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The question without answers
I have a question,
A legitimate one, in light of the most recent thread, I have to ask.
I'm being honest and genuinely curious here too.
Stripper or not, but for now, lets say she's a stripper, what exactly, do you, the question asker, expect out of asking the "Does she like me"
You go out, you feel you are given an interest, but instead of acting you focus and dissect that interest taking all this time, trying to minimize the risk of rejection, somehow...during that process, a thread ends up here.
I know the asker truly doesn't believe that there is a stripper secret booty shake that is designed to turn on and off her stripper mindset and be honest when she tells you you're cute, I also know that the second you say "she's a stripper" to most friends the conversation is over, and I do know that there is often a simple desire to come down to honesty and the truth of some conversations...but how does Stripperweb provide that to you?
It's cool to ask. A lot of times it can be interesting when it's sporadic, so I'm not flaming, but regardless of research on the site, and various red flags, you still post. And it's not one person repetitively, it's every person once... But what do you expect out of us?
I personally believe it's just simple discussion, or at least the illusion that we're brethren and would understand you.
Hope this isn't coming across negatively.
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Originally Posted by
Mastridonicus
I know the asker truly doesn't believe that there is a stripper secret booty shake that is designed to turn on and off her stripper mindset and be honest when she tells you you're cute,
:O im heart broken i thought i had it all figured out.
how will i konw if they think im cute ? :help:
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I think they all still think their situation is somehow unique.
I have seen many a thread start off with "I know there are many threads about this BUT in my particular situation it's different because..."
I guess they are just hoping for some validation from SW. I say this because even tho when they ask, we give them the straight up truth (or what we imagine it to be) but often they then get hurt/offended/pissed off because all they want us to do is agree with them:
YES SHE REALLY DOES LIKE YOU.
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Ah, I made a thread along similar lines.
I'm only generalizing my own experience and thoughts, but I think we are just intimidated by strippers to various degrees, and are looking for a little validation/shot of confidence.
I learned to be realistic, but open to any opportunity that presents itself. Just like real life, isn't it?
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Originally Posted by
jaizaine
I think they all still think their situation is somehow unique.
I have seen many a thread start off with "I know there are many threads about this BUT in my particular situation it's different because..."
I guess they are just hoping for some validation from SW. I say this because even tho when they ask, we give them the straight up truth (or what we imagine it to be) but often they then get hurt/offended/pissed off because all they want us to do is agree with them:
YES SHE REALLY DOES LIKE YOU.
yes i think she really does like me ::)
but why! why! does she only talk to me when i give her money ? im so confused.
:duck:
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^^
Hey your case is different coz you are THEFROG and frogs are extremely lovable.
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:faint: be still my heart the lady from down under thinks i is lovable.--..
i will tell my dancing lady of this and make her jealous }:D
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:cupid: :flirt: :dance:
there should be a frog emoticon
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^^^ :embarrass oh now -- but you are right, so untill we get one this is the one i like :peace:
but seeing as i have jacked MR Mastridonicus thread he is going to step on the frog and i will be no more :'(
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Well frogs turn into princes, EVERYONE knows that. So you'll always be an exception.
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Originally Posted by
Mastridonicus
It's cool to ask. A lot of times it can be interesting when it's sporadic, so I'm not flaming, but regardless of research on the site, and various red flags, you still post. And it's not one person repetitively, it's every person once... But what do you expect out of us?
I think it's fairly obvious. You said it yourself Mast, it's every person once.
Some guys fall in love/lust with strippers. They come here because they hope to get an affirmative response from other strippers or customers that yes, she really really likes you. When that response is not forthcoming they either lash out or take their ball and go home.
We may tend to be a bit hard on these poor miss guided lovesick puppies sometimes but I don't think we can help it. When it comes to this topic I think most of us who have been around either side of the tip rail for a while have seen it all and heard it all. For better or worse we don't have much patience for the newbs who can't see what we can.
...and some of them are just trolls....
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Mastridonicus
I have a question,
I guess I didn't think it was all the much of a mystery. Haven't you ever been head over heals in love with some girl that didn't feel the same way? Hasn't everyone at least once? It happens. You sit around thinking about her (or him) all the time, you dissect too much, you hope, time passes and you come back down to reality, but before that happens it seems normal that people want affirmation, or grounding, or just even a chance to talk about it. Who knows how many hearts have been broken in SCs when a newb customer doesn't really understand that it's about money, and the fantasy becomes his reality.
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thefrog
^^^ :embarrass oh now -- but you are right, so untill we get one this is the one i like :peace:
but seeing as i have jacked MR Mastridonicus thread he is going to step on the frog and i will be no more :'(
Oh please! I would do no such thing! I rather enjoy your post. And your avatar belongs to Suzie. (don't stress, it's harmless, you wont get that)
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Originally Posted by
yoda57us
I think it's fairly obvious. You said it yourself Mast, it's every person once.
Some guys fall in love/lust with strippers. They come here because they hope to get an affirmative response from other strippers or customers that yes, she really really likes you. When that response is not forthcoming they either lash out or take their ball and go home.
We may tend to be a bit hard on these poor miss guided lovesick puppies sometimes but I don't think we can help it. When it comes to this topic I think most of us who have been around either side of the tip rail for a while have seen it all and heard it all. For better or worse we don't have much patience for the newbs who can't see what we can.
...and some of them are just trolls....
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Originally Posted by
xdamage
I guess I didn't think it was all the much of a mystery.
Well you ARE a lot smarter than I, my friend.
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Haven't you ever been head over heals in love with some girl that didn't feel the same way? Hasn't everyone at least once? It happens. You sit around thinking about her (or him) all the time, you dissect too much, you hope, time passes and you come back down to reality, but before that happens it seems normal that people want affirmation, or grounding, or just even a chance to talk about it. Who knows how many hearts have been broken in SCs when a newb customer doesn't really understand that it's about money, and the fantasy becomes his reality.
Yea, I agree, I'm not curious to WHY they ask. That's simple, I'm just curious as to what do they expect. At first I thought maybe it was a sounding board and what not, but take Eros, for example... my question would be to him: After you right all this out, what would you want to come back here and see for the BEST POSSIBLE answer.
I mean there HAS to be an expectation. You ask a question for insight. Granted, as Yoda said, we all understand that when the answers are forthcoming, they never like them. I mean NEVER.
So what would someone like Eros (not singling him out at ALL) expect to see to say "Hey, that makes sense, O.K! Thanks!"
Like I said, I doubt it has an answer, but I am curious if others have a different point of view.
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Mastridonicus
Like I said, I doubt it has an answer, but I am curious if others have a different point of view.
Ah okay, gotcha. Yea, I kind of doubt there is an answer. I'm not sure the instigators of the question even knows.
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Jeez... the last "How do I know if she likes me thread" got shut down by the moderaters in 5 minutes.
Simple.. ask her if she will have your baby. If she says Yes. that's a good indication.
Or, perhaps she will do two player Xbox with you. That is also a clear indication of friendship.
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I'll never understand the angst on SW at seeing this question.* That it is asked at all means somewhere out there, a dancer did well with her SS and likely made good $ as a result. There is an entire forum called "Hustle Hut" dedicated to how to do just that, yet when it happens, there is a negative response. Perhaps these questions should be moved out of CC and into HH, so that others might learn of how each customer became infatuated.
*Not really, I do understand. It's the elephant in the room of which we do not speak.
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i think they're all bored.
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I've never understood why so many guys want or hope they've got an in to a strippers personal life.I feel like I've said that before....oh wait I have.There are so many threads that revolve around that same basic concept....does she like me.... am I the b/f.....she gave me her REAL name.....ooh wow now I know I'm in.I can understand why a dude would come here and ask....nobody knows a stripper like another stripper....except in my experieces they're all different, they don't all think the same.You can get a generalized answer but you can get that from any girl.I found the best way to talk to a stripper OTC is to pretend your OTC.in other words act like she's a girl who just happens to work as a stripper.Unless she makes it clear it's all about biz.At least that's been my experience.
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Well, there is a VARIETY of reasons why they ask...
I just wonder what it is they could see that would make them happy they asked.
Lestat, Triton, Of course you're right. It's the individual that decides it all, But all in all, it comes down to my personal belief that even if everyone on this site was in firm agreement that she likes him, that that would NOT be enough.
So in asking again, does anyone remember what it would have taken to be satisfied?
But I suppose, like I said, it's an impossible question. So it's pointless really.
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some people can never get enough praise -ie- ur so prety or handsome. some can never get told good job - way to go- that a boy - its like a drug and they can never get enough. even if its from strangers on the internet. ??
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I had to discover how strippers and strip clubs operated on my own years ago before Al Gore invented the internet. It cost me stupid amounts of money and a fair amount of heartache. That may be one of the reasons why I have so little patience with, what to me, is all common sense.
The only answer that will truly make these guys happy is "yes, you are special, you are the one in a thousand that she actually likes, call the wedding planner".
The internet is a great place for people of like minds, hobbies or occupations to post information and discussion that is beneficial to one another. Stripping and this board is unique in that it gives customers the opportunity to wonder in print the same thing they are wondering when they drive home from the club...The difference of course is that here you can get ripped down a few notches and dragged back into reality. OTOH, By the time you pull into your drive way you could have convinced yourself that she must be in love with you because she sat and talked for fifteen minutes after you spent money on her....
I guess we provide a valuable public service here...;D
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The fact is the girls on this forum,or women sorry,can be honest b/c they don't have to worry about losing money or customers if they are but still some people don't want the illusion to be broken even here
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Originally Posted by
lestat1
I'll never understand the angst on SW at seeing this question.* That it is asked at all means somewhere out there, a dancer did well with her SS and likely made good $ as a result. There is an entire forum called "Hustle Hut" dedicated to how to do just that, yet when it happens, there is a negative response. Perhaps these questions should be moved out of CC and into HH, so that others might learn of how each customer became infatuated.
*Not really, I do understand. It's the elephant in the room of which we do not speak.
I get what you are saying, but I don't think many of us here think of stripper shit as actually fooling people. We would consider it like, helping the customer suspend his disbelief. So, yes, of course we want to be convincing and all that; but we don't generally expect guys to ACTUALLY believe it any more than film makers expects people to leave the theatre thinking that whatever they saw just really happened. So we're surprised when guys don't put the disbelief back on at the end and we're annoyed, because, well, it's not that interesting a topic and it is a question that always, always, always and without variation has the same answer ("We don't know, but probably not. We don't know, but probably not. We don't know but probably not.")
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We may tend to be a bit hard on these poor miss guided lovesick puppies sometimes but I don't think we can help it. When it comes to this topic I think most of us who have been around either side of the tip rail for a while have seen it all and heard it all. For better or worse we don't have much patience for the newbs who can't see what we can.
That's really what it is; some of us (were) very quick to learn the reality of SCs and what to expect (and not expect) from strippers, others are hopelessly, perennially lost and some fall in between. That doesn't mean old timers aren't prone to PLdom, it just means that those PL moments are far less frequent and we recover from such lapses in judgment much faster.
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Originally Posted by
Mastridonicus
I have a question,
A legitimate one, in light of the most recent thread, I have to ask.
I'm being honest and genuinely curious here too.
Stripper or not, but for now, lets say she's a stripper, what exactly, do you, the question asker, expect out of asking the "Does she like me"
I don't think I have asked that yet here, but give me time :)
Just like when someone asks if it is ethical if I do such and such. If you have to ask the answer is "No". I think the posters really know they are totally off base, and really want someone to help them get back to reality. The expectation is that the group here understands, and can help.
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Originally Posted by
Mastridonicus
...but how does Stripperweb provide that to you?
When my head gets messed up, and the total PL is gaining traction, I will formulate a post for SW. Often merely trying to explain whats going on in my head to a group of people who possibly might understand, helps me to understand and no longer need to post.
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Originally Posted by
Mastridonicus
I personally believe it's just simple discussion, or at least the illusion that we're brethren and would understand you.
Hope this isn't coming across negatively.
Bingo, nope thoughtful and sensitive.