
Originally Posted by
oodlesofnoodles
I worded it the way that I did because I don't want to rush it. If they're happy with dancing and cuddling, then I'm definitely happy with that. But these two in particular, if after some time they wanted to do more, and they wanted to help me out more, I think that I could, and at least could consider it. With them. (And to be honest, I've had sex with guys I liked a lot less, who had nothing to contribute to my life beside headache and heartache, so it would probably be a step up for me. lol)
Not all guys are the same. Don't give up on finding a relationship where love and affection is exchanged freely simply because you've had a few bad experiences, and the only guys you feel are currently treating you nicely are willing to pay for your affection. The guys who pay will eventually tire of you, or split when their wives find out - most men who frequent escorts ARE married. They're probably perfectly happy with their wives EMOTIONALLY but are craving sexual variety. Make them pay by the hour. Don't give them freebies because they act like they care about you. They don't. There's a saying that goes "I didn't pay the hooker for sex, I paid her to leave afterwards" Get it?
So Viola's suggestion, about being an escort... is maybe much closer to what I was thinking of. Except I don't want to do it with lots of dudes, just a few that I like.. That's probably very naive of me, lol. But I already operate this way at work. I've gotten very selective about who I'll sit down with and that means that I get customers who I enjoy more.
If you're smart, pretty, and a good businesswoman, you don't have to accept every client who asks. You can pick and choose. You can have your own screening process. Make them get tested for STDs. Make them pay up front. Charge as much as you want. If they can't pay - sorry! No loving. Speak to them on the phone before agreeing to a "date", and don't go if they're not polite. Make them go out for coffee with you first.
I know I have gone to customer's houses to do private shows before and it was exactly like doing dances in the club. So I know there are guys that do just want to have a pretty girl come over and dance for them or sit and chat, or go out to dinner.
There definitely is a market for this. But if they want more, charge accordingly!
I guess what my dilemma is right now... is since these guys are used to come see me at the club, what they are paying for is like... the chase, right? Because I never give it up. But then eventually if I did give it up, maybe they wouldn't have any interest in me any more, and I am interested in maintaining this longer-term relationship.
Talk to them about it. Ask them if they want more. Make it clear they have to pay to get it.
So then I think, maybe it's a bad idea to change things. I'm not getting any pressure from them to change things. I'm not totally sure I want to change things. But then again, I do get so tired of having to meet new guys over and over. I like to put my energy on people I already know.
Like I said, you can pick and choose if you want.
Anyhow I'm going out for coffee with one of the guys, and the other probably to dinner. Just to see if I even feel comfortable meeting them otc, cause who knows, I may not. I've gone out to coffee or dinner before and this usually has a beneficial result, so I'm not too worried about that.
also: if I did end up doing anything with these guys, I would keep them away from the club, and if I did go back to dancing, I wouldn't do it that way again. Its just that I happen to like these two guys and... I already know them.
Do whatever you want. The people who judge you and hate on you don't matter for anything. You only have to answer to yourself.
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