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    (BIT OF A RANT!)
    I walk around the club, it happens to be a sucky night full of cheapstakes. Girls are not getting dances and the guys are just sitting w/ their arms crossed staring into space???

    I get rejected way too many times in a row, I get pissed, I lose my patience and I wanna go home. I can't make money when I'm mad.

    What do you ladies do in this situation? Be positive? Easier said than done. Maybe I should just accept it's a bad nite and just sit and chat with one of these miserable losers, and hope one of them gives me a dance.

    I know I have anger issues at times, lol. I get bitter. It's hard to be positive when the club is fairly populated and most of the guys are broke.
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    What helps me most is to always bring a book, a magazine, or my homework, so that if it's crappy, I have something enjoyable to do. When you know there's no money on the floor, it's much better to be enjoying yourself in the dressing room, being productive and keeping your energy and mood up, than to be getting angrier and angrier on the floor. Just take a break every 20 minutes from whatever entertaining thing you've brought with you and go check on the floor. That's my philosophy

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    It can be hard sometimes, but then you look at the guys that "reject" you and think "if I ever saw them walking down the street I wouldn't look twice at them and I wouldn't even be talking to them if this weren't my job". That always helps me not take it personally. Unfortunatly there are a lot of losers that just come into strip clubs to "have a beer *cough*seeboobsforfree*cough" so it happens sometimes. You also have to realize you can't be everyones type. I've approached a guy, gotten turned down and 2 minutes later hes going out back with a curvy bleach blond, which is not what I look like at all, but was probebly what he was looking for.
    Whenever it gets so bad that I want to leave, I'll go out for a smoke, come back in and tell myself "I'll make one round to see if I can get a dance, if not I'll leave", usually, hitting up everyone I end up staying.


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    Ahhh bluelight I used to have your same problem! I would get frustrated, annoyed and it would show through when I approached people. I swear they can tell you are desperate....and won't get a dance. Which will just make you more frustrated....

    Try going up to the dressing room for 15 minutes, maybe get something to eat. Or have a drink at the bar alone, or just drink a red bull. For some reason Red bull makes me nice again, lol.

    I wouldn't recommend sitting with those guys if they are not spending....I try never to have a conversation with someone who is not spending, or has not spent already. It will only frustrate you to know you spent any amount of time on someone who won't compensate you.

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    Get a glass of wine and go chill in the dressing room for awhile. Read a book, play Tetris, chat with a friend, whatever. I don't condone getting wasted at work but on nights like this I do need one drink just to keep from hitting people.

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    I totally know how you feel... and I just hate that feeling!

    To be honest, nothing really would help me out of the funk unless I met some guy who tipped me well. That usually sets me straight.

    I try in the beginning of the night to get a good tipper/customer, because that chunk of $ is like a drug, and it puts me in a good mood.

    Once I am in a bad mood... well... to the bar, I go!
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    This used to happen to me more, now I take my crappy nights more in stride. Remind yourself that you average night is [x], so if you have a bad night tonight you are bound to have a great night this week to make up for it.

    I stay optimistic about making my nightly goal. It's happened plenty of times that I have crap money up until the last hour or two of the night, them somebody finally decides they want a whole bunch of dances and I go home happy. So I stay hopeful til the very end of the night...and if by the end of the night I haven't made the money I wanted, well now I get to go home and relax. There's always the next night.

    (And save your money. It's a whole lot easier to stay positive if you don't NEED to make $800 on a Monday night to pay rent. When you have a cushion to fall back on, you don't get desperate. And customers can eerily sense your desperation, I swear.)

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    Quote Originally Posted by xoxoGracexoxo View Post
    And customers can eerily sense your desperation, I swear.)
    Absolutely.

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    You don't sound like a very fun person to be around and throw money at. Perhaps that's comming out in your hustle? I'm also not buying "most of the guys are broke" either.

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    I agree that men can smell your desparation. If they notice others aren't spending they won't sense the urgency either.

    I agree with bringing a book, magazine, or homework to do. At least you can be doing something productive.







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    Quote Originally Posted by PokerLover View Post
    I'm also not buying "most of the guys are broke" either.
    Hahahahah..hah..hah... Man... Sounds like you haven't been to my club on a Friday night. Or to the majority of the clubs in the states nowadays. Trust me, the guys ARE broke. When the top earner goes home with less than $300 (like last night), then the guys are broke.

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    Quote Originally Posted by lolagetz View Post
    Sounds like you haven't been to my club
    Fair enough.

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    Just try to keep yourself busy. If you go to school, bring in some homework to work on, eat something, play a game on your phone while taking a little break, touch up your makeup...
    Don't let these guys see you desperate and alone out on the floor, talk to a bartender or something.

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    this used to happen to me ALOT. if i had'nt made my goal amount, or much money in the first 3 hours i'd be grumpy, feel discouraged, etc. and then i swear, just like everyone else is saying, i think the customers can sense that.

    i try to think more in broad terms now- think about what i'm earning for the week, rather than the night. also, just try to stay relaxed and give off a fun vibe.

    i used to go up to the dressing room to take a break too- and if it's REALLY bad, i'll still do that. BUT i have recently just been really pushing myself to suck it up and stay positive. i'll go to the bathroom, take some deep breaths and gather myself, or chill for a min, but push back out there. every time i feel myself wanting to sit in the dressing room and bitch i just force myself to go back out there and keep trying. it's been working too.

    the more i try to stay positive in my head, the more focused i am and the more i seem to make. plus these guys come in to see strippers- someone has got to get dances with you. remember, it only takes 1 customer to make your night sometimes.

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    Quote Originally Posted by PokerLover View Post
    You don't sound like a very fun person to be around and throw money at. Perhaps that's comming out in your hustle? I'm also not buying "most of the guys are broke" either.
    Everyone has bad days at work, it doesn't make her a poor entertainer. You can't judge someone by one day at work.

    Broke and cheap are two different things. Some of the richest guys I know are notoriously cheap.

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    I used to let any crappy thing ruin my night - and my money. I spent a lot of time in the dressing room. At some point, I decided if I had to be there it wasn't much better sitting in the dressing room where I had NO chance of earning. At least if you stay around the customers, you have a chance. Everyone knows that one person can change your night - but not if you're in the dressing room.

    So instead I'd let someone buy me a drink. Someone who had spent money on me before, or someone who usually gives a buck on stage... regulars with whom you build a rapport when no one else is giving you money. Often they tip a few extra dollars each time you are on stage. A couple extra dollars a couple times a night a couple nights a week from a couple of regulars ads up. Then when they do want a dance they remember the time they had fun over drinks with you - and they spend that money with you instead of the random who walks by right then.

    And if everyone at the club is having a bad night and several of the girls are sitting in the dressing room, you get the first chance to hit up customers when they come in. You have to be on the floor to see someone who dropped good money last week - by the time you get out of the dressing room your the __th girl to offer him a dance and he's probably already taken.

    There's only one way to improve your night, but you can't do it in the dressing room. Hanging out there won't help. But giving yourself the best odds by being on the floor will.
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    Quote Originally Posted by lolagetz View Post
    What helps me most is to always bring a book, a magazine, or my homework, so that if it's crappy, I have something enjoyable to do. When you know there's no money on the floor, it's much better to be enjoying yourself in the dressing room, being productive and keeping your energy and mood up, than to be getting angrier and angrier on the floor. Just take a break every 20 minutes from whatever entertaining thing you've brought with you and go check on the floor. That's my philosophy
    Amen! On my better nights I tend to go back and take a small break between every one or two rejections to chit chat with my boyfriend, have some carrot sticks, play with my hair, whatever. Just 5 or10 minutes and I prevent the customers from seeing me being rejected a bunch of times plus I can maintain my sanity this way. I call it "pressing my reset button".

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    Quote Originally Posted by cutey503 View Post
    I wouldn't recommend sitting with those guys if they are not spending....I try never to have a conversation with someone who is not spending, or has not spent already. It will only frustrate you to know you spent any amount of time on someone who won't compensate you.
    This is where my thought process differs. Happened to me last time I worked. At the end of the night 3 different guys came up to me saying they wanted a dance but I looked to busy all night!

    I was making sh*t. I was in a bad mood so I found a group of fun guys and sat with them for a couple hours - had some drinks... after a bit did some dances and got into a great mood.

    It helped me *look* busy and productive and like I was having a great time (which i was after a while) so other guys wanted me!

    Men always want what they *think* they cant have. Even if guy youre sitting with isnt spending money if you are smiling and having great conversation and look busy sometimes it makes OTHER guys want you.

    But I do recommend this only if NO ONE is spending and youre getting upset. I dont recommend just sitting and chatting when theres money in the room.

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    Quote Originally Posted by AudreyLeigh View Post
    I was making sh*t. I was in a bad mood so I found a group of fun guys and sat with them for a couple hours - had some drinks... after a bit did some dances and got into a great mood.

    It helped me *look* busy and productive and like I was having a great time (which i was after a while) so other guys wanted me!
    I do this too. If I've had a bunch of assholes in a row turn me down I'll sit with anyone friendly looking. If he says something like, "I don't wanna waste your time..." I'll say that I just need a break, you look friendly, mind if I sit & chat & have a cigarette? The friendly guy gets me back into a good mood (instead of getting into an even more negative mindset by hearing other girls complain in the DR about how dead it is). There's no pressure for him to buy so he shouldn't be upset if I run off quickly when someone who looks like money walks in. And a lot of times they'll fall in love with me after more talking & spend money they originally said they wouldn't.

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    If I don't start the night out good right away (get at least a dance or two from the first trickle customers) it can definitely kill my hustle-mood for the night. I've just started to compete with a girl I don't like and that sure as hell motivates me to keep going and going and going like you wouldn't believe.

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    ^^ I made good money when my friend and I would get bored and compete for dances. Wed watch eachother and tally the others money to keep us motivated to be the top earner

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    I have found myself on this boat when the money has been kafucko for awhile(like the week or month) and the customers are cheap or rude AND i have pms. Holey christ. I want to kill myself when it's like that. But instead I get frustrated and become no fun.
    What I usually try to do is have a glass of wine or 2 at the most during the shift, bring a book to read and try to see things in a funny light. Humor makes everything ok.
    But don't beat yourself up. It gets like that sometimes.

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    One thing that can help on nights like this is to really camp it up. It's a way of both entertaining yourself and burning off your energy through sarcasm, but in a fun way. Overly exaggerating your strut, smiling like you're insane, responding to stoney faced "no's" with "WOW, that's WONDERFUL!". I've turned many a bad night around by being campy and zany when I'm really just channeling being pissed. It can be a lot more fun and effective than just trying to stay positive. Often enough guys respond to this over the top behavior, though I don't know why.

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    Sounds like you work in my club

    Cheap and dirty are best words to describe where I work. $10 dances and no one ever, and I mean EVER tips.

    Worst of all, my club has a "no hanging out in the dressing room" policy.



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    wow ladies this is great advice!!! I am really working on my positivity. I usually do fine, but at times it is easy for me to go into a negative downward spiral.

    Thanks again ladies!!! (i LuV this site! )

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