I was in a club last night and found myself facing a predicament I wasn't sure how to handle--if it's even any of my business.
A dancer who's always been very pleasant and respectful to me was giving a dance to a guy a few feet away. The man was very drunk and entitled, and continually grabbed and pinched her. She would redirect him, warning him to place his hands beneath him. He would, and then as soon as she would turn again he'd place his hands, fingers interlocked, over her head and pull her back to him by the neck or chest. She very patiently redirected him again, but he continued to grab and hold her. This wasn't the usual "cleverly wandering hands" issue, but a pretty coercive manner of seizing her and pulling her to wherever he wanted her.
I saw the manager give him a verbal warning and then leave, with no real consequences.
I found myself wondering:
Should I have subtly caught her attention and asked her if she needed help? I'm a very large, muscular guy who could easily help get rid of this character, or at least found the manager and informed him that the situation is more severe than he may have understood.
OR should I regard it as absolutely none of my business, and who the hell am I to think some dancer needs ME to come to the rescue?
I can't figure out whether a friendly intervention would be a welcome and appreciated thing, or whether she would see me as some jerk messing with her money who shouldn't stick my nose into her work.
I don't see dancers as helpless, and I don't see myself as some arrogant hero. But I also hate seeing girls treated so sleazily, and I wonder what the right thing to do would be.
Help?



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