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    Alright, there is one girl, and only one that I work with that has a problem with me. We clashed in the past over something, one of my reg.'s decided to tell her off (which I had nothing to do with, he apolagized to me and her for doing it) and shes hated me ever since. She makes snide remarks when she passes by, has flipped out on me about shit and had the managers telling her she was beng totally unreasonable, this bitch HATES me. Honestly I think she does feel kind of threatened by me. Shes really pretty, and I'm not that bad myself, shes a hard hustler and most of the time I am. Shes also supporting a habit.
    No matter how much I don't like this girl, the only time I've ever said anything to her was when she flipped out on me. I don't say a word to her or a word about her. Come to find out she's been saying negative things about me to customers of mine (possibly others).
    I gave a guy a dance last night, and he'd come watch me at my stages. At one point he came up to my stage and said if I had a minute after he wanted to tell me something. He says something about "knowing who my friends are, and he just wanted to let me know". Apparantly he was talking to her and said that he had had a great dance with me and I was a really sweet girl, to which she said something like "Oh be careful don't let her fool you. Thats just a front, shes not sweet, shes superficial and fake." (obviously we are all a little fake to custies, but anybody that knows me knows I am the least superficial and fake person you'll ever meet.) She also told him that I stole her customers, and she was only stripping because of something she was saving for *cough*heroin*cough*.
    It just really ticks me off because A)this girl says I am immature and superficial, whoes being immature here? and B) I don't care if the girl tries to kill me, this is my JOB, not fucking highschool. I would NEVER say a negative thing about any dancer to a customer. If I have nothing nice to say I say "I don't really know her" if asked. Its petty and most of the time just makes you look bad. It made her look bad to him, he thought that was really low of her and that she must be really jealous.
    What also bothers me is that she sits with a lot of my regulars, one of whom gave me an attitude last time after he sat with her, and I haven't seen since. He's a very sweet, very sensitve man. Part of me (ok a lot of me) thinks he prob. said "Oh I'm waiting for Sydney", and she started spewing shit about me. He's had girls in the club use him hard before, so I have a feeling her saying something like what she said to the other guy about me would have some affect on him.
    I just don't know if I should do anything about this. Do I just say fuck it and let it go, or do I say something to her? The managment doesn't care fior her, but I don't wanna be the whiney drama queen either. Girls talking shit doesn't bother me, but when it starts to affect my money, thats when it pisses me off. any advice?


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    Get nasty! Ugh I know that's soo prob unreasonable/more trouble than it's worth, but it's the only way I've ever seen bitch drama resolved. Can I just take this moment to say I wish I worked with you in Maine? You seem cool as hell and I want to go that store and get a wedding dress and a rifle with ya. That is all. Good luck hun.

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    Awwww thanks . I almost said something to her last night when it happened. She left and then came back, so I got up to go say something, and then she was standing with a customer. I almost want to send her nast myspace message but that seems silly to me for some reason.


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    Hehe. I feel you with the urge to be nasty over the internet...

    Has she been there long? Maybe she will just go away. (My usual solution to everything, not the best thing in the world)

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    I'm not sure. I started in june and she was there, she was actually the 1st girl I met. I've been told various times that shes "this close" to getting fired. She straddles (we have a 1 foot on floor rule) in practicially every dance she does, shes a drama queen, she doesn't like doing stages, misses her stages, but she goes to the champagne room a lot so she has to really fuck up to get fired I think.


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    Leave it alone. Nothing kills drama like ignoring it. When she realizes that what she's doing doesn't phase you, she'll move on to her next victim.

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    Is this going on at the platnium in portland? I have heard so many stories about how all the girls there are really really bad on drugs and complete bitches.

    Anyway-- I would confront her, with a manager mediating it. Ask one of them on a slow day to come with you to talk to her. And just ask her straight up what problem she has with you, that you have never done anything to her and would appreciate if she kept your name out of her mouth and to not foul mouth you to customers. Don't tell her shes immature or petty, just keep it simple and hopefully w/ managers presense there it will really shut her up.

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    "Kill 'em with Kindness." Nothing pisses off a person more than smiling in their face when they hate you.
    I'd grab my trumpet and I'd do a stripper sound, like the old Louis Armstrong, real raspy. And the people would go nuts! Then I knew that the sexual, sensual, guttural sound, that throbbing sound, is where it's at.

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    Step up your game and start working her customers. I mean, fuck it, she's already doing it to you so she doesn't deserve any sort of unspoken hands-off courtesy that girls typically have amongst themselves. Of course you will also remain sweet as pie at all times, regardless of what she says to you. Custy's will think you are a doll, while she spits venom. It's the perfect plan!


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    ^^

    I like that idea. I can't not do ANYTHING, because shes fucking with my money. I know some customers know its just drama but some guys arent the swiftest or are sensitive and will actually buy into that crap. I may have lost a guy that will drop 1 or 2 grand on me whenever he comes in because of her....so I gotta do something.


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    Quote Originally Posted by Kalligirl View Post
    Is this going on at the platnium in portland? I have heard so many stories about how all the girls there are really really bad on drugs and complete bitches.

    Anyway-- I would confront her, with a manager mediating it. Ask one of them on a slow day to come with you to talk to her. And just ask her straight up what problem she has with you, that you have never done anything to her and would appreciate if she kept your name out of her mouth and to not foul mouth you to customers. Don't tell her shes immature or petty, just keep it simple and hopefully w/ managers presense there it will really shut her up.
    Yeah its Portland. I've only had a problem with her and 1 other girl (and the other girl wasn't nearly as bad, she just has a bad temper). Drugs are done but not so much there, but I know of a lot of girls with habits outside of work. Most of the girls are either nice or don't talk to you, theres not that much outright bitchiness, but this girl is pretty well known as being a bitch.


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    If he's not coming into the club at all -DEFINITELY mention it to management!

    She's fucking with THEIR money now too...

    (Is she bringing more cash than she's driving away? This is what it'll come down to...)

    But you're doing well staying out of the petty crap!! Don't give in now!!

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    Leave it alone. Nothing kills drama like ignoring it. When she realizes that what she's doing doesn't phase you, she'll move on to her next victim.


    I've been through the same thing as you.

    There was a girl at my club who was threatened by me. One of "her" customers got fed up with the way she treated him, so he decided that he wanted to spend time with me instead (because I'm not some greedy bitch who treats people like ATM machines)...anyhow, I barely even knew her, but she started going around talking all kinds of shit to people behind my back. Customers saw right through it. They knew me...I never talked shit about other dancers, I was always cool with my customers, polite with the other dancers...even when customers started talking shit about other dancers I'd keep my mouth shut (Like you, I always gave the "I don't know her very well" line). Customers knew I was a good person, and the reason why the bitch would talk shit about me was because she was jealous, envious, and threatened. My reply? "Well I don't see why she'd say those things about me...we barely know each other."

    Anyhow...everyone saw through her bullshit. And I just kept smiling and working and banking, which is, BTW, the best revenge And now she is not around anymore, thank God.

    Is there any way you could alter your shifts so you don't have to work with her?

    Remember, just keep smiling and working and banking...when she sees that she can't get to you, she'll either quit it or step it up...either way, be strong.
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    I don't work with her much, usually she works days and I work nights, so we'll work a couple hours together but thats it. I'd come in later but I couldn't say any later than I do so I don't want to cut my shifts short


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    I wouldn't do anything or say anything, because once you say something or do something then it will fan the flame and become even bigger than what it is. Just stay away from her as much as possible. Tell your custumers that she always says funny things like that, laugh and say.."whatever, o'well, im sooo not about drama".

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    First of all I'm sorry that has happened to you...Second trust me I KNOW HOW YOU FEEL!! I'm the youngest one at my club, and like you I don't say anything about the ones bad mouthing me...Like you said this is work not high school. They constantly attack such as trying to steal my customers and what not.

    You know what management will see you're being the better person about it, and soon she'll be outta there. Besides feel good about yourself that she's going to such lengths to get to you.

    Think wow this bitch is really pathetic, has nothing better to do than bother you. You have a job to do and if your reg custies truly are your regs...than they won't even pay attention to her.

    Good luck!

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    Ignoring her is like saying to her " You are not important enough to me to get upset over". Take what she is doing as a compliment.

    As far as her screwing w/ your money...your custies should be able to see right through it, but if they don't, just be super sweet with them and if they bring it up tell them that you barely know her. Why would she have any reason to talk shit about you?
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    ^^

    because she hates me lol.


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    Work the bullshit angle, mon amie!

    Every time a customer says, "X said you're a bitch/Satanist/kitten murderer," say, "I don't know why she's saying that. She's a very pretty girl and can be quite charming. She doesn't have to say things like that for attention." When she is catty with you, try, "You know, I don't think we should worry because there is an abundance of men and money."

    Try to lose your attitude that she is fucking with your money. There is PLENTY of money available and you are absolutely capable of earning it. Don't sweat it.
    "She held me close and whispered in my ear how wonderful I was. Since I'm not wonderful. I was pretty sure this was a trap. So I figured I'd better grope her as much as I could before they sprung the trap. You've got to take what you can get in this life. I read that in a magazine. So I started smearing kisses on her and pawing the front of her dress, trying to get my money's worth before somebody bashed my head in." John Swartzwelder

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