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    So. When you PM me for details on my club, my region, etc., and I write back an honest, thought out, nice reply, oh and with every detail possible (even how much $$ I've made)


    ....Could you at LEAST say thanks?

    Especially when you say "I'm probably coming out there this weekend." It gives me a creepy sense that a random sw'er is in my club and watching me. Either be totally anonymous (like not PMing first) or out yrself! In fact it would be fly to know some ppl in my region.


    And this is not directed at just the person referenced above. It's happened many times, and there is also someone working at my old club probably largely due to the positive info I gave out.


    I refuse to believe I'm dealing with malicious money/power hungry ppl that are using me for info, at least not in day to day life here on SW.

    It's just rude.


    It really makes my day when ppl reply back with "thank you so much! I really appreciate it/am looking forward to working there/you made me feel better."

    I make up for my closed-mouthness @ work (keep to myself, never give info) by coming on here to be with fellow strippers who prob feel the same way, and I enjoy giving whatever info I have to good ppl.

    Please show some respect for that, info is way less than free as I'm sure you've figured out by now: it's pretty much precious and priceless. (Of course nothing beats trying something out to see for yourself first but still.


    (Also, someone PM'd about NY/NJ and I forget who bc I deleted it by mistake. Feel free to again, but I don't work there anymore.)

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    Well..Here's a huge for all those who forgot their manners. Tell me who they are so I can bend them over my knee for a nice paddling !
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    Quote Originally Posted by Farrah_Holiday View Post
    Well..Here's a huge for all those who forgot their manners. Tell me who they are so I can bend them over my knee for a nice paddling !
    If that's the punishment, I'm sure a lot of SWers will be willing to take the blame!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Alaska View Post
    So. When you PM me for details on my club, my region, etc., and I write back an honest, thought out, nice reply, oh and with every detail possible (even how much $$ I've made)


    ....Could you at LEAST say thanks?
    I've helped people out like that before and haven't gotten a thank you either. It really does leave a sour taste in my mouth. Another thing that bothers me is when I ASK for details on a club/region or whatever in a pm and the said member doesn't respond. That pisses me off too.

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    Quote Originally Posted by zxcire View Post
    If that's the punishment, I'm sure a lot of SWers will be willing to take the blame!
    Not if Farrah exhibits her superfly yoga skills on these average Joes! Ouch!! I mean, reallllly bend em. (In 95degree heat)

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    Quote Originally Posted by cinammonkisses View Post
    Another thing that bothers me is when I ASK for details on a club/region or whatever in a pm and the said member doesn't respond. That pisses me off too.
    Yeah, I've had that happen twice with some REALLY active members and it really turned me off to them.
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    ^Right, and it was the very active/respected members that really got me surprised too.

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    Werd. I helped this girl (not from SW) get into a rockin' club that she loves...gave her a reference, lots of info, &etc...and not a word of thanks. In fact, she's sort of snarky to me. Totally frustrating, and makes me not want to help others in the future. (But I will).

    Thanks to everyone who shares information and helps fellow dancers, even when it doesn't benefit you, possibly is detrimental to you, and you get no acknowledgement!

    (and sorry if I ever forgot to thank anyone for information I requested!!)

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    I always try and show my appreciation for the valuable insight you ladies share! This forum is special and I hope everyone continues to share their tips and tricks.

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    Quote Originally Posted by cinammonkisses View Post
    I've helped people out like that before and haven't gotten a thank you either. It really does leave a sour taste in my mouth. Another thing that bothers me is when I ASK for details on a club/region or whatever in a pm and the said member doesn't respond. That pisses me off too.
    I think it's time to start an SW etiquette sticky!

    p.s. and I know they've read it cause the plat. membership thingy tells me they have
    Oh the perks of being a baller.. I'm so lazy, I still haven't sent in any $$ for a plat. membership. I wish they'd get something I could do online..
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    Just as a thing. I might not send an additional "thank you" PM because... this is hard to explain, but I worry about being a pest? Like someone will be thinking "Look, I gave you your info, now get off my back, how much pming do you want to do, Jenny? Gawd." It sounds silly after reading this "say thank you bitch" thread, but that is sort of how I think. So it may not be that they are not feeling the gratitude.
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    Quote Originally Posted by scarlett_vancouver View Post
    Werd. I helped this girl (not from SW) get into a rockin' club that she loves...gave her a reference, lots of info, &etc...and not a word of thanks. In fact, she's sort of snarky to me. Totally frustrating, and makes me not want to help others in the future. (But I will).

    Thanks to everyone who shares information and helps fellow dancers, even when it doesn't benefit you, possibly is detrimental to you, and you get no acknowledgement!

    (and sorry if I ever forgot to thank anyone for information I requested!!)
    I think what happens is people either start to feel like they owe you something and that makes them uneasy. Or they feel resentful to you for helping them. Both have happened to me in the past..Don't get me wrong, I'm not 100% naive ( at least not most of the time), there are those who are just plain users too !
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    Quote Originally Posted by Jenny View Post
    Just as a thing. I might not send an additional "thank you" PM because... this is hard to explain, but I worry about being a pest? Like someone will be thinking "Look, I gave you your info, now get off my back, how much pming do you want to do, Jenny? Gawd." It sounds silly after reading this "say thank you bitch" thread, but that is sort of how I think. So it may not be that they are not feeling the gratitude.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Jenny View Post
    Just as a thing. I might not send an additional "thank you" PM because... this is hard to explain, but I worry about being a pest? Like someone will be thinking "Look, I gave you your info, now get off my back, how much pming do you want to do, Jenny? Gawd." It sounds silly after reading this "say thank you bitch" thread, but that is sort of how I think. So it may not be that they are not feeling the gratitude.
    Hmm, I never thought of it that way..Thanks for your input. Every one does have there own way of looking at life. On the flip side sometimes ,I think I say thank you too much, not here but in RL.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Jenny View Post
    Just as a thing. I might not send an additional "thank you" PM because... this is hard to explain, but I worry about being a pest? Like someone will be thinking "Look, I gave you your info, now get off my back, how much pming do you want to do, Jenny? Gawd." It sounds silly after reading this "say thank you bitch" thread, but that is sort of how I think. So it may not be that they are not feeling the gratitude.
    I've thought about that too. But these instances just seemed fresh, based on the info they were asking (ALL specific) and the posters they were.

    There are ways to wrap up an e-mail with a *hint-hint----it's not necessary to write me back.* while still being polite and showing respect.

    I'm talkin like...I gave GOOD info. Lots of it. Always do and would like to continue, for the right ppl and if it's not coming back to bite me in the ass.

    And please, let it be known....I have never told a sould about sw ('cept BF of course....this IS my social life. ) and the info I say depends on if yr a n00b out of nowhere or a legit poster....I keep it bt us sw girls. I really don't think that could bite me in the ass too bad. It's not like I'm posting it in public or something.

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    Quote Originally Posted by zxcire View Post
    If that's the punishment, I'm sure a lot of SWers will be willing to take the blame!
    Quote Originally Posted by Alaska View Post
    Not if Farrah exhibits her superfly yoga skills on these average Joes! Ouch!! I mean, reallllly bend em. (In 95degree heat)
    I'm ready to help those in need of swift discipline..
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    Quote Originally Posted by Farrah_Holiday View Post
    Hmm, I never thought of it that way..Thanks for your input. Every one does have there own way of looking at life. On the flip side sometimes ,I think I say thank you too much, not here but in RL.
    That's better than not saying it enough, if at all!!

    I wish more people thought like you.

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    I mean, what Jenny said is funny and true, and I feel you on fearing becoming a PM pest, but we really don't need to think so hard on "Thanks. I got your msg." That's all you need to say. ESPECIALLY if you say you are coming to my club.


    Like, the PM's aren't going like:

    Them: So howz it like at yr club?

    Me: Good.


    My replies are heartfelt and thoughtout! And WOULD bite me in the ass if everyone saw! Come on ppl!

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    Yep! Some people on here have no fucking manners and are ungrateful as FUCK!

    If I ever get my hands on any of them one day...





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    Quote Originally Posted by Glamazon View Post
    That's better than not saying it enough, if at all!!

    I wish more people thought like you.
    It has to be genetic, I swear..My nieces and nephew are so freaking polite.
    I've always been and it got even worse when I lived in Houston where 90% of the people are so sweet and kind..Moving back to CA was a bit of a shock, it's rare I meet nice people in my area, I have to venture out to Santa Cruz, S.F, Berkeley and Oakland for any remnants of kindness.

    Thank you though, I'll keep your post in mind during those times I think I'm being way too nice.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Alaska View Post
    It really makes my day when ppl reply back with "thank you so much! I really appreciate it/am looking forward to working there/you made me feel better."
    I just realized this could be interpreted as "kiss my ass bc I'm so awesome." No. Please don't. Just don't make me feel like a fool, or bitter. I love my ladies on here and let's keep it that way.

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    I agree that a lack of acknowledgment of pm's is annoying and rude. In my mind it conveys the message of, "I don't care to hear what you have to say."


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    Quote Originally Posted by cinammonkisses View Post
    I've helped people out like that before and haven't gotten a thank you either. It really does leave a sour taste in my mouth. Another thing that bothers me is when I ASK for details on a club/region or whatever in a pm and the said member doesn't respond. That pisses me off too.

    p.s. and I know they've read it cause the plat. membership thingy tells me they have
    Ditto. Minus the platinum membership thingy.



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    ^^^ Its not always rude, sometimes its just very hard to keep up with pms. I am totally shit with that sort of thing.

    But, if you have pm'd someone and they respond with information, of course you should say thank you!

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    ^yeah, especially when you respond with a novella of requested information!


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