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    god im an idiot. I just had a bad break up, got my period, tried to kill myself and ended up in the hospital all in the same day. after i was able to leave from the hospital i drove straight to mcdonalds( ) ate icecream in my car and went to a surgery center and i was asking prices for lipo, a nose job, boob job, a rib removed, my second toe shortened, etc.

    It came up to about 65 grand. I dont have the money but i reallyyyy want to get this stuff booked and done. Should i just suck it up and save up the money or just take out a loan and just do it asap?? what do you think would be better?

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    I'm going to vote for the third option: Don't make any rash decisions.

    Why is it so important to get all this stuff done?
    "She held me close and whispered in my ear how wonderful I was. Since I'm not wonderful. I was pretty sure this was a trap. So I figured I'd better grope her as much as I could before they sprung the trap. You've got to take what you can get in this life. I read that in a magazine. So I started smearing kisses on her and pawing the front of her dress, trying to get my money's worth before somebody bashed my head in." John Swartzwelder

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    Are you serious????? I"d like to think this is a joke post...if not..get yourself into a psychiatric treatment ASAP. Tried to kill yourself??? Honey..you've got me worried now....

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    I've wanted it done for years. Im sick of living my life as the ugly duckling.

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    A rib removed? A toe shortened?

    Don't make any rash decisions. Sit on it for awhile.
    I promise the only person who thinks your second toe is to big is you. I'm sure noone else even notices.
    And a rib removed? That sounds a bit drastic, hun.

    I'd say your feeling a bit rebelious and crazy right now, and just wanna do somethign drastic, make changes. This is not a good mindset to make permenant life altering desicions.

    I hope everythig nis ok hun. This post has me concerned. PM me if you wanna talk.

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    eck i didnt mean for anyone to get really concerned. I just said what happened so you know what triggerd all the things I want done.(i have wanted it done for years, but i just keep putting it off)

    If i save up the money it will take me a year and a half or so..then it will take months(im guessing) to wait for my apps...could they do all of that in one day or would i have to go back a couple days? and would it be months inbetween? I just dont know if i should just out a loan and book all my apps. now so then i have have it all done by next summer?

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    ^ honey, i want to hug you.

    the fact that you think you are an ugly duckling hurts my heart. you are such a sweet person... and i don't think you're ugly!

    don't make any rash decisions. the sun will shine your way if you just let it. don't be scared... and change your mood from "dead"!

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    Well...the attempted suicide tells me that you arent in a place right now to make major life altering decisions.

    Start saving. If it takes a year to save the money...you have a year to think about it. If by then you decide you really still want it...then do it. If not, then you have a bunch of money saved up. So win-win!

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    I agree with the ladies above. At most you should be getting a post-breakup haircut, and settling home to watch Molly Ringwald movies (or your equivalent of feel good movies). Take care of yourself, don't cut yourself up.

    You aren't ugly, you're still reeling from what's just happened. Attempting suicide is not something you can brush away as if it's nothing. Please go talk to someone even if you know you won't try again, and process the breakup, the stuff you've been through lately, all of it. Then you can get stuff moved and removed and prodded and know for sure you'll feel better afterwards.

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    I have a life coach but shes really busy all the time. I had a session with her today though. It made me depressed because I sorta feel like a loser having to pay someone to talk to me sometimes. I need it though. Im getting back on meds which should be reallyyyy fucking great because i ALWAYS gain weight on anti dep. and that will just make me even more freaking depressed.


    geezzz sry for the threadjack on my own thread

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    Quote Originally Posted by Kaylinn View Post

    I hope everythig nis ok hun. This post has me concerned. PM me if you wanna talk.
    Same here. Sweetie, don't hesitate to PM me. I've been through some rough times, too, and could possibly empathize with you.



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    I agree with cameron. Start saving that money and then when you have 5-10 grand in a bank account, you'll think of all the possible things you could do with that money, and you won't want to spend it on surgery. If you took out a loan you might end up still not liking how you look and being 65 grand in debt (not to mention interest).

    Even the most "beautiful" people in the world can still be miserable. I hope that your life coach and your medications can help you to get back on track.

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    Do me a favor. Before you do anything, try to remember when you were a child, the first time you intensely disliked so much of your body. What happened? What did you decide about yourself?
    "She held me close and whispered in my ear how wonderful I was. Since I'm not wonderful. I was pretty sure this was a trap. So I figured I'd better grope her as much as I could before they sprung the trap. You've got to take what you can get in this life. I read that in a magazine. So I started smearing kisses on her and pawing the front of her dress, trying to get my money's worth before somebody bashed my head in." John Swartzwelder

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    even if you get these things, that will make you feel happy, please remember that true happiness comes from within. I think rather than dosing yourself up on more antidepressant you should go to a therapist and work on what makes you feel down. Medication wont take away the cause of why you are sad. I am not saying stop taking them cold turkey, but how about asking the doc to cut the dosage to work yourself off of it. This will also help you lose some of the weight that you don't want anyway.




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    Yeah, I agree that maybe a post breakup haircut, or even some retail therapy....but not 65 grand in plastic surgery! Breakups sucks ass, and I have been in the attempted suicide boat also and its not fun but I'd wait. You shouldn't do all that just to feel better, I know you said you wanted it for a while, but it was all of a sudden triggered by your depression. Do what everybody else said, start saving so you have sometime to think.

    Paying somebody to talk to does not make you a loser! I'd love to have a therapist to talk to, I'm just to cheap and lazy.


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    Do NOT go out and get 65K in plastic surgery right now. Do what the other ladies have said and start saving money, so you have a while to think about all of this. Breakups are hard, and then trying to kill yourself puts you in a totally different mindset than you would normally be in (I've been there numerous times, and it takes a little while to get back to where you were before things went downhill.).


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    Quote Originally Posted by miss marina View Post
    god im an idiot. I just had a bad break up, got my period, tried to kill myself and ended up in the hospital all in the same day. after i was able to leave from the hospital i drove straight to mcdonalds( ) ate icecream in my car and went to a surgery center and i was asking prices for lipo, a nose job, boob job, a rib removed, my second toe shortened, etc.

    It came up to about 65 grand. I dont have the money but i reallyyyy want to get this stuff booked and done. Should i just suck it up and save up the money or just take out a loan and just do it asap?? what do you think would be better?
    A bad break-up and a period on the way, can do many things to our minds and body, you got hit with a double whammy. Go easy on you. Kick back a few days/weeks and look at this thread again. You will probably feel different then. more than 50% of women after a break-up change things about their life, it's the ole dusting and cleaning out the jerk from our brains, moving on.

    Go for a hair colour, cut etc. Nails, or a few sexy nice outfits. Keep it simple and you will feel better you spent very little. All you really need (oh i know) is a little TLC for you. Nothing more. Not surgery, not anything drastic.

    You have just gone through alot, let your mind catch up and it will slow down. No person is worth us changing our bodies for, AND no period (damn hormones) are not worth changing us.

    Hang in there, you will be fine. Check out comedy movies, laugh, surround yourself with people who make you feel good. Stay away from 'toxic' people.

    And love yourself! Others love you

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    Are you still coming to my Halloween party? Are you staying over? If so...I will see you a week from Saturday and I make it my mission to see that you have the most fun you can possibly have!!! We will make you feel better baby!!!

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    Wow, I hope you're feeling better today. I don't think you'd be the best candidate for ps right now because that alone won't make you happy. Being pretty doesn't always make people automatically happy. You're not an ugly duckling and far from it. When you start to feel better about you and still want ps then you can try doing it in chunks of maybe 20K. That way you can get a few things done at a time and see results in the meantime.

    I really hope you don't do any of that stuff again to yourself....you may the leave hospital in a bag. I'm pretty damn sure you don't want that. Take the time to work on yourself and start to feel good again because there are many things to be thankful for the way you are and your life is right now. I'm really sorry you were in so deep the night before. You should never have to feel so bad that trying to kill yourself is the only way out.
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    wow. just WOW.

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    Quote Originally Posted by miss marina View Post
    I have a life coach but shes really busy all the time.
    Well, it seems that your life coach isn't being effective at helping you. I suggest you see a REAL counselor (you know, someone with TRAINING) and you need it NOW.

    Also, I agree with Cameron Keys about not making any "life-altering" decisions at this time. Your hormones are making you over-emotional and having just been abandoned isn't helping you to think clearly and make good decisions.

    I'm serious. GO SEE A REAL COUNSELOR.
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    Awww sweetie, I'm sorry you are in so much pain at the moment. The other girls are right, such a life altering decision shouldn't be made in the midst of breakups and suicide attempts. You are NOT a loser for needing support, we all need that. I've been to threapy many times over the course of many years, and it isn't anything to be ashamed of. Please know that you are not alone and the world, along with SW, still needs your wonderful energy.

    *hugs*

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    Like Ginger said, post-suicide attempt, your mind is not in a rational place. When I get so dark and low that I seriously want to end my life, nothing makes sense...It's a total loss of perspective, but at the time it always seems like the truest experience (I really have issues with keeping utter hopeless despair at bay...sometimes it seems like the only reality I can make sense of).

    Surgery is no answer, and you know that in a way...Surgery can help in little ways for self-confidence, but the cliches are true about happiness. Real, lasting, 'okayness' is never the path of least resistance.

    Wellbutrin has not made me gain weight, and it makes me less inclined to take a drive over a bridge. If that helps. Feel better, miss marina. Take care of yourself, and try to surround yourself with very close friends or family. Don't be alone right now...do anything to distract yourself from the dark thoughts.

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    You know what's a great way to cut the costs of all these surgeries?
    Therapy.
    I'm not even kidding, or being mean, but if you're willing to spend $65000 on cosmetic surgery then it definitely sounds like body dismorphic disorder. I had that, my best friend's suffered with it for years and it's *terrible* and the only way of dealing with it is professional help. I know I know it sounds a little mean but I'd definitely say go for the help. Just try it. Even if you ARE totally sound in mind, a little couselling doesn't hurt! I think everyone would benefit from it anyway
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    Wow, I'm surprised they didn't admit you. I think you need to focus your energy and money on getting some help for yourself spritually/mentally. Maybe look into seeing a therapist. I am sure the problem is not your appearance but how you see yourself.

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