How would I know that this is for me?
I'd have a chance to team up with an agency of a friend to start doing some PP/bachelor parties. The owner (friend) is nice and has been a stripper and doing PP for several years.
She says the money is about 600-700 for 2-3 parties a night? Is that good around these parts? Where parties last from 1 hour to 1.5 hours. You get your base whenever you get there and plus tips. There is also reliable security that is also the driver.
I only really want to do this so I don't have to finance my surgery with more debt and do get surgery by mid December before Christmas. How do I know this is for me? I'm afraid I might chicken out, get nervous and want to leave. What would I have to deal with as far as unruly guys?
Any help or other threads would be cool. I don't even know what to search for.
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Three words: Security, security, security.
I ran security for a dancer pal for a couple nights a few years ago. On one outting, we did four parties in one night (exhausting! although, okay, she was doing all the physical work). Anyhow, it wasn't until the very end, at a late, very drunk party, that there was a problem. The brother of the groom got in my face after I reminded his nearly comatose drunk brother that manhandling the entertainer wasn't allowed. Interestingly, the other guys at the party quickly rushed in and pulled back the brother. That was a good thing because, you know, I hate the sight of blood, particularly my own.
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Yea it says in my post that there is 'reliable security'. I am assuming that if the guys get out of hand the party is over?
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Lay down the rules at the start of the party (even if they have been told the rules over the phone when booking) and ENFORCE those rules when AT the party. :) This is where security comes into play as they help back you up with the enforcing of the rules.
Have your security go in to the party, get your money, organise a room for you to change within and so forth. You have your security go in before you even get out of the car because you allow him (if he does have his head on straight) to gauge whether or not you will be having trouble (or if there might be the possibility how to make sure it doesn't become a possibility).
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I've done a couple of private parties with my close friend and I liked them better than working in the club. But we are very particular and don't do very many. Just like club work the money can be hit or miss. One party might be totally into it and throw $ around and another might be really uncomfortable and cheap. For the most part guys in the party tend to police each other so that the dancers won't leave. Sometimes they are all assholes and then you just leave early (and take your $ with you because you got paid first). I’d suggest working with another dancer you know at first. It will help make you less nervous and they can lead the party until you learn how it works.
The part I like the best is girl on girl shows. It's easy and fun for us because we (my dancer friend and me) like each other and have fun and the guys love them and tend to tip more. I wish we could do g on g on stage at my club. We also charge $10 to whip a guy with a belt and they will pay to have their friends whipped! I love hurting guys--so cathartic.
And to answer you question, you won't know until you try it!
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Good stuff ladies. I will be working with another girl for sure. Do you think 2-3 weekends a month for 2-3 months is too much and a recipe for burn out?
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It all depends on you. I know that when I did it full time it was receipe for burn out as I was avialable 7 days a week pretty much. Anyway, all that car travel and a few other factors is what contributed to my eventual burn out. So I cut back to doing it to a point where I can now concentrate on quality not quantity. I may only do a few bookings each weekend yet now I do so very happily, easily and stress free ;D
Try it out and just like a club .. find what works for you :)
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Last one: What can I expect as far as lap dance contact? I'm sure its different for every area. I just don't want people grabbing my starfish or kitty. Thats just too far for me.
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In san diego I would think customers would be happy that you can remove your clothes at all during the dance so maybe the contact would be lower than my area. I allow touching of everything but boobs and kitty area but its totally up to you and the other dancers at the party. We don't allow any touching by guys during girl on girl shows. I would discuss it with any other dancers at the party first so you all offer the same amount of contact that you are all comfortable with.
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Not to sound negative/contradicting, but I did one bach. party w/ a friend who's been doing them for quite some time. Although the guys were respectful and followed the no-touch rule, when it came time to give private dances (which they had set up in another room), they each tried to see just how far they could push it. Pretty much everyguy either wanted a HJ or BJ, or sex. I'm talking every single guy; even the bachelor was trying to have sex with me when the father of the bride showed up, and he literally pushed me out of the way and acted like he was doing nothing wrong in order to maintain his "faithful."
That party totally changed the way I look at men. I've danced in the clubs for over two years, and as much as I hate the tipouts, cattiness, hours, and rediculous rules, I'll put up with it anyday over a bunch of men who treat you like a piece of meat to be passed around......
Just my .10
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^meant to say "faithful" image, not just "faithful"...
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Yeah, guys in bachelor parties at clubs and at private parties ask for sex acts alot. This really bothered me at first, especially from the groom! Just say no like you would at the club.
This is why its important to know the dancers you'll be working with at a pp so they're not offering services you don't and everyones on the same page with contact and sex acts.
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Private party dancing is so different from club dancing, I don't even know where to start. They can really be a lot of fun though. You should do a search for games to play at parties that involve tips. }:D
I think you should just go to a show with someone to watch and then decide whether or not its for you.
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I only allow guys a feel of my boobs and my butt for tips and usually that is a minimum $20 ($10 per boob! or $10 per butt cheek! ;) ) tip before they can have a quick feel. If they give me $50 then they get a one song lap dance right then and there out in the open and can feel the boobs and butt (NOTHING!!!! else).
(I'll never do a lap dance in a separate room as I also learnt my lesson. A locked door can mean ANYTHING is happening in there not JUST lap dances therefore if they want a lap dance, I do it out in the open amongst the party or no go.)
Otherwise, no touching me what-so-ever ! Even in shows, my hands are usually on the guys hands and/or the touching is minimal.
absolutbliss, doing private parties never changed my beliefs and perceptions of guys overall. I already knew that it isn't natural for guys to be completely monogamous and that guys don't equal sex with love at all times. Alot of men can and do (most of the time from what I have observed) separate sex and love. Have a read of SugarBabe by Holly Hill as it pretty much says what I have always believed about guys.
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*update*
I went to my first bach party a weekend or so ago. I liked it and felt comfy with that level of contact. I'm doing my first two this Saturday night. One last question....:
What about music? Do I bring my own?
My party partner is bringing pretty much everything else and will guide me through most of the stuff.
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Having your own music either a CD (and a stereo that will be loud enough as you can't always rely on the party/booking to have a cd player there for you) on mp3 player :) that is a must !!!
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GoldCoastGirl
Having your own music either a CD (and a stereo that will be loud enough as you can't always rely on the party/booking to have a cd player there for you) on mp3 player :) that is a must !!!
I would recommend getting an Ipod or mp3 player because CD's will get lost or scratched when you need them the most. I've gotten to shows and the CD won't work and the girls had to dance to ringtones from a cell phone (that really sucked). The better agencies in my area pay for drivers and music for the girls. My company uses ipods with a few different playlists of about 16 songs (about 60 minutes, which is the length of our shows).
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Yeah definitely take music and a reliable CD player. All to many times I had to dance to drunk men singing (funny, but hard to do a proper show!) or the radio.
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Hahahaha I use a speaker system with MP3s on a hard drive BUT....
Once there was a boat with no power points OR radios... and we had the guys sing...
they chose 'What do you do with a drunken sailor'. HAHAHAH.
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^^^
Tie him to the mast until he's sober !!
;)
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I always took security/d.j. with me also a black light and or candles.Even a strobe light. It adds a twist they didn't expect. Always explain YOUR rules and always always get paid FIRST
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I agree with security. I never had a problem when I had security. There was one time I didn't have a bodyguard because he never showed up. This was the one time where I had trouble with the guys. Luckily, I was able to get out without getting hit (guys were trying to hit me and I ran). Also, get the money upfront. 600-700 sounds right for two parties. I've made that amount at one party (a clean party. I don't do extras).
Here's a few things I did for more money. First, I did a raffle. The winner got to take off my top. Another thing I did was whipped cream shots. I'd put so much cream on my breasts that there was no contact. Another party I did photos (wearing my lingerie). Another I did private dances in the room (with the bouncer watching). I actually preferred parties because I knew after an hour I'd walk out with more than if I danced all night.