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    I think it's a terrible idea. At best he would distract me from working, at worst he would spend money faster than I could make it, get jealous, and make me mad.

    I don't see any reason for it.

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    Boyfriends aren't allowed at my club. Don't know if thats enforced, and don't particularly care b/c I would never invite mine in. He's said that he wouldn't mind watching me on stage, but lap dancing was a no-no. So for me I wouldn't want him there b/c there would be drama.

    If your guy is into that, then I guess go for for it. Thats a pretty personal question completely dependent on you, him and the relationship in general, but if it were ME i wouldn't want the boyfriend I have NOW there. With another guy I may just as well say "yes".

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    I think it would be a distraction. I had the mistake of letting some of my friends visit me early on in dancing and it was very detrimental to my money. So, I'm going to say its a bad idea. You are there to work not flirt with your bf. You can do that later.
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    I've worked at A LOT of clubs that will fire you on the spot if your man is in the club.

    Why would you want to bring your personal life into work? Its a horrible horrible idea.

    Its one thing for your guy to say 'oh im fine with it' then he sees someone try to grab you and its just huge drama.

    Nope nope nope.. bad idea.

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    Boyfriend at my work is a big no-no. I get into character at work and I wold not want any real-life reminders to throw me off my game. It's important to me to keep my personal life separate from the strip club.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Genevive View Post
    It's important to me to keep my personal life separate from the strip club.
    I agree with this wholeheartedly.

    Also, what if your bf thinks hes cool with it in theory, but when he sees you in action he changes his mind or his opinion about you?

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    Heh im just reminded of this time a girl brought her man into the club to see her.... and another girl thought he was a customer and started hustling him... chick comes flying over to the table and punches the other girl out and started calling her a home wrecking slut for trying to hustle her man. Later on when the girlfriend was in the dj booth the other girl came up and threw her down the stairs and it turned into this huge brawl involving like 10 girls lol.

    Why the fuck would you bring your man into the club if you don't want to see another girl trying to hustle him

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    My man wouldn't mind me on stage b/c it is way less personal. But being with a single guy, all sexy and "into him" is way different from a partners point of view.

    Elaborating on what AustinNatalie said about thinking hes okay with it :If your doing your job right you should look like your super into the guy your dancing for and that, previously explained in words could be interpreted completely different in his mind than what he is actually seeing now, as your dancing for another man in front of him. Why would you want to even risk the drama?

    When me and my boyfriend worked at a grocery store together it was distracting. I cant imagine what disastrous amount of distraction having him in the club would produce.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Callyish View Post
    I've worked at A LOT of clubs that will fire you on the spot if your man is in the club.

    Why would you want to bring your personal life into work? Its a horrible horrible idea.

    Its one thing for your guy to say 'oh im fine with it' then he sees someone try to grab you and its just huge drama.

    Nope nope nope.. bad idea.
    I agree 100000%.

    It's an awful thing to do, really. All it does is end up with somebody's feelings getting hurt, whether or not it is actually verbalized. I've seen so many fights due to a boyfriend/hubby showing up to 'see what their girl does at work'. BAD idea.

    The few times I have actually let my SO go with me to a feature booking, it was only for safety reasons (bad town/hotel or other weird feature type shit) and he did not EVER leave my dressing room during a show. If I was hustling the floor or doing regular stripping stage sets or something, I would not have him in a club while I was working.

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    Oh if im doing a feature booking I will have my SO with me time to time playing roadie because it seriously comes in handy, but he knows what his job is and though he may be watching my show its watching it in a way to make sure nothing is going wrong and to know when to toss me a certain prop or to do a stage set up or what not.

    If im hustling he stays in my changing room and entertains himself lol. Or I will send him back to the hotel.

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    My husband has come in a few times. We have no jealousy issues, but still not really good. When he's there I want to talk to him so it kills my hustle.

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    NO boyfriends. well for me anyway. My husband came in once and either of us we're feeling it. I think it's not the place at all for your man to be seeing you flirting with guys to make money. it can cause drama within the club too....one time in my club, a girl's bf came in and all these girls kept goin up to him asking him for a dance and she got all mad at the girls! ???...yeah obviously we didn't know it was her man but yeah. then another time a girls bf actually went for a dance with a girl and they were all in the LD room and she was dancing for another dude and heard her bf's voice and all hell broke loose.

    I just think it's safe to leave your personal and job life seperate.

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    Quote Originally Posted by cameron_keys View Post
    My husband has come in a few times. We have no jealousy issues, but still not really good. When he's there I want to talk to him so it kills my hustle.
    Right, that's exactly me too. If yr not with the type that has jealousy/naivety issues, then @ the very least, this will happen.

    Put yr $$ away and take me out to dinner foo! You can have all the pussy you want for free and I love you for it.

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    I think it's a bad idea. My bf was picking me up one day (day shift) and decided to come early to see me in action (without telling me). When I noticed him sitting on a stool eye balling me I was very distracted and then he judged me for it afterwards.

    He's my ex now and to this day (5 yrs later) he tells me how much he hated me working there. And it was a respectable place (topless plus airdancing)!

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    boyfriends/husbands/other SO's are not allowed at my club while we're working.
    and its strictly enforced. even if my bf comes to pick me up, and i'm already dressed to leave and sitting at the bar, he still isn't allowed inside the club.


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    oh dear. my ex came in when he was still my bf... i'd been working there about a week?? we fucked in the back room!!!!! how AWFUL!!! (errr... awfully fun?? he came in wearing full leathers, i couldn't help myself. he might be a psychopath, but he was still really hot.) i soooo could have gotten fired. i'm lucky i didn't. it was hot, though. i think i ribbed him a year and a half later how that was the one time he paid for sex. other than that? club doesn't really care... but i'd never go outside of a normal dance again.

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    I work with one girl whes bf will come into picj her up, and sometimes he'll come in early, and they make it work. He can get dances and she doesn't give a shit, he can watch her flirt and sit on laps without batting a lash. I've sat and talked to him before and he's just really chill (he smokes a lotta pot so maybe that helps lol). But aside from that, I think its a bad idea. Even if its allowed, and even if you think neither of you will get jealous (and you still might, you don't know til it happens) it will screw up your hustle.
    I'd be really uncomfortable if my bf came into my work to watch me, I would not be able to hustle guys at all.


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    I have to say that it is not a good thing....keep work away from your personal life as much as you can. Like others have said it will kill your hustle and it can bring a lot of drama to work that does not need to be there.

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    I agree that generally speaking, boyfriend at work i a bad idea, and usually not allowed.

    For me tho...my boyfriend helps me make more money. He's like my wingman...pointing out guys he notices that are spending money, or buying lots of dances...he also will start talking to guys sitting next to him, tel;ling them I'm the best dancer in he club, I give great dances, he only comes in to see me, and they should give me a try..

    Plus, it's nice when I need a break to have a seat with him, geta drink and catch my breath..and I can go back to myself for a minute. When sittin gwith a customer, your always in character. It's nice to step out and back into yourself for a minute.

    SO for me..it works well, but for most, it is a bad idea.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Kaylinn View Post
    I agree that generally speaking, boyfriend at work i a bad idea, and usually not allowed.

    For me tho...my boyfriend helps me make more money. He's like my wingman...pointing out guys he notices that are spending money, or buying lots of dances...he also will start talking to guys sitting next to him, tel;ling them I'm the best dancer in he club, I give great dances, he only comes in to see me, and they should give me a try..

    Plus, it's nice when I need a break to have a seat with him, geta drink and catch my breath..and I can go back to myself for a minute. When sittin gwith a customer, your always in character. It's nice to step out and back into yourself for a minute.

    SO for me..it works well, but for most, it is a bad idea.
    Whoa...Kaylinn you're one lucky girl!

    For most guys...he thinks he is all opened minded and shit, until he sees you sitting on some guy's lap, whispering in his ear. It is only natural to get jealous. Ugh, and even if they have dated dancers it doesn't mean they act the way they supposedly should when in a club while you are working. Few and far between are the guys that can handle that...and even fewer are the guys like Kaylinn's that can actually help you.

    That's so awesome, BTW.

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    Boyfriends are not allowed at my club for very good reason - fights would break out.

    It is a stupid idea. They would get jealous. Imagine watching your partner flirt with people and then take them for a private dance.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Kaylinn View Post
    I agree that generally speaking, boyfriend at work i a bad idea, and usually not allowed.

    For me tho...my boyfriend helps me make more money. He's like my wingman...pointing out guys he notices that are spending money, or buying lots of dances...he also will start talking to guys sitting next to him, tel;ling them I'm the best dancer in he club, I give great dances, he only comes in to see me, and they should give me a try..

    Plus, it's nice when I need a break to have a seat with him, geta drink and catch my breath..and I can go back to myself for a minute. When sittin gwith a customer, your always in character. It's nice to step out and back into yourself for a minute.
    ealous.
    SO for me..it works well, but for most, it is a bad idea.
    I'm jealous


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