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    Survey: Does being good in bed disqualify a woman as wifey material?

    This is inspired by the "Men Can Be So Hyprocritical" thread. http://www.stripperweb.com/forum/sho...d.php?t=101354

    So, I have had this conversation with quite a few guys, and a lot of them hold their girlfriends/wives to one standard, but the woman who was their most excellent lover to another. If a woman is especially sexually open, really (or should I say suspiciously?) good in bed, then she's good for a good time, but not for a wedding ring. The wife doesn't suck dick/balls, do any tricks in bed. No, she's just a good little wife that raises your kids while you screw Jezebel behind her back. Quite a few guys I know have conveyed this to me in one conversation or another.

    To be fair, a lot of these guys were in their mid to late 20s (some early 30s sprinkled in). Older men that I have asked say otherwise. They are not intimidated by a woman that is good in bed. As a matter of fact, the older divorced guy I dated said he was totally wrong to marry a "wholesome" woman. He was miserable and depressed because his wife was a "good girl" who would ONLY do missionary. He said if he ever married again, he would definitely marry a woman who could stimulate him sexually and intellectually.

    So guys, I need your input on this, as I'm terribly curious. Also, if you don't mind (this is totally optional, as I don't wanna deter anyone from answering), give your age range.
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    Personally I'd rather have someone who is sexually confident as a wife than a 'star fish' .

    Speculating tho....

    There's a common theory that men hit sexual peak at 18ish and women at 33ish. It could be that men have done all the hard core sex they want and are looking to 'settle' down and work hard and provide for the family.

    Also us guys are simple. Changing 'roles' from horn dog in the bedroom to hard working family man can be a stretch for some where women can adapt faster.

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    I think theres something in that but maybe it also reflects on type of women generally? Maybe girls that are wilder in bed possibly like to experiment with more people or they get bored with the same old same old guy so move on etc, maybe theyre harder to tie down anyway... I personally think that someone who sleeps around a lot is going to know a lot more tricks and techniques than someone who doesnt - and have the confidence to try them.
    Maybe the tamer girls in bed may be tamer people in general, maybe theyre tame because they dont have experience with many lovers and possibly theyre more inclined to look for a long term relationship in the first place?

    Maybe some of its perception anyway - the grass always being greener.
    Lots of maybes, lol.

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    My guess is that men who claim to be "religious" are the ones who want the wholesome wife.

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    Quote Originally Posted by ahmeerah View Post
    My guess is that men who claim to be "religious" are the ones who want the wholesome wife.
    My ex was a "bad boy"and he was shocked by my open sexuality..There were things I wanted to do that shocked him..Even my dancing was an issue in our relationship. He wanted me to be "wifey" and go out and fuck hoes..It's weird because my sexuality and ambition is what originally drew him to me. It's wierd how it later became the parts of me he wanted to change.

    I think it's because some guys want to keep women in a box,like a special gift only for them. An openly sexual woman is looked at as promiscous. My ex would get upset when his friends would talk to me or I call people baby, babe, hon,whatever..That's just how I talk to people I like.

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    I have ZERO patience with this mentality. It actually pisses me off. I wouldn't have another word to say to a man who even suggested he had considered this mindset.

    So very very glad I have K. I'm the lady he can take home to his mama, and the trashy whore he can bend over the couch, and if I need some dick while he's out of town he doesn't judge me or mind one bit. It honestly never occurred to him in his entire life that there was anything wrong with a woman having sexual urges. I wish there were more men like him.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Farrah_Holiday View Post
    My ex was a "bad boy"and he was shocked by my open sexuality..There were things I wanted to do that shocked him..Even my dancing was an issue in our relationship. He wanted me to be "wifey" and go out and fuck hoes..It's weird because my sexuality and ambition is what originally drew him to me. It's wierd how it later became the parts of me he wanted to change.

    I think it's because some guys want to keep women in a box,like a special gift only for them. An openly sexual woman is looked at as promiscous. My ex would get upset when his friends would talk to me or I call people baby, babe, hon,whatever..That's just how I talk to people I like.

    Life is weird sometimes..
    I went through the same with with an ex. He was a "bad boy" but so-called Christian at the same time. People are weird.

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    Quote Originally Posted by ahmeerah View Post
    I went through the same with with an ex. He was a "bad boy" but so-called Christian at the same time. People are weird.
    I know ! Some where there is someone with a good head on their shoulders, I just am not able to find him/her..It's like looking for quality people is like looking for a needle in a haystack, literally.
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    It's easy actually.

    I meet amazing women every week.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Sh0t View Post
    It's easy actually.

    I meet amazing women every week.
    I meet amazing people, or at least they seem amazing, then they turn into controlling nuts..Now, I'm not being as nice and freindly, I'm straight to the point and blunt. I find I'm meeting people, less dramatic this week and they know I'm not going to put up with bullshit.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Yekhefah View Post
    I have ZERO patience with this mentality. It actually pisses me off. I wouldn't have another word to say to a man who even suggested he had considered this mindset.

    So very very glad I have K. I'm the lady he can take home to his mama, and the trashy whore he can bend over the couch, and if I need some dick while he's out of town he doesn't judge me or mind one bit. It honestly never occurred to him in his entire life that there was anything wrong with a woman having sexual urges. I wish there were more men like him.
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    Well, personally I think it's not so much about whether or not a woman is good in bed that is behind the Madonna/whore complex, but the fear that people with very healthy sexual appetites are more likely to cheat to feed their appetite which is behind all of the rest of it that leaves a partner questioning if another is good long term mate material. Life can get messy really fast if our partner has children with another man/woman; plus many people invariably feel that if their partner cheats, that it's a reflection on them and their own capabilities to please and be a good sex partner.

    Like I said in another post though, women often have their own Madonna/whore complex where you see women who want to sleep with the bad boy, but they end up choosing the nice/safe guy for husband/father material. Same concepts at play.

    And birth control, and DNA testing in our modern society have radically affected sex. What use to be fairly high risk for disease and pregnancy can now be done with virtually no risk. It certainly makes recreational sex with multiple partners a lot less risky.

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    Being good in bed is a prerequisite not a disqualification.

    Say no to madonna/whore complexes.

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    42 year old guy here and I love a woman that knows what she wants in bed. I don't get hung up on her past. After all, I am not a virgin either. The only thing that matters is that she is with me at this time.

    I also prefer a woman that is open with her sexuality as I like her to talk to me about her sexual likes and dislikes. This helps early in the sexual relationship.

    Sex is not the only thing that matters, but these traits in a woman would gain "marriage points" in my eyes.

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    Quote Originally Posted by xdamage View Post
    Like I said in another post though, women often have their own Madonna/whore complex where you see women who want to sleep with the bad boy, but they end up choosing the nice/safe guy for husband/father material. Same concepts at play.
    I can totally see your point.
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    Does being good in bed disqualify a woman as wifey material?

    OH HELL NO !

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    I believe the disqualifier is being good "in someone elses bed"....I've been in open relationships and more traditional ones....they each have their merits. It's not so much "other men" that I and alot of men are bothered by...it's when women do it "behind your back". As in we can understand wanting variety and sexual urges...prolly far better than a women can know....but I won't tolerate a liar or thief in female OR male relationships.

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    Quote Originally Posted by DJ Maimed View Post
    I believe the disqualifier is being good "in someone elses bed"....
    In many ways, DJMaimed has managed to summarize a very complex question into the shortest clear minded summary I've ever read. Well done.

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    Does being good in bed disqualify a woman as wifey material?
    Um, no.
    So, I have had this conversation with quite a few guys, and a lot of them hold their girlfriends/wives to one standard, but the woman who was their most excellent lover to another. If a woman is especially sexually open, really (or should I say suspiciously?) good in bed, then she's good for a good time, but not for a wedding ring. The wife doesn't suck dick/balls, do any tricks in bed. No, she's just a good little wife that raises your kids while you screw Jezebel behind her back. Quite a few guys I know have conveyed this to me in one conversation or another.
    This is primarily a function of sexual insecurity and the need to be the uncontested and incomparable sexual zenith of the woman's life. We've all seen how that movie ends...

    Frankly, this is why only non-monogamous relationships interest me. Even in my embarrassingly awkward teen years, I viewed sexually adventurous or promiscuous girls as more attractive and appealing (unless they were colossally stupid about it) than more conservative girls--not that there's anything wrong with having that mindset, either. That's not changed as I approach 40. If anything, I've only embraced and encouraged that sexual openness in my partners.

    What use to be fairly high risk for disease and pregnancy can now be done with virtually no risk. It certainly makes recreational sex with multiple partners a lot less risky.
    Agreed. Some people don't seem to have realized that just yet.
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    I would disqualify a woman as wife material only if she was bad in bed, ugly as fuck, couldn't cook and was dumb as a stump. Or if she had a problem with the fact that I'm already married.
    If I was a single man and I found a woman who fucked so good in the bedroom that sparks shot out of her ass I would marry her in a fucking heartbeat provided we could carry on a conversation. There has to be more than just sex tho to hold my interest for more than one night.

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    I would think most decent guys would not have that mentality.

    I'll admit my boyfriend was surprised by how open I am, but then again, he was from a conservative area where giving head was considered kinky. Surprised, but he loved it. He always says he knew he wanted to marry me after the first night we hooked up, and I tied him to the bed and broke out the whip

    And like Yek, he LOVES that I can be classy and eloquent, holding my own in a nice dress at a cocktail party...and that he can bend me over outside over his car and go to town.

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    Quote Originally Posted by kandie_kitten View Post
    I would think most decent guys would not have that mentality.

    I'll admit my boyfriend was surprised by how open I am, but then again, he was from a conservative area where giving head was considered kinky. Surprised, but he loved it. He always says he knew he wanted to marry me after the first night we hooked up, and I tied him to the bed and broke out the whip

    And like Yek, he LOVES that I can be classy and eloquent, holding my own in a nice dress at a cocktail party...and that he can bend me over outside over his car and go to town.
    So THAT'S how ya do it?
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