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My ex told my mom I'm a stripper...
and told her that my job is coming between us, that he's out of my life, but he just thought she'd like to know that I'm a liar and I've been stripping.
Luckily, shortly after he called her, sent her texts and even emailed, he said "We never had this conversation. This didn't happen. Promise me you won't tell ____." So I've been able to deny it, and just chalk it up to a crazy guy. But I know that in the back of her mind she's still incredibly worried.
My mom told me when he told her, she literally threw up and started crying. I feel so awful. It was a secret I kept hidden from my parents to protect them; I knew they would be worried about me if they knew I was stripping.
I can't think of anything worse he could possibly do to me. I hope he's suffering with some form of guilt, wherever he is.
I'm at a loss.
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I don't have any good words of advice, sorry. Hang in there though :grouphug:
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:( Im sorry. Thats a douche move on his part.
I got discovered all over my town too. Luckily my dad is a hermit and never found out. But I had to admit it to my mother and everyone else.
Eventually they got over it, but I feel your pain. :(
:hugs:
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I had an ex do a similar thing. When I dumped him, he confessed that he had lied to me about getting tested for STDs. However, he told my uncle this. According to my ex, he was doing a very mature thing by confessing and showing me that peopel can't be trusted. My ass. My uncle was upset that I had been having sex (this was the time I graduated high school).
He had no right to do that. I sincerely hope that his prostate hyperplases to the size of a grapefruit.
My ex has gotten karma several times over in the form of crazy, clingy girlfriends who drain and use him. He also has a kid he can't see but must support. He's tried to email me and rub it in my face HOW WELL he's doing, but he's still in contact with one of my friends, who tells me the truth.
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Oh my gosh, I hate this guy. What a F'n jerk. But you know what, maybe you could use it as an opportunity to tell your mom what you do. You might not be able to convince her it's okay, but you could convince her you want an honest relationship with her and so you want her to know. Anyway, I am sooooo sorry.
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Sun Child,
OMG, what a disgusting douche. I hope he's rotting in emotional hell. I bet you can totally play him off as crazy, though. Good luck and lotsa hugs.
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What an assbag. Seriously. Aren't you glad you broke up?
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What an asshole. Why are people so fucking cruel??? I'm so sorry that happened.
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Hey honey,
I know we already talked on the phone this afternoon but I wanted to reiterate it in text. Even if she doesn't fully realize it right now, her daughter is finally out of a horrible, horrible, long-term and abusive relationship with a very manipulative person. *Everything else is secondary.* Your life has changed so much lately and is so much more in order now than it was when we first met. Didn't you always not tell your mom what his real age is? Imagine if she knew that he not only is crazy and took advantage of her daughter but is 5-10 years older than she even knew. He's harassing her -- it's incredibly easy logically for her to understand how much pain he must have given you.
Even if she does not realize it, your mother is/should be VERY PROUD of you. And we all are too.
hang in there and you can always call me. if you want to hang out after i get off of work today let me know.
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You need to get down on your knees right now, and thank whatever diety you believe in for the breakup.
What a prick. I mean seriously. There's just no damn excuse.
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This bullshit is worthy of the Jezebel forums.
He is a fucking arrogant lout for "doing what's best for her." She is an adult, and in charge of her own fucking life. He's trying to maintain control over her as well. My ex tried to control my life as long as he could this way.
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That's awful, what an ass.
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This is why I have a problem trusting anyone anymore. Even people you trust will turn their backs on you and f*** you over for reasons you can't even understand.
Your mom will always be your mom and if she worries about you and it bothers her, it is because she loves you. All you can do is explain to her as well as you can what your job is about and how it's not what she imagines it to be.
Meanwhile you can plant a couple marijuana plants in your ex's backyard while he's not at home and then call the cops on him in a couple of weeks. That wasn't my idea though.
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Muthfucking bitter assholes.
My friend's ex did the exact same thing to her. The only reason is to hurt you.
Sorry babe.
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Originally Posted by
anabella
This is why I have a problem trusting anyone anymore. Even people you trust will turn their backs on you and f*** you over for reasons you can't even understand.
Your mom will always be your mom and if she worries about you and it bothers her, it is because she loves you. All you can do is explain to her as well as you can what your job is about and how it's not what she imagines it to be.
Meanwhile you can plant a couple marijuana plants in your ex's backyard while he's not at home and then call the cops on him in a couple of weeks. That wasn't my idea though.
*gigglesnort*
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im sorry sun child! he sounds like a real piece of shit. I worry about my mom finding out all the time.
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I had an ex do a similar thing. I'm sure having her daughter's psycho ex come forward like that contributed to her stress and pain and why she was so upset. I'm sure she felt better after talking about it with you. Yes, she may have her doubts, but just give it time.
What a fucking douchebag. Yes, break-ups suck but some people just... ARGH!
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what and asshole....just....there are no appropriate words. Except that a bit of revenge may be in order?
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It seems like this is a common problem with guys we date. I myself am going thru the exactly same thing......it's like a constant worry to deal with everyday the "what if so-and-so told'....and my mom would react the same way....
I guess my advice for ladies who arent in this situation is be VERY VERY VERY VERY VERYVEERYVEEEERRRRYYY cautious about what men you chose to let meet your parents....also lock the phone. don't give him their numbers. don't call the parents from his phone. don't tell him where they live. I know this sounds horrible, but lets face it. We have to protect ourselves and our relationship with the family if need be!
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Oh sun child, that's so bad! What an a-hole!
When I left my ex girlfriend for a guy we both knew, she went and told my mother EVERYTHING! From the stripping all the way down to the coke induced threesomes!
My mom called me in hysterics, to which I said "Mom, I just dumped her for a guy, ofcourse she'd say something like that to you!"
EEECK!
Hang in there sweetie, maybe some good can come of this?
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Well, the good that has come of it so far is that now the is no lingering thoughts in my mind about him changing, him being a good person "deep down" or anything like that. Now I'm truly moving on. And now I can do whatever the fuck I want, work anywhere I want and travel anywhere I want. And I have more time to focus on me.
UPDATE: My mom called me today and I reassured her again that he's just being crazy. There is no problem with my family now thank goodness, because she believes me, and she's not welcoming any more communication from him. I also let him know his real age, which is 35, and she already knows that I was supporting him for way too long. She's a Southern woman who has never paid for a date or anything else like that in her life; she's "traditional" about some things, and she also has and respects others with a strong work ethic. She's pretty judgmental about people that don't work hard and mooch off of others. I've been on my own financially since I was 15.
I'm denying it, because trust me, if I told her the truth shit would hit the fan. Luckily after contacting her via phone call, text and email, he sent a creepy message that said, "Again, ____, we never had this conversation. We never spoke." So, she thinks that he was just trying to backtrack on his "lies."
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I hope all will stay well now with your mom, what a terrible, juvenile, manipulative move on his part.
I hope that you go on and end up with someone who is far better for you than this ass!!
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fifi
Sun Child,
OMG, what a disgusting douche. I hope he's rotting in emotional hell. I bet you can totally play him off as crazy, though. Good luck and lotsa hugs.
"rotting in emotional hell" I love it lol.. but really I agree.
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Shame shame on that (embittered?) ex. If he is out of your life now, he should just stay out of it and keep his mouth shut.