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    So I go into work and up on the dressing room mirror is a picture of a fellow stripper and a long "letter". A letter I assume written by her friend. She attempted suicide.. her along with her boyfriend.. he died.. she's a vegetable in ICU on life support. Sad sad sad, yes I know, it is sad, and I am sincerely sad for their families. But whats irritating is this note says that the girls suicide note mentioned girls at work being mean to her and how she just wanted a friend. Also it says that she was 10 times more the woman than any of us could ever hope to be. blah blah blah- it's everybody else's fault she offed herself. And my club is so LOW drama.. I mean you have to go out of your way to create drama for anyone to be "mean" to you, seriously.
    So yeah.. I'm sorry the girl had mental and drug problems that drove her to suicide. But it's not anyone's fault.

    Just wanted to share.

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    That's sad...her and her boyfriend did it together?! What kind of boyfriend did she have??? Maybe it was his ass that drove her to do it.

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    just because you feel it isn't, maybe she felt out of place. maybe she felt the majority of the girls were being mean to her, just because you didn't see anything doesn't mean that it didn't happen. i'm sure in my club, somewhere among the girls is one who feels like everyone hates her. i've felt that way before at my old club.

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    Well, of course it's probably no one's fault at work. What a horrible shame. Poor thing.

    I mean, it's embarrassing in retrospect, but I've thought about offing myself over a B+ on a paper. Seriously. Once those crazy thoughts are in you, anything can seem like a reason. People can literally be on edge, but that doesn't make it the world's responsibilty to walk eggshells around them. I do think we have some social responsibilty to not be cruel, but I also realize I can't expect to live my life free from cruelty...anyways. I'm saying it's no one's fault, it's just a sad shame. Suicide pacts are the worst.

    But she didn't write the letter herself...I think you have to consider the source. Her friend is devastated, and is probably feeling some sense of guilt over her friend's unhappiness. She's just looking for a reason for a horrifying, seemingly irrational action. I don't think you can expect her to think clearly right now.

    Very sad. I hope she wakes up.

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    Like mollyz said, people can have strange reasons and it's probably a combination of several. She probably did feel out of place at work but everywhere else too. And her friend is probably needing someone to blame.

    I hope she doesn't end up braindead. That's really sad.
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    My condolensces to the tragedy, maybe the dancers at your club drove her to off her self maybe they did not...you don't know until you're in the other person's shoes

    No matter how Low Drama a club may seem to be there's always more underneath the surface, it's just sad that someone had to end their life that way.

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    Not saying it isn't sad.. it's EXTREMELY sad.. I can't even imagine what her mother is going through right now.. I would die if that happened to one of my children.. very sad. Maybe if she was surrounded by level-headed people.. not a boyfriend who agrees they should shoot eachother up with a deadly combination of drugs for whatever reason.
    It's sad. But damn.

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    It's sad for everyone else, but why blame people? She made a decision for herself, to work at that club, be around these "mean" girls, take drugs and have a boyfriend who was obviously not the stablest either...

    I personally dont think it is a great tragedy for people to kill themselves, i think it is a choice we should have if we are miserable and people should accept that. But of course if it were someone I loved I would feel differently I'm sure
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    Well when you are depressed and suicidal already, it doesn't take much for you to think that other people are mean and hate you. Her friend is probably extremely sad and lashing out at other people to deal with her grief. I would be very sad if one of my friends was going to be a vegetable forever.

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    a girl at my old club hung herself some years back too, the night after some guys pointed at her on stage and taunted her aneroxic body with 'cellulite' jests. it may have been the thing that pushed her over the edge she was so close to,but they cant be blamed, she had a drug problem, a mental problem, and she too had *just* lost her boyfriend thru suicide.

    its all unfortunate, but whats sadder is people blaming other people in suicides. a person chose to take their own life, for what ever reasons THEY thought it was the only way out. im sure if they had asked for alternative help it woud have come.

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    Yeah, I can understand why you might feel a little defensive. I mean, being blamed for someone's death is serious. It is, though, a friend of the stripper who probably didn't know anyone at the club well and just wants to lash out at people. Very tragic though.

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    it had to be a mutual thing between her and her bf, and nothin to do with so called mean girls at work. that was just an excuse. they both must of been high or something. sad.

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    Haven't read the thread yet but as someone who's attempted suicide a few times and dealt with depression, I'd be really ticked if I died or vegged out and everyone chalked it up to something as petty as girls being mean to me at work. Depression is much more than that.

    This is her problem; not you guys at your job. Do not feel guilt.

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    Yes, and I do feel bad for the rather cavalier opening post to this thread.. after re-reading it, it does come out wrong. I don't mean to say "ah she offed herself cause girls are mean, well it aint my f'n fault"... I guess it just disturbs me the suicide rate.. and what ppl commit suicide over. I too have had extremely low lows.. and have felt the world would be better off without me.. but then there's the part of my brain that says "that's just stupid". But with bad influences and no part of your brain to say "hey, people DO love you", it is sad.

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    ... just reinforces the 'Stripper Stereotype' ...

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    Shit like that pisses me off. It definitely WAS NOT the fault of anyone at work. Trying to place the blame on someone else is just this friend's way of dealing with it....you know, 'cuz there's no way this girl was messed up enough to just do it on her own. You've gotta point the finger at someone else.
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    Very, very sad. I hope that she's not a vegetable for life and that her soul eventually finds peace.

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    Can I ask which club this was? PM me if you don't want to say on here.

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    Obviously she had mental problems, her and her old man. Tragedy.

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    That's very sad. I think finger-pointing after a suicide is pretty pointless, though. She's an adult and what she did was her choice. Searching for someone to blame isn't going to benefit anyone. But you seem to know this already. I really wish her peace.

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    true, finger pointing is not the answer however i find most of your comments to be ignorant. you are looking at this girl as sum sort of mental nutcase whos whacked out on drugs but it could not even be that way, she probably used the drugs to deal with the pain anyway. to me she sounds like a lost soul who just wanted to be loved and accepted and Nina not everyone out there is fortunate to have someone who truly LOVES them
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    So there's an update! She's woken up!!! There is permanent damage to her body (I dont know specifics) but she has talked.. gets very tired easily, and frustrated.
    Poor girl.. but there is hope! I've been praying everyday!

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    Oh, wow. I hope she recovers fully or at least enough that she can live a normal life. What a horrible situation, all around.

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    She woke up?! Oh, poor thing. Her boyfriend's dead--all she wanted to do was die with him and be in peace. Why is it hopeful that she has woken up and will now suffer permanent damage?

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    Quote Originally Posted by ShellyBElly View Post
    true, finger pointing is not the answer however i find most of your comments to be ignorant. you are looking at this girl as sum sort of mental nutcase whos whacked out on drugs but it could not even be that way, she probably used the drugs to deal with the pain anyway.
    Sure, because sane people commit suicide everyday. A mentally stable person would realize that there is a solution to her problem and take steps to deal with it.

    In regards to the girl, I hope that she gets the help she truly needs.

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