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    Default I'm not agressive enough!

    I was just wondering how do you guys have the nerve to just walk up to a stranger and sit on his lap? Is there an open statement thats made first or do I just sit down. In my club and alot of other clubs I've visited, I've seen the girls just go over and take a seat and then start the conversation! Am I supposed to introduce myself first them take a seat or sit first and then introduce myself? What if he doesn't like me and I'm all up in his personal space? How is this generally done ladies?

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    Default Re: I'm not agressive enough!

    You need to work within your comfort levels. Dont worry about what the other girls are doing. I dont sit in any custies lap, it's not encouraged at my club and while some girls do it, I certainly don't feel comfortable. Plus we should be charging for that shit!!! don't give it to them for free.

    Seriously tho, if you dont feel comfortable with it then the custie will be able to tell that you are uncomfortable.

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    You don't have to sit on laps, sometimes I do, sometimes I don't. If I sit on a lap I'm not spending very much time there without getting a dance or something out of it. You'll get more used to sparking a convo. as you go. I was so shy when I started and was horrible at just talking to strangers, now I'm pretty good at it. It helps me to have a few simple things that I can start a conversation with. "You getting drunk?" "Awww your way over here by yourself." "Did you just get out of work?" (everyones a construction worker or something like that here so you can tell). Simple things to get it rolling and then you take it from there. You can usually tell if a guy is interested pretty quickly that way too. If they aren't making eye contact, don't ask your name when you ask theirs, or are giving you quick one word answers, they usually aren't interested. In that case I'll get to my point very quickly (because sometimes they do want a dance) so I don't waste my time.


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    I am not aggresive either. I always say, "Hi! How are you? Do you mind if I sit with you for a bit?" This sometimes gets the answer "If you want to." which I hate, and guys still waste my time instead of just saying that they're not buying dances but at least I know I'm welcome at the table.

    I never sit on guys laps because it makes me uncomfortable. don't do it unless you want to/have to because there are no chairs. It's actually really hard for me to talk to guys when I'm sitting on their lap because I can't see their face that well. I like to sit opposite and kind of slide right next to their legs. This is more intimate imo with no touching.
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    Default Re: I'm not agressive enough!

    I rarely sit on laps- only if I have no other choice. Most of the time if he wants you to sit on his lap, he will ask you to....at least in my experience.

    I don't like going up and talking to guys either- I'm pretty antisocial. I just remind myself I'm not going to get any money unless I go after it.
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    the way to do it is mindset, i just say im going to act like a tipsy horny bimbo and go over there and sit down. The reasons why i sit on the lap: if i want to make it quick,whisper something, if he's feeling me i'll sit down. the other reason i sit on a lap is if we have no available seats

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    Default Re: I'm not agressive enough!

    Have a standard set of questions aka a script and use this with every patron you approach. Also remember that if you don't approach them and initiate the conversation then no money for you! I'm also one who detests sitting on peoples laps... even if there are no chairs about or seem like no other option.. I will try to do my best to NOT sit on their lap.

    If they want me on their lap, purchase a LAP dance.. I'm not giving it away for free and I'm pretty sick n tired of other girls doing so as well. *sigh*


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