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Help! I need help with my dating life!!! I am doing something wrong and I can't figure out what it is!
I am dating a guy I really like and I think he likes me. (He actually cried the other day when we were talking about the possibility of a future together. He tried not to let me see but he had tears on his face and I kept wiping them off. He downloads love songs on my computer and tells me personal things like his middle name. I got the impression he thinks I could be "the one.")
The problem is he does NOT call me or e-mail me unless I do it first. Sometimes I send him a little e-mail or text just asking how his day is going. He writes back but I think he's trying to "be strong" and not show that he cares. This makes me feel sad because I need him to show that he cares.When he doesn't even call to check up on me for a couple days it makes me worry that our relationship is doomed- like he DOESN'T care and it makes me not want to get out of bed in the morning.
I don't know, maybe I am completely delusional and he really ISN'T in to me. But this happened with another guy I dated a year ago. After I broke up with Mr. Too-good-to-call-me he tried to win me back for months, but it was too late. I had seen that he wasn't emotionally available when we were a couple so I moved on.
All I want is for him to make the first move once in a while. I don't understand- why am I getting the cold shoulder?



When he doesn't even call to check up on me for a couple days it makes me worry that our relationship is doomed- like he DOESN'T care and it makes me not want to get out of bed in the morning.
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Maybe your guy just has alot going on? Or like Toki said, maybe the issue is with him--you'd be surprised how many guys are afraid of rejection and just don't inititate contact because of that. From what you said, it sounds like he likes you.


You should make it a point of seeing/talking to him no more than 3 times per week until feelings develop. Even then, give yourself time away from each other so you don't smother him. Absence makes the heart grow fonder.

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