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    Ok I'm not tring to pick up a stripper, like I said before I have a lot of time on my hands and I think about a million things a day and this is one of them.

    Everywhere on here everyone talks about dating a stripper and how guys should not try to pick them up. But most of you have bf's so help me understand why it's a bad thing to try to date a stipper. Or tring to date one.
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    "Trying to pick up a stripper" is the line you should use to set mood I think... I don't see why that wouldn't win the lady over right of the bat and lead to a stable, romantic and love filled relationship... what the hell? If you have that much time on your hands you should "pick up" a hobby instead of a stripper, because with the amount of finesse you displayed in your post, your chances are slim to none!

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    Are you looking for a stripper, or an amazing, inspiring, broad-minded, intelligent, witty, wry, intelligent, wise, clever, and cunning woman? Not always the same thing as a stripper. For whatever reason, there is an unequal distribution of the good kind of women on this site, that also happen to strip for cash.

    I'm sure a bit of searching with reveal a bit.

    And this looks like Big_Daddy's question of the week, so try and keep the razor retracted, please.
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    I'm not tring to pick up a stripper!!!! There is not a club within 50 miles of here! All I'm wondering is what's so wrong with tring to date one!!!!!
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    Guys who try to pick up or date a stripper think of us as interchangeable. It isn't about how much you like us, it's just a status symbol kinda thing. Any decent looking stripper would do.

    That's why the smarter half of us never date men who make a habit of dating strippers. (That shows that it is the profession that is attracting them.) Not very flattering to say the least.

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    Am I the only guy who don't look at people like that? It's a job, people have to work!
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    Hun... in short... there is a huge difference between walking into a strip club meeting a girl you think is nice and cool, and sexy and trying to pick her up and meeting a girl at a friends party, or a grocery store. In scenario 1 you are the customer and you are paying her to fulfill some fantasy for you. In scenario 2 she is just a girl and you are just a guy, and if you like her it has nothing to do with the fact that she is a stripper. That is the big difference.
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    Sucks because maybe you do genuinely think you like her, but honey, most of us have an alter ego out there on the floor, and what you see is seldom what you get.
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    The problem isn't dating a stripper persay, it's 'trying to date a stripper'. It is one thing to meet a really cool girl, and decide you want to date her, and she just happens to be a stripper. It is another thing to say, "I am going to date a stripper!" And then search until you find one that will talk to you.

    In my mind, it's the same as girls saying "I'm going to date a doctor". There's nothing wrong with dating a doctor, but there's something wrong with so narrow-mindedly categorizing people by their job description only.
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    ^^ good analogy with the dating a doctor thing!!

    it's one thing to go to the local coffee shop to meet the barista because you think she's cute and want to ask her out. But you dont go to the doctors office to meet a doctor. The same rules apply to strip clubs. They just arent places you go to meet a potential girlfriend.
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    I have hooked up some of my male friends with dancers I've known through various means, for most guys it usually ends ugly because:
    • the guys are too insecure to handle her job
    • the guys are too jealous to handle her job
    • the guys think they will have a stripper 24/7. most of them are pretty nerdy and low key away from work
    • some dancers can make a LOT of money and girls with dough can intimidate some guys
    • some can't handle the teasing of "i saw your girl lastnight at work...she was naked!"
    • usual female problems associated with dating anyway

    I don't think I have a stripper fetish but I've enjoyed most of the ones I've met. The biggest problems I've had with dating(and worse) dancers is
    • Scheduling conflicts. I like to go out at night a lot and during the prime work hours. But any relationship can have that
    • stripper shoes in the hallway. You will trip a lot in their apartments and houses. Believe me. None of them put their shoes away


    I enjoy the fact that my chick is going out banking by turning guys on. I think that's pretty hot. Plus, strippers know other strippers so if you date one...

    Women are women. Strippers are just better dressed at work,but usually badly dressed away from it. You see that chick in the supermarket wearing bunny slippers, dingy sweats, and super dark sunglasses with a bandanna covering her hair? Stripper.
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    I dress fantastically and dont leave my shoes out... just wanted to say that.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Sh0t View Post
    Strippers are just better dressed at work,but usually badly dressed away from it. You see that chick in the supermarket wearing bunny slippers, dingy sweats, and super dark sunglasses with a bandanna covering her hair? Stripper.

    That's probably the dumbest statement I've read all week.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Andygirl View Post
    That's probably the dumbest statement I've read all week.
    Not necessarily. I dress like shit at the supermarket usually. Change bunny slippers to ratty flip flops and bandanna to ratty scrunchie and yeah..thats me. Because I WANT to be unappealing so random guys dont try to pick me up. Doesnt always work(seriously....some guys will hit on ANYTHING they think has a vagina...even if shes fugly!)but I try...


    To the OP...sxybrat07 has it exactly right.

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    Quote Originally Posted by big_daddy View Post
    Am I the only guy who don't look at people like that? It's a job, people have to work!
    Well, that's a good announcement, but in even starting a thread like this, your placating to the acknowledgment of the fantasy-now-media-endorsed image that Strippers are what every guy wants and what every woman should want to be.

    What used to be a fantasy benefiting the individual stripper financially is now being turned against them in what can only be considered an exploitation of that very fantasy. The mass media is, not only making it publicly acceptable, but actually profiting off the process of attaining it.

    As mass media demystifies stripping, and sells what they want those who've never stepped foot 1 into a strip club to believe, we're drawing a new and vicious crowd to the club environment.

    The sale: Sexy beautiful woman who will get naked for you for money. Who are they? How far will they go? What do they go home to? What is their daily life like? What do they want in their partners? Next on Fox.

    Men are being sold a myriad of pitches that run the spectrum from going to a club, "taking a stripper home for NSA sex and never paying a dime", to "Sure she'll do anal in the Private Room for 81.00"

    Women are being sold that the men they want, want this, and it fits right in with that ever-demanding marketed beauty image that goes from that "slimming stripper body that Kiera Knightley is trying to get, and YOU CAN TOO! Look for pole classes near you! Take the plunge! Be the sexgoddess your man wants you to be!" Right down to the nasty "You'll never be America's Top Stripper, you're just not good enough"

    What you don't see is: "How do You Meet and Have a Great Relationship with a Stripper?" or marketing to that effect. Because, to do that, then they'd just stop objectifying the person performing the profession and just caller her a woman. Oh wait.
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    I have known one or two dancers who've dated guys they met at work. The result can usually be described in a couple of words.....

    Train wreck.

    Because, as has been mentioned above, a dancer at work is generally very different from one not at work. Most guys who want to date a dancer are attracted to what she does, not who she is. When they find out that she's 'ordinary' outside of work, the attraction soon changes to animosity. Broken dreams I guess...

    Ditto a dancer's attitude to guys with an involvement in her 'work' life. One once said to me, "The motivations that bring a guy into a SC are the reasons I won't like him outside of it".

    It's a Catch 22 - you'll only normally meet a dancer at work, and if you meet her there, she'll have no interest in you outside of work.

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    Getting off my soap box,

    The real nuts and bolts is recognizing what you want. If you want the type of woman who's sexually open, you'll probably find more of them in the sex industry. And there's nothing wrong with even the idea that her being a Stripper turns you on (It's just they're really pushing that in the mass media right now that gets me), but if you're banking on any one particular adjective to make up for any type of work a relationship requires to be successful, you're going in the wrong direction.

    I fondly recall, being confided in by a "civilian woman" that she was a stripper, which was hilarious. I also remember being able to get into a sac a hell of a lot faster with a bartender.

    I even claim I'm oblivious, hell, I don't even try which is why I'm not really all that active, but I'm happy with myself, and thusly, patient.

    Fact is, if you want a relationship to work...with anyone...start looking inward, know what you want unequivicably, and learn to settle for as little at possible. Then what she brings to the table matter more, and in different ways.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Roulette View Post
    Hun... in short... there is a huge difference between walking into a strip club meeting a girl you think is nice and cool, and sexy and trying to pick her up and meeting a girl at a friends party, or a grocery store. In scenario 1 you are the customer and you are paying her to fulfill some fantasy for you. In scenario 2 she is just a girl and you are just a guy, and if you like her it has nothing to do with the fact that she is a stripper. That is the big difference.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Mastridonicus View Post
    Getting off my soap box,

    Fact is, if you want a relationship to work...with anyone...start looking inward, know what you want unequivicably, and learn to settle for as little at possible. Then what she brings to the table matter more, and in different ways.

    My 2 cents.
    Nice advice!!
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    Sucks because maybe you do genuinely think you like her, but honey, most of us have an alter ego out there on the floor, and what you see is seldom what you get.

    So fuckin true. LOL

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    Quote Originally Posted by big_daddy View Post
    Ahhhhhhhhh! That's what I was the answer I was looking for!
    It's also wrong. There is no difference.

    It's just like talking to waitresses, retail clerks, trying to fuck your lawyer or your insurance agent, etc.

    There are nuances to the environment, but not enough to worry about.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Sh0t View Post
    It's just like talking to waitresses, retail clerks, trying to fuck your lawyer or your insurance agent, etc.
    You forgot to mention trying to fuck a cop.

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    Quote Originally Posted by cameron_keys View Post
    Not necessarily. I dress like shit at the supermarket usually. Change bunny slippers to ratty flip flops and bandanna to ratty scrunchie and yeah..thats me. Because I WANT to be unappealing so random guys dont try to pick me up. Doesnt always work(seriously....some guys will hit on ANYTHING they think has a vagina...even if shes fugly!)but I try....
    That might be true for you, but would you say it's true across the board? I never go out looking like a slob and neither do most of the dancers I know. It seems like a silly generalization to me.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Roulette View Post
    I dress fantastically and dont leave my shoes out... just wanted to say that.
    I leave my shoes out. Everywhere. Usually in a path from the front door to my bedroom.

    My husband keep threatening to throw them out in the yard.

    I'm not sure if that's a stripper thing though. My mom's been threatening the same thing since I was about nine.



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    How to pick up a stripper- have a thick cock, don't talk too much, and fuck like Satan. That is all.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Sh0t View Post
    It's also wrong. There is no difference.

    It's just like talking to waitresses, retail clerks, trying to fuck your lawyer or your insurance agent, etc.

    There are nuances to the environment, but not enough to worry about.
    Are you fucking serious? Waitresses, Retail Clerks and lawyers ARE NOT IN THE SEX INDUSTRY!! It's not the same thing, hello!?! We, strippers are!! What the fuck?? Would you show up on location and ask a porn star if she'd like to have a nice night of dancing and a movie with you and perhaps be your girlfriend? No you bloody well wouldn't!! I'm not saying that dancing and porn are the same profession, not at all, but the thing they have in common is that they are in the sex industry. Does that make sense to you? Ladies, am I wrong??
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