Once a whore, always a whore?
I have a stripper friend from the last place I worked at.
She knows most of the girls I work with now and really got me thinking.
She pointed out that the girls who were most against extras are the ones who now work in the massage room. She thinks that they have always been doing it, and the reason they complained most about extras was due to the competition.
Some of the girls have escorted before, and see this as a compromise, as they have children/husbands etc and may not make money in a regular club. This girl knows this.
She made the comment that Once youre a whore, youll always be a whore.
I dont know what I think about this.
Personally I never wanted to do contact (sexual contact that is) for money, in any degree (ie just a hj,bj etc) as I felt that the boundaries of "well Ill just do this" would be too easily moved. And then when Im doing those services to then start to think "Well Im WORTH $200 for a screw, but hes only got $150, well I REALLY need the cash, so Ill do it" until Im blowing guys for free (like my onetime duo partner)
I feel that saying "noncontact" was a good boundary for me. With my situation the way it is now, Im comfortable to leave it there.
I dont doubt for a second that Id work as a prostitute to support my children, if my husband wasnt here, and it was the best way to provide for them and still be there for them.
Where do you put boundaries?
And for those girls who have escorted, do you think that it has defined who you are, and that its changed you? More so than stripping etc.
Do you think that once you have escorted that it would be easy to be a clean dancer?
Or do you think "I could make better money if I just ...)?
I guess I feel that a phase of your life shouldnt define how you are. I was a child a student a teacher a stripper a telemarketer, but none of those things are who I really am. How I define myself to ME.
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It seemed to be with me that the less I gave the more I received.
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I dont agree at all. Plenty of ex escorts work as dancers and dont feel tempted to go back to prostitution at all.
I know some who do both but still keep the two jobs seperate. Of course some dont but everyones different obviously.
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I know a lady who did both and kept the two very separate. She was a very clean dancer - sensual and just beautiful inside the club and she had her other business OTC.
I personally am not comfortable with contact. I suppose the only club I have worked at doesn't allow it and I make money so there would be no need to offer anything extra.
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I think "once a whore, always a whore" is as insulting as it is ridiculous. I used to work with a chick who worked as an escort and hated it, so she became a stripper and stayed totally clean, and eventually got out of the adult biz altogether. It makes no sense to write a woman off as a "whore" because of something she may have done in the past.
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sexy_celeste
And for those girls who have escorted, do you think that it has defined who you are, and that its changed you? More so than stripping etc.
Do you think that once you have escorted that it would be easy to be a clean dancer?
Or do you think "I could make better money if I just ...)?
I guess I feel that a phase of your life shouldnt define how you are. I was a child a student a teacher a stripper a telemarketer, but none of those things are who I really am. How I define myself to ME.
I was a relatively clean dancer, and I did some prostitution work. I experimented with some extras, in a club that was known for them. It didn't particularly make more money money, just the same amount in less time. I don't think I could have handled doing extras all throughout the night, every night, to increase my earnings significantly.
I can't stand the term "once a whore, always a whore." Not that I'm accusing you of using it Celeste. It really pigdeonwholes people, and sex workers in particular.
As you said about yourself, I define myself as me. My job is certainly a part of my life, and my career choices have affected the person I've become. Same as everyone.
But would I ever prostitute myself again? Not unless its for a really large shitload of money. And that's something I would have done before I actually did it for much paltrier sums like $1,000.
I also hate the term "can't turn a ho into a housewife" along those same lines. Those type of sayings really assume that sexually liberated women are bad people, and we are not.
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Yekhefah
I think "once a whore, always a whore" is as insulting as it is ridiculous. I used to work with a chick who worked as an escort and hated it, so she became a stripper and stayed totally clean, and eventually got out of the adult biz altogether. It makes no sense to write a woman off as a "whore" because of something she may have done in the past.
Exactly.
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Katrine
I was a relatively clean dancer, and I did some prostitution work. I experimented with some extras, in a club that was known for them. It didn't particularly make more money money, just the same amount in less time. I don't think I could have handled doing extras all throughout the night, every night, to increase my earnings significantly.
I can't stand the term "once a whore, always a whore." Not that I'm accusing you of using it Celeste. It really pigdeonwholes people, and sex workers in particular.
As you said about yourself, I define myself as me. My job is certainly a part of my life, and my career choices have affected the person I've become. Same as everyone.
But would I ever prostitute myself again? Not unless its for a really large shitload of money. And that's something I would have done before I actually did it for much paltrier sums like $1,000.
I also hate the term "can't turn a ho into a housewife" along those same lines. Those type of sayings really assume that sexually liberated women are bad people, and we are not.
Thank you!
" Once a whore always a whore " is terribly insulting - thats like saying " Once you use crack, you'll never go back"
Bullshit. I know tons of people who were addicted and are now clean. And staying that way
I've done both and kept each seperate. Would I offer extras in a Strip club? Are you fucking crazy? After being a LNP and making what I made doing it?
Two words. Hell. No.