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    Default Once a cheater, always a cheater or not?

    Well we've all heard that saying, but how much of it is true? Do you believe that once someone cheats, they'll always be a cheater or are there some people out there that make one mistake that they are sorry for and never cheat again because its not in their blood?
    What do you think? Can you trust someone who already cheated on you once before?
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    It really depends on the circumstances. One time may have just been a drunken mistake or something...I wouldn't generalize, but base it on a case by case.
    It also depends on how the cheater treats the situation.
    Did he lie? come clean? promise to make amends but never really try to?
    Or did he promise to change and totally kissed you ass ever since, treading very carefully and feelign shameful and guilty for his mistake?

    I've told my boyfriend: If you ever cheat on me, you better tell me immediatly. If I catch you lying to me, that is what will end this relationship, not the actual cheat itself.

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    Default Re: Once a cheater, always a cheater or not?

    I've made the mistake of cheating once on my girlfriend when I was young and stupid (now I'm just older and stupid)... That was also the first time I had sex. I never even thought that I would have ever cheated. IMHO, I think that it depends on the person. Some guys are dogs and don't care, and some guys just make stupid mistakes...

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    I think people can change and grow up, but with time. I think it's safe to say that if he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you.

    And there is no reason to forgive someone who cheats on you. How can someone love you and intentionally do something to hurt you? You can't find someone else that won't?

    I would dump someone immediately for cheating on me. How could I trust that person again?

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    Default Re: Once a cheater, always a cheater or not?

    Totally circumstantial.

    If someone doesn't make any personal changes, yes,they'll probably cheat again. But if someone does self-reflection and grows because they know they know better, then i don't feel they'll necessarily cheat again.

    I've been in dumb relationships and I've cheated. I wasn't in the relationships for the right reasons. So, I cheated. When I'm with someone that I love and respect i know I won't cheat.

    A lot of people jump into relationships for bad reasons and just for the heck of it. Someone's going to get hurt.

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    I believe once a cheater always a cheater. can some people change? I dont know, probably. but its rare.

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    Totally^^^^ (Ahmeerah)Am I gonna stay around to see if they'll change though?.....unlikely.
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    Default Re: Once a cheater, always a cheater or not?

    I could never be with someone who cheated on me.

    I mean really, that's the worst pain a person can inflict on someone.

    Beside sthe initial hurt and betrayal and anger...there is the feelings of complete and utter inferiority...like somehow you did something wrong, that if you were prettier/smarter/whatever, he wouldn't have cheated.

    I think it' sthe single action that can completely break someone's self esteem.

    I just couldn't be with someone who could forget me, or inflict that kind of hurt on me. It isn't worth it; there is always someone else who would treat me better.

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    One chance. Cheat on me and it's over. I would never dream of cheating on a person i agree to be exclusive with.

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    Default Re: Once a cheater, always a cheater or not?

    what about the ones that claim they love their partner,yet they've cheated at least once on them? or the ones that claim they love their partner, but yet they have someone on the side whom they claim they are only fooling around with, nothing serious?
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    Default Re: Once a cheater, always a cheater or not?

    ^are you serious?

    Almost all cheaters claim to love their partner...and they're full of shit. If they're willing to cheat on you, and more importantly, continue to do so, they don't love you.

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    ^ i believe so... though there are some women out ther that put up with that.
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    Default Re: Once a cheater, always a cheater or not?

    And those women are either delusional, or have low self-esteem enough to believe they cant do better.

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    Quote Originally Posted by miss marina View Post
    I believe once a cheater always a cheater. can some people change? I dont know, probably. but its rare.
    In my opinion, people don't really change (unless something traumatic happens in their life to make them take a completely different outlook). That being said, since we are all human, we all make mistakes... Some people are going to cheat and continue to do so no matter what, some are never going to cheat and never know how it feels to have the fear that their mistake could make them lose the best thing they may ever know in their life, and some make that mistake and it will be the last time they ever do...

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    What is that saying...
    Screw me once, shame on you.
    Screw me twice, shame on me.

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    Default Re: Once a cheater, always a cheater or not?

    Quote Originally Posted by LadySoft View Post
    what about the ones that claim they love their partner,yet they've cheated at least once on them?
    Love is a verb!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Emily View Post
    I would dump someone immediately for cheating on me. How could I trust that person again?
    My thoughts exactly. No matter how much I loved someone, no matter how much they begged and pleaded and apologized, if they cheated on me in any way, shape, or form, I'd leave. No arguments, no drama, I'd just leave and never speak to them again.

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    I admit to cheating. I only did it once, and I will never do it again. When I was with that emotionally manipulative, mentally abusive asshole H (those who were around in 2005 will remember), my now husband R was my friend that I got very close to and he helped me realize how bad H was treating me, so I cheated on H with R, and R and I got together, and then eventually married.

    Not my finest hour, and I hate how I left, but I think back to how emotionally hurt I was at what H did to me, and I think I almost saw it as H deserved it. I now know that no one deserves it, but that guy has fucked me in some ways it will take years to recover from.

    So that was my first and last time.

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    Default Re: Once a cheater, always a cheater or not?

    Frankly I lean toward always a cheater - but sometimes a cheating situation (and the busting of it) can make things much more clear than they were before.
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    Default Re: Once a cheater, always a cheater or not?

    I think pretty much everyone cheats.

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    Default Re: Once a cheater, always a cheater or not?

    Quote Originally Posted by Emily View Post
    Love is a verb!
    or a noun?

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    Quote Originally Posted by lizlizliz View Post
    I think pretty much everyone cheats.
    Then I feel sorry for you, and seeing only the bad. Not everyone cheats.
    Real love...would never cheat. No desire. I haven't had the desire to even look at another man in years...I could never imagine cheating. I have no interest.
    Plus..I could never in a million years cause someone I love pain.

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    Default Re: Once a cheater, always a cheater or not?

    Oh blah blah, I knew I'd get that response. But seriously. If you were trapped on an island with a slammingly sexy dude for months on end and no one would ever find out, i bet you'd do him. and vice versa for your sig. other.

    the scenario doesn't even have to be that outlandish. if it was guaranteed thatf no one would ever find out, who wouldn't?


    /flame away, lame asses

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    Quote Originally Posted by lizlizliz View Post
    the scenario doesn't even have to be that outlandish. if it was guaranteed thatf no one would ever find out, who wouldn't?
    I wouldn't. I couldn't deal with that being on my conscience and would come clean.

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    not worth it

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