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    Some chick stole my purse with 400 dollars in it and I'm just not really that pissed for some reason. I walked into work with the purse, a bag of food, my huge work bag, a newspaper, some puffy jackets; basically a regular effing bag lady over here as usual. I dump it all on the counter in a haphazard pile and then have to run back to my car for a razor. When I come back, the ONE AND ONLY girl there is all nervous like "Hi, whats your name? My name is Lisa" and since we worked the other night I was a little taken back, not suspicious but just a little curious why she was being so nice and forward to me. Anyway I got dressed and couldn't find my purse, so I kept going back to my car and looking everywhere but never found it. It's pretty sad though that I can't get up enough courage to cofront her, tell on her or anything because I am 98% sure it was her (2% chance I dropped it because I had so much crap with me...). What else could have happened. I distinctly remember holding the purse to put a lipgloss in it and the next place I was at was the club. She left all cheerily soon after that like "Well time to Go! I've been here all day...ha ha ha"

    I guess my question to you girls, if your interested, is should I be this nonchalant about 400 dollars? I'm not THAT hard up and I have a weird view about that money because I was kinda drunk at work the night before, dancing really wild and getting better tips. Well actually, DEMANDING them, ha ha. (liquid courage?) I just feel sorry for her more than anything because when I went on stage she looked like a sad little puppy watching so hopelessly jealous of my body and ability. I guess I've already decided not to be mad but I wish someone would just shake me and say "Damnit have her fired and threaten to throat punch her if she doesn't come up with it asap!" What would you guys do in this situation?

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    Yes, I'd be mad, very very mad but since you didn't see her do it and don't have any proof, there's not a whole lot you can do. The only thing you can do is tell the housemom about it and ask if there's cameras around that could've seen her. If not, let this be a huge learning lesson for you. I ALWAYS lock up my stuff and keep my eye on it, obviously can't trust anyone. And $400 is a lot of money!!! It's not like it was $4.00!

    If it were me, just say something, like "You didn't happen to see a black purse with silver sequins on it the other night where we were did you? Cause it was my purse, it had $400 in it and now I can't find the purse. I think someone stole it. You didn't by any chance see someone with it, did you?" And when you're asking her, ask her in a way that you know it was her and see how she reacts to it. If she gets all nervous, you know it was her, if you're at least suspicious, then at least tell the housemom so she can keep her eyes on her. That's all you can do and let this be a learning lesson!!!! Thank God it was a thousand or two!

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    I agree with leogirl on this one, never leave anything unattended at a sc, NEVER. I had something similar happen to me, a bitch in my club a long time ago stole my credit cards and my ID card, I didn't realize until I got home and had to close everything and get a new ID.

    I would be mad as hell though, I don't understand why you aren't, that is a thief and I don't care if someone stole $5 or $1,000 from me, that makes them a thief and I can't stand someone that is a thief and yes I would confront her about it, if she was the only one in there and you left it, it had to be her!! Just like you said she was staring at you all jealous on stage, that is it right there, she is new, jealous of you and isn't making any money.

    If you are still afraid to out and say it then leogirl has a good way of doing that as well.
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    I'd be mad as fuck! Question her with other girls around so you have some witnesses and others to make her uneasy. And anytime I ever got screwed out of some money, I'd go to my manager with the pouty face and tell him I have a bill or rent due that I was planning to put that money towards. Then I would ask him for 2-4 nights of free house so I could make it back quicker and he would ALWAYS give it to me. I don't know if your manager is that nice, but it's worth a shot. You probably won't get any money back, but at least you get something.

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    honestly, if you're not stressing it, just let it go. don't bring that negative energy and anger into your life if you don't have to.

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    I'd at least do what leogirl said. At least make her feel guilty about it, and never ever leave your money unattended. I've heard of girls turning their back on their money to get something in their locker and turning back to have it not there, there were 5 or 6 girls in the locker room and nobody would own up to it. I can't imagine not being pissed over $400.


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    Quote Originally Posted by Lola Rose View Post
    honestly, if you're not stressing it, just let it go. don't bring that negative energy and anger into your life if you don't have to.

    I agree with this. I'd love it if everything didn't make me mad.

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    I would be pissed. As soon as I realized it was missing and knew that that girl took it, I would have asked her bluntly and told her exactly how I knew it was her. If she denied it, I'd say: "Well I'll just go ask the managers to look at the tapes." and leave, even if there aren't tapes lol. Hopefully it would shake her into 'helping' the money turn up.

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    I would be really upset, but you aren't, and there's no good reason to get yourself worked up. Ask the girl if you want, to gage her reaction, but thieves are usually able to lie with a straight face. I've met people who would steal your wallet and then help you look for it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by leogirl876 View Post
    If it were me, just say something, like "You didn't happen to see a black purse with silver sequins on it the other night where we were did you? Cause it was my purse, it had $400 in it and now I can't find the purse. I think someone stole it. You didn't by any chance see someone with it, did you?" And when you're asking her, ask her in a way that you know it was her and see how she reacts to it. If she gets all nervous, you know it was her, if you're at least suspicious, then at least tell the housemom so she can keep her eyes on her. That's all you can do and let this be a learning lesson!!!! Thank God it was a thousand or two!
    This is excellent advice.

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    i say you drink some more of that liquid courage and Mike Tyson that slut.

    either that or grow some huevos and rat on her.

    the last thing you do is fuck with someone's money. that's grounds to get your ass terminated. Bitch slap her, then demand she return your money, with interest. If you boss up to her, i'm sure the lil skank would be too intimidated not to oblige you.

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    Id be pissed off but at the same time id cut my losses and realize it was probably my own fault somehow lol.

    Though I would kind of half assed make some sort of comment to her implying I knew it was her then watch her drown in her own guilt.

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    thanks ladies...for the record there is no housemom and no cameras, the managers would never waive a house fee unless I was, well, I don't even want to think about that actually.

    I think I might ask her next time- because the purse had a redheaded girl with flipped out hair on it, thats what my hair looks like and everyone is always like "Oh what a cute purse it looks just like you!!" So I could say something about that maybe? See but I know she'll just be like "Oh no, I have no idea, sorry" Which will make me sick to my stomache. I'm gonna let it go...work harder next time.

    And I just realized that maybe my ID was stolen too, like 2 weeks ago. Can't find it anywhere and it was in my bag. hmm. effing A!

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    and I guess I just wanted to add also that the REASON I posted here and was confused...is because I wonder if my inability to get mad about this stems from sort of sad, sick twisted way of living where I never stick up for myself and let people abuse me. The reality of the world is so harsh I just ignore it.

    I used to just shake with rage at the indignancies done to me at work. Now when someone grabs my pussy? I laugh...thats right I actually continue dancing even it happens another time because I would rather be like "Oh everything is OK, I'm having a good time, life is good" that have to interupt that flow and be like "NO, What you are doing is WRONG" (I know almost every girl here on SW would just demand money and walk away but I actually am hoping for like more dances withthe creep or something)

    I also used to be politically active and care about politics and world issues intensely.... but since 9/11 just made me so sad (I beleive it was an inside job) I have completely refused to discuss politics with people. I can't face the pain so I whitewash it. You know I have a big sign that says "Have a nice day" on the windshield of my car? I'm also an avid recyler and in a Nursing program. I do "care" and want to help people but I can't seem to help myself. I just feel like people like me, who project to sunniest cheeriest attitude are actually the saddest ones of all.

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    I'm just sending you a hug because you really do sound sad & hurt on the inside.

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    If it's just the purse and money, I'd just consider it an expensive lesson. If it was your ID and credit cards and stuff, I'd be doing something to get it back.

    But you sound really upset about not being mad. What do you think the ideal you would feel/do?



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    I feel this way too sometimes. It's like you feel more sad and helpless than mad. Even if you were to confront this girl it would be emotionally draining to do so, so why bother right? Some people might feel better by yelling at or threatening her, but you would probably feel worse. So just let it go and don't beat yourself up about it. You have a right to be mad, but you also have a right to not be mad.

    Um, I don't know if you're at all religious or spiritual, but if someone does something shitty to me I try to pray for them. You know, just ask God to help them see the error in their ways and help them improve their lives. I know it sounds corny, but it really helps me to forgive them and release all my pent-up negative energy.

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    I think you should be mad that someone else took advantage of you. I think everyone has let a stray hand go by without comment in a dance, but there's a big difference between a guy putting his hand on you because he's liking the dance and intentionally grabbing your pussy. He knows that's wrong and you should yell at him for it.

    It sounds like maybe you have a problem with realizing how much you are worth. You are a human being and you have the right to only be touched when you want to be and have your personal property respected. This girl violated your rights, so I think there is something wrong with not being upset about it. It's ok if you don't want to get revenge or prolong the negative feelings, but it seems kind of odd that you aren't really upset.

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