customer behavior comes up a lot in conversation at work, as well as on this board. we've had countless threads concerning men acting like assholes towards dancers in the club. i've noticed a trend in the responses. almost every time, someone will mention how the men view us as "strippers" not "real people" and/or how the club atmosphere "makes" men act out of line. i know i've said it before, but i'm a little fed up right now and i feel like mentioning it.
no ammount of alcohol and/or nudity turns a "nice guy" into an asshole. it's mearly an EXCUSE. so, guys have a stereotype in their head of what a stripper is, and they treat us accordingly? well, that means said guy is already an asshole. normal gentlemen know full well that we are real people. you'd have to be a moron not to. i would say in 98% of these cases, the customer -knows- what we prefer him not to do, he just does not -care-. plain and simple. he is paying for it, so he feels he can do whatever he wants.. or whatever he can get away with without getting knocked out by someone. sure, they might have a stereotype in their head. i'm sure many of them do. maybe it makes it easier for them to treat us like shit because they can tell themselves we're "just strippers" but that doesn't make it "right"... and they know that. they just don't care.
likewise
dancer behavior comes up a lot in conversation as well...
and i hear over and over again. "the environment turned her into a drug addict" or "the industry turned her into a hooker". whatthefuckever. stripping doesn't "turn you into" a drug addict or a whore. you make that choice. sure, it makes those options more available to you, but so what? the problem is with the dancers lack of will power and or self esteem. unless the management is tying girls down in the back and forcing coke up their noses, i don't buy it. i also don't buy the "she started hooking because she had to compete with the other girls" bullshit. am i supposed to feel bad? because i don't.
bottom line:
strip clubs are not magical places that transform people into hookers and assholes. it just attracts the type of people who lean toward those behaviors.

