Right now I'm working at a club where there is two way contact everywhere except crotch-region, except they can't touch anywhere with their faces (which is nice, because no icky tongue attempts). And we can't touch them with our faces. Also, we can't grind or get our booties anywhere on their lap...we can sit on their knee though, like to the side.
And for some reason, this seems really okay for me. I realize it was mostly the grinding and the awareness of boners that bothered me about lapdancing. I honestly, truly, could not give a fig about people grabbing my boobs (so long as it's not violently or painfully). It's like grabbing my elbow. I have no special feelings about my boobs, whereas I'm pretty strict about anywhere NEAR my crotch...like a good eight inches away on all sides, not the lower belly, not the inner thighs, not the lower bum, that kind of thing. But so long as there's no grinding, no mouth touching, and no nearly-crotch area touching, I am rather okay with it. It was kind of a eureka moment for me that I have finally discovered my personal boundaries. It's a bonus that the club has the same boundaries.
I just bring this up because I've noticed in many threads girls rejecting the idea of two-way contact. I'm just wondering your opinions. Does grinding annoy other people? Or lap sitting...I can't describe why it bothers me, or conversely why boob touching does not bother me...just the way it is.
So what are your limits? Have they changed since you started dancing? Thanks!



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) my arms, a back rub, foot rub, shoulder rub, etc. but only if they ask and I say it's ok and if I like them and they're respectful and/or if they're paying me well! Anyone who thinks they can touch me because they paid for the dance or the CR automatically gets nothing from me and nice airdance or me ending the dance right then and there! I know I couldn't work in a club that allowed/ encouraged touching, I wouldn't last! And grinding, definitely not for me, eeewww, feeling his boner just makes me sick. I could handle someone touching my legs & butt before I could feel a boner on me. I just don't like penises very much!
I'm not a lesbian either, the only penis I like to feel is someone I'm involved with and nobody else! I'm 31 and yet to have a one night stand!
Nobody believes me but it's true!

) and it has cost me money on big spenders.

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