just to spend time with you. sometimes that's all that a relationship needs.
also, having him see the crap you have to deal with all day long might also give him some insight on your stress and 'tired-level' when you finally get home. "walking in your shoes" so to speak.
if the car's the deli's i can understand why it'd be impossible. and if it's not completely kosher even if the car's yours, maybe he can stay outside with/in the car while you do the pickups from the deli.
just think of it as "bring your hubby to work" day. :D
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I don't think that would be allowed :(
Re: Always Exhausted, Damaging my Life
You know, CF, as I read all of these posts over, it does seem to me that you are dancing around something--the not turning off music when you want to go to sleep line is what triggers this in me--it is like there is something perhaps from his background that now insists on having things a certain way, on not compromising, and you are dancing around it and trying to make sure he and everyone else are happy, at this moment when your life is being upended. I obviously don't know the whole situation, but this does not seem fair to me. I think, especially at a time like this, that a couple must work as a team, and you seem instead to be taking the whole thing on your shoulders.
I'm not being critical of the relationship--I don't know enough to be. I'm just sort of gathering what I'm hearing here and trying to reflect it back to you...you do need help now, even just in the way of support--this is not a time when you'll be able to meet everyone's needs.
I'm also worried about you because you've just been through a loss, and I hope you are being supported there, too.
I hope you can find some peace in all this and that things will go easier.
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I believe he is doing the best he can J. He's stressed too.
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Well, I wish you the best with this--must be pretty tough on both of you.
Re: Always Exhausted, Damaging my Life
Could you two get up in the mornings (when you'll be less exhausted) and take a walk around the neighborhood? Then he gets out of the house (with company) and you aren't quite so tired.
Also tell him that you aren't canjoined twins, he can go and do something with out you once in a while. I think that is healthy for couples to have their own hobbies apart from one another. It builds self confidence and gives you two something to talk about with one another.
When you are together 24/7 the conversations can be really boring.