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    This afternoon, I received an email from my sister that some high school classmates of ours (they were high school sweethearts) lost their 3 year old son on Tuesday after his battle with Hurlers. Seeing as how I probably haven't seen or spoken to either one of them since high school (my sister keeps in touch with alot of her high school peeps), would it be appropriate to send an email with my condolences?

    On a side note, earlier this morning, I was actually thinking about them and their son...I was wondering how they were doing...weird.

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    Since you aren't really close, nor have you spoke to them in years, I'd think email would be fine. R did this for one of his long time acquaintances because their child was sick with a disease as well.

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    I had quite a few of my high school friends show up to Taryn's wake and I had been out of school and out of touch for 20 years at that point.

    I appreciated it immensely. You're absolutely doing the right thing. One parent to another.

    And my prayers go out to your old friends and their son. May he rest in peace and may they someday find some.

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    I'm sorry for their loss. My heart goes out to them. I think an email will be fine.
    Glam you must have a strong connection to the forces around you so you pick up on things. I'd never of Hurlers until now. Give your little ones a hug and keep them extra close to you, children are so special..I'm going to call mine in a bit and let them know I love them.
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    As long as your condolences are thoughtful and heartfelt (as I have no doubt they will be) I think they'll just appreciate the sentiment.

    Wow. Losing a child, especially a 3 year old. I can't even fathom how much that has to hurt.
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    Glamazon, the best and most appropriate action would be to send them a handwritten note. Miss Manners would thank you.

    If that's not possible, I suppose an email message may be appreciated - but email is not a reliable and appropriate medium to send such a message as it would arrive in an inbox list likely polluted by spam. In addition, during their mourning, your friends may not be checking their email.
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    I also think you should send a handwritten note or card. It's not really that much extra effort and is more likely to remain in their possession as a reminder that you cared. So while I don't think that it's inappropriate to send an email, I think snail-mailing a physical card would be much nicer.


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    ^
    I thought the same thing too, but then Glamazon might not have her mailing address. And then there's any potential "weirdness" from having it given out.

    But I agree that handwritten is best. If you can't get the mailing address, get the message out somehow.
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    If you have their address, I would send a note. If not, email would be fine. I'm sure they'll appreciate your kindness either way.

    I can't imagine what they must be going through. That's so sad.
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    Yeah, I don't have their mailing address. They have a website and blog that they have been updating ever since their son was diagnosed. I was just going to send an email to them thru the website. I know that they just traveled home to Idaho for the funeral and burial (they were living in NC so their son could be treated at Duke), so they probably won't be checking it for a few days.

    Can anyone help me out with wording?? I'm just so bad at these things...like I think it in my head, but then it just sounds all wrong once I get it out.

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    email is perfectly acceptable in this case. and i'm sure they'll appreciate it very much.

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    I'm so sorry for their loss.

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    Default Re: Would It Be Appropriate To Email My Condolences??

    I think it's perfectly appropriate. Prob. much appreciated too, like Lola said. If they have a website/blog, then I'm sure they'll appreciate the sentiment. Very sad situation...

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    "Dear John and Jane, I am so terribly sorry that your beautiful baby is gone. I cannot imagine the pain you must feel and I give you my heartfelt condolences. Most sincerely, Glamazon"


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    Default Re: Would It Be Appropriate To Email My Condolences??

    There are several websites from where you can send a picture card emulating a regular snail mail card, and you can add your own comment. You choose the card that expresses the reason for sending it. I think e-cards(dot)com is one. Google "e-cards" for others.

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    Send your condolences. This is very thoughtful of you.

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